Families would rather have daughters than sons

[Anonymous]

Agree, girls are the best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted boys. I subconsciously beloved that boys were just better, easier, and more desirable.

I was stressed about raising a girl in this anti-woman world. But it has been amazing and I’m so lucky to have her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women want a daughter unless they are part of a subculture or ethnicity that views males as superior.

That's not the reason. I wanted my kids to have an easy life. It's not easy to be a woman in US.

[Anonymous]

Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

I never did female focused activities and self care with my mother. Do you even have kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the perception is that girls are easier to manage behaviorally. Im not saying that it’s true, but that is what people think.

It’s is hard to broad brush a whole gender but this is the answer. People think girls will be calmer and easier. Depending on the family and cultural dynamics, mothers likely think girls will eventually help them with female dominated labor. Helping with cooking and cleaning, eventually elder care for grandparents. My close friend is going through this now. Her grandfather is living with her parents and needs a lot of help. She stops by every weekend to give her mother a break, her two brothers only really come around for holidays. In my own family it is the women that organize and cook every single holiday meal.

I know that this isn’t the case for every family, but I think this dynamic is common.

I don't know anyone my age (30s) who is interested in having girls so that they can do more labor or elder care? i personally wanted girls because I'm girly. I guess I dreamed of doing little girl hair, playing dolls again, and raising strong women. I didn't know anything about boys. I have 2 DD, 1 DS. I'm raising all 3 to know how to decorate for holidays and cook holiday meals. I don't believe in women doing more chores. My DH does 50% of the chores around here and is our main cook, so I don' think my kids will think that men shouldn't do work.

Totally agree, I’m raising my son the same way. But what is different is that my daughter really is more aware of what’s going on. She notices if someone is down or if one of us has been working a lot, any number of things. If she is like that when we are old, I will really appreciate it. With my son, he doesn’t notice what’s going on unless someone tells him very directly. We are working on it with him but it’s not his natural inclination. I guess these are my particular children so I can’t generalize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/416809/sexism-girl-preference-sex-ratios-discrimination-ivf

Interesting piece. Have seen this pop up now and then.

Speaking to younger families/couples anecdotally I find this to be true also.

Thoughts?

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

I never did female focused activities and self care with my mother. Do you even have kids?

We have two young boys. The boy moms all end up finding each other because it’s just simply insane. I don’t know one boy mom who isn’t frazzled.

Maybe it gets better when the boys are age 10+?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

I never did female focused activities and self care with my mother. Do you even have kids?

We have two young boys. The boy moms all end up finding each other because it’s just simply insane. I don’t know one boy mom who isn’t frazzled.

Maybe it gets better when the boys are age 10+?

I wouldn't assume things would be less frazzled with daughters. I think having two of the same sex is maybe easier than one of each, if they like the same activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

Why don't moms of boys have time? Why are they so much busier? Not all girls like to do all the girl things. Are you all just obsessed with pink and unicorns and glitter or what?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

I never did female focused activities and self care with my mother. Do you even have kids?

We have two young boys. The boy moms all end up finding each other because it’s just simply insane. I don’t know one boy mom who isn’t frazzled.

Maybe it gets better when the boys are age 10+?

I think these moms just don't want to hang out with you and tell you they're busy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wanted boys. I subconsciously beloved that boys were just better, easier, and more desirable.

I was stressed about raising a girl in this anti-woman world. But it has been amazing and I’m so lucky to have her.

Are we living in the same place and time?

--born in the mid 60s and find it's SO MUCH better now for women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

Seek help, you obviously need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think there is a perception that, once grown/married, a girl will typically remain closer to her family and a boy is more likely to be closer to his wife's family. I am not sure why that stereotype exists, but that is the perception. So I think some people prematurely grieve a future they think is less likely to exist if they have a boy.

There won't be enough men for these women to marry when they grow up. So no need to worry about grandkids in the future so many girl moms are envisioning. Just a daughter they hope will take care of them in old age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think there is a perception that, once grown/married, a girl will typically remain closer to her family and a boy is more likely to be closer to his wife's family. I am not sure why that stereotype exists, but that is the perception. So I think some people prematurely grieve a future they think is less likely to exist if they have a boy.

There won't be enough men for these women to marry when they grow up. So no need to worry about grandkids in the future so many girl moms are envisioning. Just a daughter they hope will take care of them in old age.

Why would anyone need to marry? Or have kids?

As for old age, if I become a problem, I intend to get it over with.