I'm sorry, what about her safeties? |
OP here - please let your DD know that it's not her, that this is a very common thing this year, according to my friend, who is an educational consultant. |
Thank you for this! Very valuable information! |
Yes, again, it appears to be the bagpiper who was admitted to the university that his class valedictorian was denied admission to. The example of the Chinese student not being admitted to Berkeley does not surprise me, though, as California is a large State that gives some admission priority to its state residents, of which there are many, many intelligent and highly-qualified student residents, including many of those who are Chinese. |
I am truly sorry, previous poster, that your daughter has been wait-listed at every school that she applied to. That is indeed a bitter pill to swallow, but now is the time to work with your school counselor to make the strong case to get her off those wait lists. Please do not give up hope yet! It appears that the OP is arguing a doom-and-gloom, the-sky-is-falling, it's-nearly-impossible-to-gain-college-admissions point of view. It is true, OP, that your argument is substantiated in some cases -- as by the previous poster's sad posting about her daughter's wait-listing -- but your argument is also contradicted in equal measures by other, positive-news postings on this and the other college results threads (including OP's original post about her child being admitted to three colleges, the bagpiper's admission to every college (!), and my own child's admission to two colleges). What contributes to the academic and college anxiety of students and parents alike, in my opinion, are threads like these which "authoritatively" and anecdotally state that it is nearly impossible for qualified students to be admitted to college today. That is not the case, be intelligent about the process, cast a very wide net, and be willing to look at many schools you might consider safeties. |
True. There are plenty of good colleges out there with intelligent professors willing to teach your students. The problem is people are too obsessed with rankings and all go after the same colleges. |
+ 1 Most refreshing post on this thread! |
I would agree with you had there not been a history of Asian discrimination at Berkeley. The Dept. of Ed. even investigated it as far back as '98. |
I am seeing that even as schools claim to be holistic in their decisions, they seem to be more and more driven by numbers. There are just too many applications and no other way to differentiate between kids with over inflated GPAs. Class rank means so much more than GPA and a 2100 SAT isn't a big deal anymore. |
OP here. I am not arguing gloom-and-doom by any means, evidenced by the fact that I stated up front that my kid DID get into three schools. Of course that was turned into I was demanding a 100% acceptance rate. Something I expect from DCUM, given the ego-centric nature of the DC area. My point was, is, and will be, that the applications process is fundamentally flawed on many levels. The rankings systems have contributed to racial quotas disguised as [pick name so it doesn't sound like racial quotas], as diversity drives a college up the chart. Kids have had to work at super-human levels in order to even feel like they have a chance at a space in the baby Ivies, never mind the Ivies, unless you can check a box, which has led to a number of mental-health problems, as well as lying on applications. In addition, some 10% of the spaces in these colleges are going to foreign students, because they bring in big bucks. Somewhere along the line, we have forgotten that these are our CHILDREN, i.e. they are all under 18. At what point do we, as parents, say this is ridiculous, and fight back, rather than push and push our kids into schedules that we ourselves would collapse under? I have brought up the subject with friends who are in pediatrics, as well as mental health. They see what I see - in spades. There will always be those that attack the messenger. Disagree? Fine. If you don't have anything constructive to say - positive or negative - might I suggest you don't? |
OP again - I think Ms. Weiss did a good job with this opinion article for the WSJ a couple of years ago. She sums up - from a student's point of view - what I am saying in a comical way:
To (All) the Colleges That Rejected Me If only I had a tiger mom or started a fake charity. http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324000704578390340064578654 |
And why the fuck are you assuming that the kids of color are being accepted only for their race and then can't hack it? And that they need extra support? You really think that these kids can't handle the course load and need hand holding simply because they're minorities? That there are no kids of color who are as smart and capable as the white kids who were admitted alongside them? What the fuck is wrong with you? |
My son got into just one college out of the seven where he applied. It is a great school especially for what he wishes to major and he got some financial assistance as well.
He got turned down by every other school or wait-listed. But within the scheme of things it really does not matter unless one is wanting to brag about the number of acceptances received. After all, he can only go to one school when the time comes. Keep a perspective people ......... for your own sake and, more importantly, for your children's self-esteem. WTF, are you trying to prove? |
So you found this thread too, did you? Good Lord, you are tiresome! Why am I assuming this? I'm not. It's been a problem in the past in universities and colleges. The problem isn't that they are minorities, the problem is some are admitted simply BECAUSE they are minorities, even if their grades and scores show they they should not be. There are also some minorities that are admitted because their grades and scores show they ARE up to the task and that's as it should be. When diversity is sought after just for diversity's sake, it is the individual that pays the price. If the problem is there is lack of qualified minorities, college is not the place to try and solve that. By then it's too late. You need to hit it hard at a much lower level. |
That the inmates are running the asylum and our kids are paying the price. |