Dating must-haves, wish lists and dealbreakers

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, divorced, 2 kids. I’ve found the older I get, the longer my list of requirements gets.

At this point in my life I basically expect princess treatment:

- He must plan and pay for dates
- He must make my life easier. For example, if I’m having a rough day with the kids, he should DoorDash us food.
- Must be a gentleman: open doors for me, pick me up, look nice for me.
- Salary is less important since I’m not looking to get married anytime soon, and won’t have anymore kids, but I expect him to make enough to pay for dates and trips.
- Must be attractive.
- Must be interesting. I’m not going to have anything in common with a middle manager who plays video games in his spare time.
- Absolutely no socially awkward men. I need someone I can bring around friends and to work functions.

Basically, a man must make my life significantly better and easier.

Marriage is a whole other thing, but he would have to be extremely rich and no kids. The only real benefit of marriage for me at this point is if it leads to large amounts of wealth for myself and my kids.

I'm not trying to be unkind but what are you offering other than aging body, someone else's kids, hunger for wealth, attitude and expectations?

For a lot of men, I don't have much to offer them. I don't want to cook for them, clean up after them, or have their kids, and a huge number of men aren't interested in me (I literally once had a man reject me because I told him I would not make him a sandwich). Which is fine, I am not interested in men who want a mommy.

The men who *are* attracted to me generally say this about me:

- They've found most women have little ambition, and the majority just want to be SAHMs, which is very unattractive to them (I am highly ambitious and make more than most women and men)
- I'm one of the few women they've met who can hold a conversation, especially at social events, and not embarrass them.
- I love to travel and because of my flexible work schedule, I can go on trips with them
- I actually don't like standard dates (dinner/drinks) and would rather do something fun like going to a State Fair and risking our lives on the carnival rides.
- I like sex, a LOT.

Like I said, I'm not a good match for standard men who are looking for a replacement mom. But there are enough men out there who fit my list of requirements and who are interested that I don't stay single for very long. But even if there weren't, I don't care. Being single is infinitely better than being with a man who makes life harder, which most do.

So you're pretty standard with a high sex drive. Of course many men are going to be interested, considering that you're not looking for anything serious. BTW, most women can hold a conversation. But, of course, like most on DCUM, you have an inflated sense of yourself.

I’m just repeating what I’ve been told.

Weird that people are so triggered by a woman with kids who has standards and *gasp* actually finds men who meet them. Sounds like my perception of my self-worth is accurate - I don’t have any trouble finding men who fit my requirements.

Babes, you give them sex have minimal expectations of them and accept cheap dates. It's not a mystery.

Gotta re-read the list, bc it's definitely not minimal expectations or cheap dates. We travel at least twice a month on his dime and he gets dinner for me (and often my kids) 3-4x a week.

Tho it's very funny things flipped from "you have delusions of grandeur" to "you have minimal expectations". DCUM, make up your mind.

You are looking for a sugar daddy. You give them sex and they give you money and trips and buy you things. Women looking to men to pay for things for them is as old as men wanting women to look purty for them - you are a traditional gender role, need a man to look afte me and take care of me dependent woman - and in return you have sex with them. You get your daddy and his money and they get sex. You are just stuck in the 50s.

You said “purty.” Hilarious..

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, divorced, 2 kids. I’ve found the older I get, the longer my list of requirements gets.

At this point in my life I basically expect princess treatment:

- He must plan and pay for dates
- He must make my life easier. For example, if I’m having a rough day with the kids, he should DoorDash us food.
- Must be a gentleman: open doors for me, pick me up, look nice for me.
- Salary is less important since I’m not looking to get married anytime soon, and won’t have anymore kids, but I expect him to make enough to pay for dates and trips.
- Must be attractive.
- Must be interesting. I’m not going to have anything in common with a middle manager who plays video games in his spare time.
- Absolutely no socially awkward men. I need someone I can bring around friends and to work functions.

Basically, a man must make my life significantly better and easier.

Marriage is a whole other thing, but he would have to be extremely rich and no kids. The only real benefit of marriage for me at this point is if it leads to large amounts of wealth for myself and my kids.

I'm not trying to be unkind but what are you offering other than aging body, someone else's kids, hunger for wealth, attitude and expectations?

For a lot of men, I don't have much to offer them. I don't want to cook for them, clean up after them, or have their kids, and a huge number of men aren't interested in me (I literally once had a man reject me because I told him I would not make him a sandwich). Which is fine, I am not interested in men who want a mommy.

