Boyfriend lied to me about his politics

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Conservative man here. I've had many relationships where I never revealed my politics and just went along with her views. They never had a clue. It's a thing we do for sure but only with women who never ask and just assume which is nearly all of them.

Would you reveal it straight away if the woman revealed straight away that she’s conservative? I might be dating again soon and definitely looking for conservative men this time. It would prevent so many arguments.

Also, do you think most conservative men are religious these days? I’m not in a church and was hoping to find someone conservative but not religious. Not sure where to find those men though.

Much more common than not, for both men and women. Something like 60% of religious voters poll Democrat these days. Only about 35% of Republican voters are religious. Only about 10% of Independent or Libertarianish voters are religious.

These statements are meaningless/inconsistent/wrong.


Party correlation varies hugely by *which* religion and sect.

https://www.pewresearch.org/politics/2024/04/09/party-identification-among-religious-groups-and-religiously-unaffiliated-voters/

Pew lost all credibility a decade or more ago. Even the name is a running joke now. Pew!

Why do you say that? Disgruntled ex employee in the DMV?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

Have you ever noticed that liberals are far less forgiving and open minded than conservatives. Example...You're far less likely to see a liberal woman willing to date a conservative guy, but most conservatives would date a liberal. Sorry, but liberals are close minded, a bit radical...and kind of freaking crazy.

Conservative men will date anyone who gives them the time of day. Most women just… don’t. So they have to lie. No one wants to date someone who votes to take their rights away.

You should look up the paradox of tolerance. You seem to be missing a few brain cells to put these concepts together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

Have you ever noticed that liberals are far less forgiving and open minded than conservatives. Example...You're far less likely to see a liberal woman willing to date a conservative guy, but most conservatives would date a liberal. Sorry, but liberals are close minded, a bit radical...and kind of freaking crazy.

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[Anonymous]

I've noticed that some men in this area hide conservative views in their profiles because they don't receive as a result.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Conservative man here. I've had many relationships where I never revealed my politics and just went along with her views. They never had a clue. It's a thing we do for sure but only with women who never ask and just assume which is nearly all of them.

Would you reveal it straight away if the woman revealed straight away that she’s conservative? I might be dating again soon and definitely looking for conservative men this time. It would prevent so many arguments.

Also, do you think most conservative men are religious these days? I’m not in a church and was hoping to find someone conservative but not religious. Not sure where to find those men though.

He lied. That's a dealbreaker. Who knows what else he's lying about now or he will.

OP wants to be with someone who aligns with her values. Being anti woman and anti Jew is not good.

End it OP but be safe when you do.

[Anonymous]

He dodged a bullet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

These days I'm not sure if he's a leftist progressive or MAGA righty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He dodged a bullet!

No she did

He isn’t worth the air he breathes

And you are just dumb protective of pedos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

Have you ever noticed that liberals are far less forgiving and open minded than conservatives. Example...You're far less likely to see a liberal woman willing to date a conservative guy, but most conservatives would date a liberal. Sorry, but liberals are close minded, a bit radical...and kind of freaking crazy.

What self-respecting woman would date a conservative man? It’s not being close minded. It’s respecting yourself and your worth.

[Anonymous]

what is he doing dating a woman with a degree and a job then? Why doesn't he find a MAGA woman? Why do any conservative men go for nonconservative women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Conservative man here. I've had many relationships where I never revealed my politics and just went along with her views. They never had a clue. It's a thing we do for sure but only with women who never ask and just assume which is nearly all of them.

You must be old. The younger generation will find out if they want to know and they don't need to ask to do it. They also don't have any problem with flat out discussing political views.

What is the point of not revealing your politics when you're dating? Lying about politics and religion might get you a second date, but long-term it can only lead to a really uncomfortable relationship in which you feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells. It's going to come out eventually, why not just deal with it upfront. If he or she walks away because of it, then you both saved each other some time.

[Anonymous]

Never tell them you are MAGA until after you have unlocked the buttstuff achievement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

Have you ever noticed that liberals are far less forgiving and open minded than conservatives. Example...You're far less likely to see a liberal woman willing to date a conservative guy, but most conservatives would date a liberal. Sorry, but liberals are close minded, a bit radical...and kind of freaking crazy.

What self-respecting woman would date a conservative man? It’s not being close minded. It’s respecting yourself and your worth.

"I think all women should be subjugated and have none of their own rights while cooking, cleaning and sucking"
"Why won't women date meeeeeeee"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Conservative man here. I've had many relationships where I never revealed my politics and just went along with her views. They never had a clue. It's a thing we do for sure but only with women who never ask and just assume which is nearly all of them.

You must be old. The younger generation will find out if they want to know and they don't need to ask to do it. They also don't have any problem with flat out discussing political views.

What is the point of not revealing your politics when you're dating? Lying about politics and religion might get you a second date, but long-term it can only lead to a really uncomfortable relationship in which you feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells. It's going to come out eventually, why not just deal with it upfront. If he or she walks away because of it, then you both saved each other some time.

Men often lie about who they are and what they believe until they think they've got their partner "locked in". Then they let the mask slip, thinking there is no way she will leave.

Normalize leaving after the first red flag, not wandering miles through the red flag fields!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Conservative man here. I've had many relationships where I never revealed my politics and just went along with her views. They never had a clue. It's a thing we do for sure but only with women who never ask and just assume which is nearly all of them.

You must be old. The younger generation will find out if they want to know and they don't need to ask to do it. They also don't have any problem with flat out discussing political views.

What is the point of not revealing your politics when you're dating? Lying about politics and religion might get you a second date, but long-term it can only lead to a really uncomfortable relationship in which you feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells. It's going to come out eventually, why not just deal with it upfront. If he or she walks away because of it, then you both saved each other some time.

Men often lie about who they are and what they believe until they think they've got their partner "locked in". Then they let the mask slip, thinking there is no way she will leave.

Normalize leaving after the first red flag, not wandering miles through the red flag fields!

Agree with both. I don't understand people who don't have the political conversations or the uncomfortable conversation before getting serious.
And if you don't match move on