What’s the worst thing your in laws have done to you?

[Anonymous]

My MIL canceled our wedding. A couple days before she called the preacher and to this day I don’t know what she said to him. But he called us and said he wouldn’t perform the ceremony after speaking with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL canceled our wedding. A couple days before she called the preacher and to this day I don’t know what she said to him. But he called us and said he wouldn’t perform the ceremony after speaking with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my DH told them he was going to propose, my MILs reaction was “don’t you think that’s a little soon?”

We all laugh about it now. That’s the only time my in-laws have done or said anything even remotely questionable. My MIL is kind and respectful of boundaries to a fault, and I’m pretty sure she likes me now.

When my boyfriend of 5 years called my parents (who lived across the country so no face to face was possible) to ask for their permission to propose their response was "Well we really wanted her to live on her own for a while, but I guess it is ok." We have now been married for 18 years and have had more issues over the years with how my parents react to news. Things like when we told them I was pregnant with our second child they said "are you sure you want to do that?" They love our children but are just horrible with reactions. By the time we were expecting our 4th child we told them in writing and suggested they think about their reaction before they called us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my DH told them he was going to propose, my MILs reaction was “don’t you think that’s a little soon?”

We all laugh about it now. That’s the only time my in-laws have done or said anything even remotely questionable. My MIL is kind and respectful of boundaries to a fault, and I’m pretty sure she likes me now.

When my boyfriend of 5 years called my parents (who lived across the country so no face to face was possible) to ask for their permission to propose their response was "Well we really wanted her to live on her own for a while, but I guess it is ok." We have now been married for 18 years and have had more issues over the years with how my parents react to news. Things like when we told them I was pregnant with our second child they said "are you sure you want to do that?" They love our children but are just horrible with reactions. By the time we were expecting our 4th child we told them in writing and suggested they think about their reaction before they called us.

When my DH told MIL that he was going to propose she offered him to propose with the fake ring. She said I won’t know any better anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL canceled our wedding. A couple days before she called the preacher and to this day I don’t know what she said to him. But he called us and said he wouldn’t perform the ceremony after speaking with her.

You can't just leave this here! Did you get married and who officiated? Are you still married? What is your relationship with your MIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL canceled our wedding. A couple days before she called the preacher and to this day I don’t know what she said to him. But he called us and said he wouldn’t perform the ceremony after speaking with her.

You can't just leave this here! Did you get married and who officiated? Are you still married? What is your relationship with your MIL?

+1 You can't just drop this on us and leave us hanging!

[Anonymous]

They threw away my favorite old mug that was missing the handle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They threw away my favorite old mug that was missing the handle.

[Anonymous]

My 2nd pregnancy was high risk and I ended up on hospital bed rest. DH and I had a DD and this baby was a girl too. MIL came to visit after we’d just seen the doctor who broke down worst case scenarios for us and DH relayed them to MIL, that I could lose the baby, I could suffer a life threatening hemorrhage and an emergency hysterectomy might be necessary to save me if that happened. MIL stared in horror at DH and as if I were not in the room, gasped “Then you would never have a son.”

Yes, a hypothetical heir was the most important thing on her mind, not my life or that of her unborn granddaughter.

[Anonymous]

Has anyone said "giving birth to my husband" yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone said "giving birth to my husband" yet?

Hahahahahaha

[Anonymous]

When my son was in the NICU for a month and I was still recovering from HELLP, my MIL claimed that I was trying to keep her away from my son because she wasn't getting to see him. While we were preoccupied with whether or not our son would make it, she was making phone calls and emails to DH's family trashing me. The day I brought DS home from the NICU, she announced that I was too old to have any more children and that he would be my only (I was 35 ). She drove such a wedge between my husband and I, and between DH and the rest of his family, during the most fragile time in our lives. I will never forgive her. FIL got remarried to a woman who just might be the total opposite. Step-MIL is a true blessing.

[Anonymous]

When I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks she asked what I had done wrong to cause it. I never heard a word from her about the loss.

My MIL was caught out lying about me to my DH to cause an argument between DH and I. I finally figured out this was a regular thing of hers. If I did it fine but don't lie about me to cause drama.

I severely cut back the time I spent with MIL and now only see her a couple of times a year. DH can see her whenever he likes. I stopped all dinner invitations, holidays (that I had booked and paid for) and any other nice activities I had previously planned for her (going to the theatre etc).

Funny thing is on every holiday she came along she would make an effort to tell me how great her son was for doing this for her. DH would tell her in front of me that he did nothing that I had organised the whole holiday. She would wait for him to leave the room before telling me that she knew it was her son who had done it and she was so happy. Well now when she comments that she would like a holiday I just smile because I told DH he could organise those holidays - MIL is still waiting. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

I am wondering if the pregnancy/birth drama is caused by MILs who had awful pregnancy and birth experiences. My FIL was never present for their births (by his choice), so MIL has a real chip on her shoulder. I bet the other MILs might have the same thing going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am wondering if the pregnancy/birth drama is caused by MILs who had awful pregnancy and birth experiences. My FIL was never present for their births (by his choice), so MIL has a real chip on her shoulder. I bet the other MILs might have the same thing going on.

You're probably onto something. I know my MIL had a bad birth experience. But she's had almost 40 years to seek therapy and get over it. If birth and newborns give her PTSD that materializes as raging narcissism, she should have just graciously stayed in her Grendel-cave instead of coming to terrorize my house.