The men who *are* attracted to me generally say this about me:

- They've found most women have little ambition, and the majority just want to be SAHMs, which is very unattractive to them (I am highly ambitious and make more than most women and men)
- I'm one of the few women they've met who can hold a conversation, especially at social events, and not embarrass them.
- I love to travel and because of my flexible work schedule, I can go on trips with them
- I actually don't like standard dates (dinner/drinks) and would rather do something fun like going to a State Fair and risking our lives on the carnival rides.
- I like sex, a LOT.

Like I said, I'm not a good match for standard men who are looking for a replacement mom. But there are enough men out there who fit my list of requirements and who are interested that I don't stay single for very long. But even if there weren't, I don't care. Being single is infinitely better than being with a man who makes life harder, which most do.

So you're pretty standard with a high sex drive. Of course many men are going to be interested, considering that you're not looking for anything serious. BTW, most women can hold a conversation. But, of course, like most on DCUM, you have an inflated sense of yourself.

I’m just repeating what I’ve been told.

Weird that people are so triggered by a woman with kids who has standards and *gasp* actually finds men who meet them. Sounds like my perception of my self-worth is accurate - I don’t have any trouble finding men who fit my requirements.

Babes, you give them sex have minimal expectations of them and accept cheap dates. It's not a mystery.

Gotta re-read the list, bc it's definitely not minimal expectations or cheap dates. We travel at least twice a month on his dime and he gets dinner for me (and often my kids) 3-4x a week.

Tho it's very funny things flipped from "you have delusions of grandeur" to "you have minimal expectations". DCUM, make up your mind.

You are looking for a sugar daddy. You give them sex and they give you money and trips and buy you things. Women looking to men to pay for things for them is as old as men wanting women to look purty for them - you are a traditional gender role, need a man to look afte me and take care of me dependent woman - and in return you have sex with them. You get your daddy and his money and they get sex. You are just stuck in the 50s.

Lol. Again, people keep shifting the narrative. First I was too delusional and no man would ever tolerate me, then it was I have low expectations and go on cheap dates, now it's I have sex in exchange for lavish gifts and trips.

Like I said originally. If I'm going to spend my time and effort on a man, he needs to make my life better and easier. The vast majority of men make women's lives harder and worse. I'm not going to lower my standards and deal with some dusty guy who can't even plan a proper date.

I think that people were saying that you are delusional if you think a quality man is going to want to be with you, but that some losers will no doubt by some Doordash dinners for you and the kids to sleep with you. It's a pretty ugly picture you're painting.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, divorced, 2 kids. I’ve found the older I get, the longer my list of requirements gets.

At this point in my life I basically expect princess treatment:

- He must plan and pay for dates
- He must make my life easier. For example, if I’m having a rough day with the kids, he should DoorDash us food.
- Must be a gentleman: open doors for me, pick me up, look nice for me.
- Salary is less important since I’m not looking to get married anytime soon, and won’t have anymore kids, but I expect him to make enough to pay for dates and trips.
- Must be attractive.
- Must be interesting. I’m not going to have anything in common with a middle manager who plays video games in his spare time.
- Absolutely no socially awkward men. I need someone I can bring around friends and to work functions.

Basically, a man must make my life significantly better and easier.

Marriage is a whole other thing, but he would have to be extremely rich and no kids. The only real benefit of marriage for me at this point is if it leads to large amounts of wealth for myself and my kids.

I'm not trying to be unkind but what are you offering other than aging body, someone else's kids, hunger for wealth, attitude and expectations?

For a lot of men, I don't have much to offer them. I don't want to cook for them, clean up after them, or have their kids, and a huge number of men aren't interested in me (I literally once had a man reject me because I told him I would not make him a sandwich). Which is fine, I am not interested in men who want a mommy.

The men who *are* attracted to me generally say this about me:

- They've found most women have little ambition, and the majority just want to be SAHMs, which is very unattractive to them (I am highly ambitious and make more than most women and men)
- I'm one of the few women they've met who can hold a conversation, especially at social events, and not embarrass them.
- I love to travel and because of my flexible work schedule, I can go on trips with them
- I actually don't like standard dates (dinner/drinks) and would rather do something fun like going to a State Fair and risking our lives on the carnival rides.
- I like sex, a LOT.

Like I said, I'm not a good match for standard men who are looking for a replacement mom. But there are enough men out there who fit my list of requirements and who are interested that I don't stay single for very long. But even if there weren't, I don't care. Being single is infinitely better than being with a man who makes life harder, which most do.

