Where are the best places to approach women in public?

[Anonymous]

I’ve met guys everywhere. The train, the store, on a walk, in traffic, at restaurants … (this is over the course of years; it’s not daily but it’s not unusual). I’m not particularly beautiful but truly beautiful is probably intimidating. I would say I’m interested maybe 5% of the time but I am nice when I reject them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pls don’t approach married women.

How would you know?

People don't always wave their ring fingers around. And some married women don't wear rings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stairwells in parking garages

Or sidewalks at night after following them for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I second the "please do!" as long as it's not creepy. Places as are vast as "public" - the gym, the grocery store, the metro, on a walk. Just strike up a neutral conversation.

But there has to be other people around. Not a public place like a hiking trail where she's isolated. A man approaching a woman in an isolated setting is already red flagged as having poor judgment.

Yes. Lots of people around and well lit.

[Anonymous]

The park. So many men approach there but it feels natural bc we're both just enjoying -- of course you have to read ppl but it's a great, no pressure place imo. Men have approached me while reading, exercising, etc

[Anonymous]

Wherever you are, make sure to approach w/a specific purpose.

For instance, if in a book store you could inquire for a recommendation on a book from a specific genre.
In other words, do not approach a woman & start flirting w/her shamelessly.
Keep it simple, casual + brief.

See how she reacts to you and if she does not seem very interested to not persist.
Never be that creepy annoying guy.

Ideas of places could be anywhere…..or at least almost.

Stores, parks even gas stations.
Basically any public place would be feasible!

Wishing you all the best!!

[Anonymous]

Lately I've been going to some political and business networking functions. I can't believe how many women have approached me. I'm a 50 something single man and these are middle aged women, some older than 60. They haven't asked me on romantic dates but they've asked me for coffee. What they do and say feels a little ambiguous. I guess that's what people mean when they say they like to meet partners organically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

That's strange just walked up to you and asked to sit together? Odd.

Best thing that ever happened to me. He struck up a convo and then when the train got there he asked what stop i was heading to and if I wanted to sit together/continue the convo.

This is charming, good for him!

I am generally in the "please don't" camp but this is a kind and safe way to engage with somebody. It gives them several "outs" plus you can go to a different car if the answer is no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A place where there are lots of other people around. Women never know if a man approaching them is a creepy weirdo or is trying to sell them something.

Not when she is busy trying to do something else.

Or a creepy weirdo who may kidnap or ill them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I want to be approached, I'll go to a cozy pub and get an appetizer/drink alone at the bar.

A huge swath of women would never do this.

Try a volunteer job or common interest club(a hiking meet up, photography, birding).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wherever you are, make sure to approach w/a specific purpose.

For instance, if in a book store you could inquire for a recommendation on a book from a specific genre.
In other words, do not approach a woman & start flirting w/her shamelessly.
Keep it simple, casual + brief.

See how she reacts to you and if she does not seem very interested to not persist.
Never be that creepy annoying guy.

Ideas of places could be anywhere…..or at least almost.

Stores, parks even gas stations.
Basically any public place would be feasible!

Wishing you all the best!!

Not gas stations. That would scare me as the guy could follow my car afterwards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women don’t want to be approached. They prefer to complain about being alone since they don’t approach either.

Try therapy. You are obviously a misogynist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, DCUM is not the best place to ask. The majority of DCUM users are middle-aged women who are frustrated in life, understandably, because they are juggling parenthood and marriage and careers.

The only difference between "looking like a creep" and "being interesting and approachable" is going to be subjective and will depend on the woman in question. If you're handsome and have good social skills, you will face a lot less judgement, surprise, surprise! Your intent and good character don't actually matter in those few minutes, even though all these women think they do.

Few if any women would agree with this.

Creeps set off your spidey sense from a mile away.

[Anonymous]

Club level at Washington Commanders games. Lots of single women go there to mingle. Felt bar at MGM National Harbor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women don’t want to be approached. They prefer to complain about being alone since they don’t approach either.

Try therapy. You are obviously a misogynist.

You are misusing that word but I think you know that.