2E parent of a 2E child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. For those asking, the 2E parent is me. His father was an abusive alcoholic and we are divorced. They spend minimal time together. It would be more but dad (who is high functioning) is still drinking, every night after work. DC finds their time together stressful bc dad is volatile in the evenings.

Oh sweetie. People asking who’s the 2e parent are subtly shading you and saying that you’re not smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. For those asking, the 2E parent is me. His father was an abusive alcoholic and we are divorced. They spend minimal time together. It would be more but dad (who is high functioning) is still drinking, every night after work. DC finds their time together stressful bc dad is volatile in the evenings.

Oh sweetie. People asking who’s the 2e parent are subtly shading you and saying that you’re not smart.

No they are not, FFS. It's just that the situation OP is experiencing and the advice people would offer is different depending on which parent or both is ND.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. For those asking, the 2E parent is me. His father was an abusive alcoholic and we are divorced. They spend minimal time together. It would be more but dad (who is high functioning) is still drinking, every night after work. DC finds their time together stressful bc dad is volatile in the evenings.

Oh sweetie. People asking who’s the 2e parent are subtly shading you and saying that you’re not smart.

Don't be a jerk. This woman is in a crisis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. For those asking, the 2E parent is me. His father was an abusive alcoholic and we are divorced. They spend minimal time together. It would be more but dad (who is high functioning) is still drinking, every night after work. DC finds their time together stressful bc dad is volatile in the evenings.

Oh sweetie. People asking who’s the 2e parent are subtly shading you and saying that you’re not smart.

No, we’re wondering what the genetics are and where the other parent is.

Obviously the other parent, and half the genetics, has some real anger, abuse, and addiction issues at a minimum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to accept that he has a disability and it sounds like it's executive functioning. Can you afford to hire a a coach?

If you think he would do sleepaway camp, there are 2E camps and you would get a break.

This. Did he ever have an IEP or if not, could you get him one now for the new school year? Is he actually diagnosed with something a therapist could work with? Get the support in place then look for colleges that have programs/services for students with disabilities.

https://childmind.org/article/are-there-any-colleges-with-good-services-for-kids-with-adhd/

And try to break the “it’s never my fault” blame game. If he has an alarm clock that works, it’s HIS FAULT he’s late to school, for example. If he has folders to put his assignments in and he chooses not to use them, it’s HIS FAULT he’s late lost his work. Don’t let that shitty line of thinking further metastasize.