So you're pretty standard with a high sex drive. Of course many men are going to be interested, considering that you're not looking for anything serious. BTW, most women can hold a conversation. But, of course, like most on DCUM, you have an inflated sense of yourself.

I’m just repeating what I’ve been told.

Weird that people are so triggered by a woman with kids who has standards and *gasp* actually finds men who meet them. Sounds like my perception of my self-worth is accurate - I don’t have any trouble finding men who fit my requirements.

Babes, you give them sex have minimal expectations of them and accept cheap dates. It's not a mystery.

Gotta re-read the list, bc it's definitely not minimal expectations or cheap dates. We travel at least twice a month on his dime and he gets dinner for me (and often my kids) 3-4x a week.

Tho it's very funny things flipped from "you have delusions of grandeur" to "you have minimal expectations". DCUM, make up your mind.

You are looking for a sugar daddy. You give them sex and they give you money and trips and buy you things. Women looking to men to pay for things for them is as old as men wanting women to look purty for them - you are a traditional gender role, need a man to look afte me and take care of me dependent woman - and in return you have sex with them. You get your daddy and his money and they get sex. You are just stuck in the 50s.

Lol. Again, people keep shifting the narrative. First I was too delusional and no man would ever tolerate me, then it was I have low expectations and go on cheap dates, now it's I have sex in exchange for lavish gifts and trips.

Like I said originally. If I'm going to spend my time and effort on a man, he needs to make my life better and easier. The vast majority of men make women's lives harder and worse. I'm not going to lower my standards and deal with some dusty guy who can't even plan a proper date.

I think that people were saying that you are delusional if you think a quality man is going to want to be with you, but that some losers will no doubt by some Doordash dinners for you and the kids to sleep with you. It's a pretty ugly picture you're painting.

Having a man call me uber to Doordash would be SO embarrassing! As if I'm a child not capable to use my apps or really poor. I order Doordash for my college aged son.
I have very high standards to dates though. Men need to organize them, as well as participate and pay for joint travel

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, divorced, 2 kids. I’ve found the older I get, the longer my list of requirements gets.

At this point in my life I basically expect princess treatment:

- He must plan and pay for dates
- He must make my life easier. For example, if I’m having a rough day with the kids, he should DoorDash us food.
- Must be a gentleman: open doors for me, pick me up, look nice for me.
- Salary is less important since I’m not looking to get married anytime soon, and won’t have anymore kids, but I expect him to make enough to pay for dates and trips.
- Must be attractive.
- Must be interesting. I’m not going to have anything in common with a middle manager who plays video games in his spare time.
- Absolutely no socially awkward men. I need someone I can bring around friends and to work functions.

Basically, a man must make my life significantly better and easier.

Marriage is a whole other thing, but he would have to be extremely rich and no kids. The only real benefit of marriage for me at this point is if it leads to large amounts of wealth for myself and my kids.

I'm not trying to be unkind but what are you offering other than aging body, someone else's kids, hunger for wealth, attitude and expectations?

For a lot of men, I don't have much to offer them. I don't want to cook for them, clean up after them, or have their kids, and a huge number of men aren't interested in me (I literally once had a man reject me because I told him I would not make him a sandwich). Which is fine, I am not interested in men who want a mommy.

The men who *are* attracted to me generally say this about me:

- They've found most women have little ambition, and the majority just want to be SAHMs, which is very unattractive to them (I am highly ambitious and make more than most women and men)
- I'm one of the few women they've met who can hold a conversation, especially at social events, and not embarrass them.
- I love to travel and because of my flexible work schedule, I can go on trips with them
- I actually don't like standard dates (dinner/drinks) and would rather do something fun like going to a State Fair and risking our lives on the carnival rides.
- I like sex, a LOT.

Like I said, I'm not a good match for standard men who are looking for a replacement mom. But there are enough men out there who fit my list of requirements and who are interested that I don't stay single for very long. But even if there weren't, I don't care. Being single is infinitely better than being with a man who makes life harder, which most do.

So you're pretty standard with a high sex drive. Of course many men are going to be interested, considering that you're not looking for anything serious. BTW, most women can hold a conversation. But, of course, like most on DCUM, you have an inflated sense of yourself.

I’m just repeating what I’ve been told.

Weird that people are so triggered by a woman with kids who has standards and *gasp* actually finds men who meet them. Sounds like my perception of my self-worth is accurate - I don’t have any trouble finding men who fit my requirements.

