Please stop doing twin day for spirit week

[Anonymous]

Twin day is the worst! It's so obnoxious and seems designed for hurt feelings. There are so many other potential spirit week themes that aren't so exclusionary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The teacher should randomly pair kids. It will be more interesting and take some actual effort for the kids to work together successfully.

Holy crap. You must live a charmed life. I have NO bandwidth for spirit week and my kids get that. We are dealing with a long-term health crisis. There will be no matching shirts, or whatever. I’m sure the parents working two jobs feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

My middle school daughter just had twin day and loved it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP. I hated it when I was a teen, I hated it when my kids were in ES and I hate it now as a teacher. It’s only fun for the handful of friends that has a close friend and has enough clothes or money to twin with them. It’s literally designed to exclude people. Sure not everyone has cute pajamas or a wacky hat, but twin day is purposefully exclusive.

How hard can it be? Can’t they just both agree to wear black pants and a white top?

I wouldn't venture to say that most kids own black pants and a white top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teacher should randomly pair kids. It will be more interesting and take some actual effort for the kids to work together successfully.

Holy crap. You must live a charmed life. I have NO bandwidth for spirit week and my kids get that. We are dealing with a long-term health crisis. There will be no matching shirts, or whatever. I’m sure the parents working two jobs feel the same way.

What does working have to do with it.

[Anonymous]

My child's teacher suggested that they twin as a class. Everyone that wanted to could wear a black shirt to twin with her. I thought that was such a great and inclusive solution to twin day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Twin day is the worst! It's so obnoxious and seems designed for hurt feelings. There are so many other potential spirit week themes that aren't so exclusionary.

Twin day is a PTO mom thing. She was popular in school, her kid is popular in school, she WANTS to be exclusive, and she feeds this idea to the administration. I've seen it over and over again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was a twin for the first two years of her life until her sister died.

I hate the twin day - I already imagine what it would be like if she still had a living twin every day, and then the PTA emails me about it a million times.

So insensitive. Yes I asked them to stop. They declined.

Wow, that's heartless. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Twin day is the worst! It's so obnoxious and seems designed for hurt feelings. There are so many other potential spirit week themes that aren't so exclusionary.

Twin day is a PTO mom thing. She was popular in school, her kid is popular in school, she WANTS to be exclusive, and she feeds this idea to the administration. I've seen it over and over again.

At our schools the PTO mother’s kids weren’t popular. They were polite kids, never in trouble and quiet so were under the radar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are lots of things that are out of reach for kids in elementary, OP. Not just twin day. You should teach your children that not every event needs to be followed - it will be immensely more valuable than complaining that some events are too difficult to follow. Schools do not expect families to do it all.

We did pajama day, because the kids liked it, and it was low-effort for me. Since I'm a scientist and could help create projects, we participated in the science fairs. But that's it. There were so many events that we royally ignored!

This.
Wanting to cancel an event for everyone bc of your child 🙄

Yeah Never