You’re buying a baby. The law makes you a parent. In this case, the transaction was fraudulent. Easy. IMO growing up in a mentally healthy and stable household is more important than growing up with blood siblings. |
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I couldn't stop reading this story. This is definitely a case where morals, ethics and the law collide to wreak total havoc.
There is no doubt that Mary Beth has an addiction of sorts to mothering infants. One could say it is inherently selfish because this unilateral decision-making adversely impacts all of the people in her life--her adult children, other young children, her husband, her grandchildren and now the lawyers, the foster family and youngest babies. Ethically, one could question having babies you likely won't be able to parent to adulthood. Her decision to get pregnant despite the high risk of uterine rupture that would have potentially left her first 10 children without a mother. And then the lengths she went to (emotionally, financially, criminally) in order to have the last set of twins really demonstrates that this is a compulsion and not healthy for anyone involved. And now she has created a situation that is downright tragic for everyone. No matter who "wins", everyone has been hurt. I do not envy the judge in this case and wish the best for those babies. |
Yes, and that's unethical too. |
sure, Jan.
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PP with the great-grandmother who had 16 births. I think it scarred her children too. Of the nine who lived to adulthood, only three had children; one son had one child, one daughter had one and my grandmother had two. It's strange and I've wondered if it was because of the experience of growing up with all these pregnancies as well as sibling deaths of several. |
But legally, it does. The law on IVF and surrogacy is clear. She commit fraud, yes. And she’s facing criminal charges for that. However, there has been no investigation into whether or not her other minor children should also be taken, so the courts really have no leg to stand on. |
She committed fraud with the original transaction that created these two babies which colors everything after that. If you fraudulently acquired a building permit, that doesn’t mean the structure you built gets to stay. |
These are HUMAN BEINGS, not a structure. We don't take children away if their mom lied about being on the pill. |
Except the babies have not been with her for two years. I have a 18 month old and it would be tragic for her to be taken from me at this point esp to a more unstable household (per her own children!). The dad doesn’t even want them. If the foster parents can give them a better life that’s all that matters at this point. |
That isn't all that matters. These are her children. She is the mother to their siblings. The state doesn't get to steal children from their parents and then because of the inevitable passage of time, claim that its horrific mistake does not matter because the children would be happier with the foster parents. |
This woman has serious mental health issues and is an unfit parent. Better for the kids to remain in a loving stable foster home. |
The law in NY state is the woman who gives birth is the legal parent until she relinquishes her rights and the court gives the baby to the couple. The court did, but rescinded it because it was obtained by fraud. The surrogate didn't want the kid, so it became a ward of the state. And this is why it sho be illegal to create a kid for hire. Same result occurs if the presumptive parents die in an accident, or change their minds. |
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Everyone in this story sucks except the kids.
Mary Beth, the husband, the doctors, the fertility clinic, the attorney, the surrogate who agreed to it, the relative who notarized the forged signature, none of them would say NO. I get why the original judge wanted to see consequences of the actions but he sucked too. |
The foster family belongs on this list |
There is ample evidence she is an unfit parent. The entire article is evidence of it. She parentified her oldest children and treated her youngest ones as hobbies. She is continuing to prove herself unfit by fighting the foster parents for custody and making plans to change the names of TWO YEAR OLDS. She is utterly depraved. |