Babes, you give them sex have minimal expectations of them and accept cheap dates. It's not a mystery.

Gotta re-read the list, bc it's definitely not minimal expectations or cheap dates. We travel at least twice a month on his dime and he gets dinner for me (and often my kids) 3-4x a week.

Tho it's very funny things flipped from "you have delusions of grandeur" to "you have minimal expectations". DCUM, make up your mind.

You are looking for a sugar daddy. You give them sex and they give you money and trips and buy you things. Women looking to men to pay for things for them is as old as men wanting women to look purty for them - you are a traditional gender role, need a man to look afte me and take care of me dependent woman - and in return you have sex with them. You get your daddy and his money and they get sex. You are just stuck in the 50s.

It goes back lot further than the 1950s and it’s an evolutionary trait that women seek men with resources who will share them; even women who have plenty of their resources of their own generally prefer a partner who is similarly or better resourced. It’s just evolution. There may be some exceptions, but fir the most part, it is how we are designed as a species.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, divorced, 2 kids. I’ve found the older I get, the longer my list of requirements gets.

At this point in my life I basically expect princess treatment:

- He must plan and pay for dates
- He must make my life easier. For example, if I’m having a rough day with the kids, he should DoorDash us food.
- Must be a gentleman: open doors for me, pick me up, look nice for me.
- Salary is less important since I’m not looking to get married anytime soon, and won’t have anymore kids, but I expect him to make enough to pay for dates and trips.
- Must be attractive.
- Must be interesting. I’m not going to have anything in common with a middle manager who plays video games in his spare time.
- Absolutely no socially awkward men. I need someone I can bring around friends and to work functions.

Basically, a man must make my life significantly better and easier.

Marriage is a whole other thing, but he would have to be extremely rich and no kids. The only real benefit of marriage for me at this point is if it leads to large amounts of wealth for myself and my kids.

I'm not trying to be unkind but what are you offering other than aging body, someone else's kids, hunger for wealth, attitude and expectations?

For a lot of men, I don't have much to offer them. I don't want to cook for them, clean up after them, or have their kids, and a huge number of men aren't interested in me (I literally once had a man reject me because I told him I would not make him a sandwich). Which is fine, I am not interested in men who want a mommy.

The men who *are* attracted to me generally say this about me:

- They've found most women have little ambition, and the majority just want to be SAHMs, which is very unattractive to them (I am highly ambitious and make more than most women and men)
- I'm one of the few women they've met who can hold a conversation, especially at social events, and not embarrass them.
- I love to travel and because of my flexible work schedule, I can go on trips with them
- I actually don't like standard dates (dinner/drinks) and would rather do something fun like going to a State Fair and risking our lives on the carnival rides.
- I like sex, a LOT.

Like I said, I'm not a good match for standard men who are looking for a replacement mom. But there are enough men out there who fit my list of requirements and who are interested that I don't stay single for very long. But even if there weren't, I don't care. Being single is infinitely better than being with a man who makes life harder, which most do.

So you're pretty standard with a high sex drive. Of course many men are going to be interested, considering that you're not looking for anything serious. BTW, most women can hold a conversation. But, of course, like most on DCUM, you have an inflated sense of yourself.

I’m just repeating what I’ve been told.

Weird that people are so triggered by a woman with kids who has standards and *gasp* actually finds men who meet them. Sounds like my perception of my self-worth is accurate - I don’t have any trouble finding men who fit my requirements.

Babes, you give them sex have minimal expectations of them and accept cheap dates. It's not a mystery.

Gotta re-read the list, bc it's definitely not minimal expectations or cheap dates. We travel at least twice a month on his dime and he gets dinner for me (and often my kids) 3-4x a week.

Tho it's very funny things flipped from "you have delusions of grandeur" to "you have minimal expectations". DCUM, make up your mind.

You are looking for a sugar daddy. You give them sex and they give you money and trips and buy you things. Women looking to men to pay for things for them is as old as men wanting women to look purty for them - you are a traditional gender role, need a man to look afte me and take care of me dependent woman - and in return you have sex with them. You get your daddy and his money and they get sex. You are just stuck in the 50s.

Lol. Again, people keep shifting the narrative. First I was too delusional and no man would ever tolerate me, then it was I have low expectations and go on cheap dates, now it's I have sex in exchange for lavish gifts and trips.

Like I said originally. If I'm going to spend my time and effort on a man, he needs to make my life better and easier. The vast majority of men make women's lives harder and worse. I'm not going to lower my standards and deal with some dusty guy who can't even plan a proper date.

