No one is implying you're defective for having an epidural. But to OP's point-the anesthesiologist, who presumably had a medically appropriate reason for denying the epidural, isn't defective either. |
NP. I was also prepared for an unmedicated birth. Then PROM happened, contractions didn't start on their own, and I was put on pitocin. Then the pitocin was cranked up because I wasn't dilating at all. So, yeah, after 12 hours of that particular torture (which, sorry, all my planning/hypnobirthing/natural childbirth classes didn't help), I took the epidural when my midwife suggested it. It's wrong to suggest that women who eventually need an epidural just weren't well prepared. Stuff happens. |
Same. Maxed out pitocin and back labor with a posterior baby. I also took a natural birth course and it was laughably unhelpful. It was epidural or csection, so I chose epidural. |
Can you please share some conditions that would make you refuse an epidural? Who would be a candidate for a no-epidural decision if you were making it? |
Also, what are the other options for pain relief? GA? |
Yes, when you talk about unmedicated birth being "what [women's bodies] were designed to do", it does imply that someone who can't birth a child without medical intervention is defective. In my case, an epidural allowed me to give birth without surgery... That said, I defended, above, the fact that an anesthesiologist has medically sound reasons for denying an epidural. For both of my pregnancies, a pregnancy-related immune response to my platelets created the possibility that I couldn't get an epidural...and in that case I would almost certainly have ended up in surgery. The point of my post was to simply shut down all of the "it's sexist to act like pregnancy and childbirth are medical events because women gave birth before modern medicine". My point is that women also died in childbirth, often, before modern medicine. And epidurals are one of the developments of modern medicine that, I believe, have contributed to lower rates of maternal mortality by enabling less risky and invasive interventions than c-sections. |
The incredibly high morbidity and mortality rates you're referencing had more to do with how medicine was practiced during the industrial age while more and more women started birthing at hospitals instead of at home and MWs were delegitimized. There is not a lot of data on birthing before the industrial age but what is available shows that mortality rates were not incredibly high. MWs did routinely and successfully deliver babies in cases that would automatically warrant a c/s today. Saying that women can not birth without medical intervention is one strategy for removing women's agency -- if it's a medical condition then obviously a doctor should be in charge and decide how everything should be done (in ways convenient to them). It's how we ended up with the horrors of twilight birthing ~80yrs ago. It's also how even today women are dictated to on how they are allowed to labor and birth. |
If I wanted medical pain relief and couldn't have an epidural, I would make sure I delivered at a hospital that provided nitrous and that it would be made available to me. I would also hire a doula to provide other pain relieve techniques such as positioning, massage, pressure, heat, ... I've also had fentanyl during labor but wouldn't chose to do that again or really recommend it. It gave me a chance to rest but it also made my loopy right as the Pitocin was kicking in and labor became really painful (it's just been long before that). I've had 2 with no medical pain management and had fentanyl and pit with my 3rd. I asked for an epidural but progressed too quickly after starting the Pitocin so never received more than a hole in my spine. |
I think the point is that no one is guaranteed to receive an effective epidural, so it's best to be as prepared as possible for that eventuality. |
Coming back around to the original post, remember that anesthesiologists make money by doing procedures like epidurals. It would be in their best financial interest to do as many of them as they can.
If they are not doing one, it is usually because they are in the middle of something that takes medical precedence, or they are a good doctor trying to put your best interests ahead of their own. |
This is a complete lie. Women frequently died from childbirth. Go and look at family trees going back to the 1600s in this country and you’ll see that men frequently had two wives. Why? Because their first wife often died in childbirth. |
Then they would give you a general anesthetic. |
You don't need an anesthesiologist for a vasectomy. |
Women don’t die from pain. They die from bleeding, postpartum infection, breech births, retained contents, etc. A woman’s “agency” does not override her medical condition/ the judgement of a trained professional. |
The strand of midwifery that fetishizes "natural" childbirth is unscientific, anti-feminist quackery. |