I think that people were saying that you are delusional if you think a quality man is going to want to be with you, but that some losers will no doubt by some Doordash dinners for you and the kids to sleep with you. It's a pretty ugly picture you're painting.

Having a man call me uber to Doordash would be SO embarrassing! As if I'm a child not capable to use my apps or really poor. I order Doordash for my college aged son.
I have very high standards to dates though. Men need to organize them, as well as participate and pay for joint travel

Idk. It seems pretty thoughtful of someone to do that. She was sick.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, divorced, 2 kids. I’ve found the older I get, the longer my list of requirements gets.

At this point in my life I basically expect princess treatment:

- He must plan and pay for dates
- He must make my life easier. For example, if I’m having a rough day with the kids, he should DoorDash us food.
- Must be a gentleman: open doors for me, pick me up, look nice for me.
- Salary is less important since I’m not looking to get married anytime soon, and won’t have anymore kids, but I expect him to make enough to pay for dates and trips.
- Must be attractive.
- Must be interesting. I’m not going to have anything in common with a middle manager who plays video games in his spare time.
- Absolutely no socially awkward men. I need someone I can bring around friends and to work functions.

Basically, a man must make my life significantly better and easier.

Marriage is a whole other thing, but he would have to be extremely rich and no kids. The only real benefit of marriage for me at this point is if it leads to large amounts of wealth for myself and my kids.

I'm not trying to be unkind but what are you offering other than aging body, someone else's kids, hunger for wealth, attitude and expectations?

For a lot of men, I don't have much to offer them. I don't want to cook for them, clean up after them, or have their kids, and a huge number of men aren't interested in me (I literally once had a man reject me because I told him I would not make him a sandwich). Which is fine, I am not interested in men who want a mommy.

The men who *are* attracted to me generally say this about me:

- They've found most women have little ambition, and the majority just want to be SAHMs, which is very unattractive to them (I am highly ambitious and make more than most women and men)
- I'm one of the few women they've met who can hold a conversation, especially at social events, and not embarrass them.
- I love to travel and because of my flexible work schedule, I can go on trips with them
- I actually don't like standard dates (dinner/drinks) and would rather do something fun like going to a State Fair and risking our lives on the carnival rides.
- I like sex, a LOT.

Like I said, I'm not a good match for standard men who are looking for a replacement mom. But there are enough men out there who fit my list of requirements and who are interested that I don't stay single for very long. But even if there weren't, I don't care. Being single is infinitely better than being with a man who makes life harder, which most do.

So you're pretty standard with a high sex drive. Of course many men are going to be interested, considering that you're not looking for anything serious. BTW, most women can hold a conversation. But, of course, like most on DCUM, you have an inflated sense of yourself.

I’m just repeating what I’ve been told.

Weird that people are so triggered by a woman with kids who has standards and *gasp* actually finds men who meet them. Sounds like my perception of my self-worth is accurate - I don’t have any trouble finding men who fit my requirements.

Babes, you give them sex have minimal expectations of them and accept cheap dates. It's not a mystery.

Gotta re-read the list, bc it's definitely not minimal expectations or cheap dates. We travel at least twice a month on his dime and he gets dinner for me (and often my kids) 3-4x a week.

Tho it's very funny things flipped from "you have delusions of grandeur" to "you have minimal expectations". DCUM, make up your mind.

You are looking for a sugar daddy. You give them sex and they give you money and trips and buy you things. Women looking to men to pay for things for them is as old as men wanting women to look purty for them - you are a traditional gender role, need a man to look afte me and take care of me dependent woman - and in return you have sex with them. You get your daddy and his money and they get sex. You are just stuck in the 50s.

Lol. Again, people keep shifting the narrative. First I was too delusional and no man would ever tolerate me, then it was I have low expectations and go on cheap dates, now it's I have sex in exchange for lavish gifts and trips.

Like I said originally. If I'm going to spend my time and effort on a man, he needs to make my life better and easier. The vast majority of men make women's lives harder and worse. I'm not going to lower my standards and deal with some dusty guy who can't even plan a proper date.

I think that people were saying that you are delusional if you think a quality man is going to want to be with you, but that some losers will no doubt by some Doordash dinners for you and the kids to sleep with you. It's a pretty ugly picture you're painting.

Eh. I guess if your definition of "quality" is a man who doesn't do very much. All the men I date are in shape, attractive, make 6+ figures, fun to be around, good in bed, and treat me well.

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It’s been almost 28 years since DH and I had our first date at the end of our freshman year in college. At the time I just wanted someone I enjoyed being around, found interesting, enjoyed sex with. It just kept being very easy. The one criteria I remember was that I didn’t want to get serious with anyone who could never envision being a father.

I don’t think I realized at the time; but there were subconscious criteria. I’d seen him in the college improv group and in the early days of dating really enjoyed his quick humor and word play - it continues to be something I laugh at often, but I had no idea at the time how important humor was to me. Also, obviously we had picked the same college and there were certain things (valuing education, choosing a rural environment…) that this meant by default.

Over time, I really appreciated how we resolved problems together and address frustrations. Communication would be necessary for me now, but I didn’t know that then.

I also, over time, have come to really value how much he helps me see perspective and calm down when I’m spiraling. But I don’t know how one would know that while dating.

Where we sometimes discuss that we picked poorly is that a lot of our strengths and weaknesses overlap - sometimes it would be nice to divide responsibilities in a “you like doing this and I like doing that” sort of way. But that only became clear when we had kids.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of you sound like crazy old trolls. Why are you so upset about the 40 year old who has her pick of guys? Why isn't she allowed to have standards or preferences?

You are surprised people are reacting to a post written to generate maximum engagement?

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Dating or relationship/marriage material?

For marriage the 6666 is the ideal.

For dating and fun 6068+ will do.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of you sound like crazy old trolls. Why are you so upset about the 40 year old who has her pick of guys? Why isn't she allowed to have standards or preferences?

Men get triggered by that.

If a woman has standards, she's damaged goods, delusional, and should accept whatever crumbs are thrown her way.

But if a woman doesn't have standards, any relationship problems are her fault because "you picked him!".

If a woman has kids, she shouldn't date.

But we have the male loneliness epidemic because women aren't dating.

What's really going on is cognitive dissonance. These men aren't being picked by women. They can't admit that *they're* the men people say "well you picked him!" about, and rather than rising to meet the standard, they expect women to lower their own standards. But in their own minds, they're good guys, despite them not really doing much with their lives or having any sort of emotional maturity.

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6.2/10.

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Anonymous wrote:6.2/10.

6’2”/10”? That’s oddly specific.

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"A lot of you sound like crazy old trolls. Why are you so upset about the 40 year old who has her pick of guys? Why isn't she allowed to have standards or preferences?"

+100

I really don't get why anyone has a problem with what she's written about her approach to dating. She's taking care of her own kids financially. She's financially independent and not hunting for a rescuer. She is clever and engaging enough that men can comfortably bring her around their colleagues and clients. Let's face it - most SAHMs are not the sort of people you could do that with, and a certain type of man values that. It's a very attractive quality to women too. My partner was someone I took to a client's annual party at her Annapolis waterfront estate within the first month of dating him. I loved that I knew he'd show up wearing the right thing, with the right bottle of wine for the hostess, and that he charmed all the people I wanted to impress.

And why should she, or anybody, remarry anyone who can't substantially improve her current situation? She doesn't NEED a man. She's only going to put up with the downsides of marriage if the good stuff outweighs them. Makes sense to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*and education. You don't want to gamble on someone who didn't have the grit to finish a basic undergrad degree.

grit? It takes more grit to skip college, start your own business which I did and been in business 35 years. Your way of thinking is very old school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"A lot of you sound like crazy old trolls. Why are you so upset about the 40 year old who has her pick of guys? Why isn't she allowed to have standards or preferences?"

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I really don't get why anyone has a problem with what she's written about her approach to dating. She's taking care of her own kids financially. She's financially independent and not hunting for a rescuer. She is clever and engaging enough that men can comfortably bring her around their colleagues and clients. Let's face it - most SAHMs are not the sort of people you could do that with, and a certain type of man values that. It's a very attractive quality to women too. My partner was someone I took to a client's annual party at her Annapolis waterfront estate within the first month of dating him. I loved that I knew he'd show up wearing the right thing, with the right bottle of wine for the hostess, and that he charmed all the people I wanted to impress.

And why should she, or anybody, remarry anyone who can't substantially improve her current situation? She doesn't NEED a man. She's only going to put up with the downsides of marriage if the good stuff outweighs them. Makes sense to me.

I guess you missed the part where PP said was a SAHM. And she of course she doesn’t look down on other women, while repeating the condescending things the men she chooses to associate with said about other women.