Desi parents and kids who married a non desi

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the tension points between Indian culture and WASP culture is that the wealth flashiness in Indian cultures mirrors what WASPs consider trashy new money aka Lauren Sanchez types. WASP culture is also rooted in the idea that money flows down following blood not over, up and sideways. This isn’t to say that the Indian way is bad, it’s just very opposite of the WASP culture.

Huh?? There is no tension. Indian Americans don't think of the WASPs as particularly cultured and worth emulating. That is why there is no attempt to integrate or follow the WASP culture.

Indian-Americans are just better educated, have intact and functional families, their kids are doing better in all metrics, are more connected with their communities - be it their neighbors, relatives, coworkers etc, are fully immersed in their own rich culture/traditions/culture to have any FOMO, always have better food, and are wealthier than the average WASPs.

What a racist, arrogant, and disgusting post.

Well, that's the only way to answer racist, arrogant, envious and disgusting posts by WASPs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people make a big deal out of it, others come around relatively easily depending on how strict or conservative they are.

It helps if desi parents were born here or are living here for long time and raised kids here.

It also helps if you are mature, professionally educated and financially independent and marrying someone similar.

If its first marriage of such nature in your family or circle, it would be more difficult than if other cases happened before you.

This. You can marry a similarly well educated, professionally and financially successful person and parents accept the marriage. Also, helps if the person does not have baggage or bad habits.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It works alright in the end. Love is love.

[Anonymous]

Damn, you people really need to learn the true definition of WASP. Not all white bread folks are considered to be part of that group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the tension points between Indian culture and WASP culture is that the wealth flashiness in Indian cultures mirrors what WASPs consider trashy new money aka Lauren Sanchez types. WASP culture is also rooted in the idea that money flows down following blood not over, up and sideways. This isn’t to say that the Indian way is bad, it’s just very opposite of the WASP culture.

Huh?? There is no tension. Indian Americans don't think of the WASPs as particularly cultured and worth emulating. That is why there is no attempt to integrate or follow the WASP culture.

Indian-Americans are just better educated, have intact and functional families, their kids are doing better in all metrics, are more connected with their communities - be it their neighbors, relatives, coworkers etc, are fully immersed in their own rich culture/traditions/culture to have any FOMO, always have better food, and are wealthier than the average WASPs.

Maybe so, but a WASP ain’t getting detained at an airport.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the tension points between Indian culture and WASP culture is that the wealth flashiness in Indian cultures mirrors what WASPs consider trashy new money aka Lauren Sanchez types. WASP culture is also rooted in the idea that money flows down following blood not over, up and sideways. This isn’t to say that the Indian way is bad, it’s just very opposite of the WASP culture.

Huh?? There is no tension. Indian Americans don't think of the WASPs as particularly cultured and worth emulating. That is why there is no attempt to integrate or follow the WASP culture.

Indian-Americans are just better educated, have intact and functional families, their kids are doing better in all metrics, are more connected with their communities - be it their neighbors, relatives, coworkers etc, are fully immersed in their own rich culture/traditions/culture to have any FOMO, always have better food, and are wealthier than the average WASPs.

Maybe so, but a WASP ain’t getting detained at an airport.

Talk to my DH, who is white, blue eyed, German born. He constantly gets pulled aside for “random” checks.

[Anonymous]

My brother married an Indian woman. They have been married for more than 20 years with children. Her parents were initially unsure when they were dating, but they came to really like my brother and paid for a gigantic wedding. They are very involved with the grandkids and seem thrilled with how things turned out.

[Anonymous]

I am finding it laughable how some of the Desi posters in here are unable to differentiate between “castes” of white America. How can you not know the difference between a WASP and a middle American white person?

[Anonymous]

All these hang ups are for immigrants, one or at most two generations are all it takes to blend. Ironically people who immigrate are responsible for this as they are the ones who chose to have and raise children in a mixed and blended society. Children didn't move here on their own.

[Anonymous]

Ha. Once again a thread devolves into two warring anonymous internet factions trying to out snob one another. Never change DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the tension points between Indian culture and WASP culture is that the wealth flashiness in Indian cultures mirrors what WASPs consider trashy new money aka Lauren Sanchez types. WASP culture is also rooted in the idea that money flows down following blood not over, up and sideways. This isn’t to say that the Indian way is bad, it’s just very opposite of the WASP culture.

Huh?? There is no tension. Indian Americans don't think of the WASPs as particularly cultured and worth emulating. That is why there is no attempt to integrate or follow the WASP culture.

Indian-Americans are just better educated, have intact and functional families, their kids are doing better in all metrics, are more connected with their communities - be it their neighbors, relatives, coworkers etc, are fully immersed in their own rich culture/traditions/culture to have any FOMO, always have better food, and are wealthier than the average WASPs.

Gawaar aur ghamandi, what a winning combination. I seriously wonder what you think you’re achieving by posting stuff like this.

[Anonymous]

Indian-American here.

Most people don't care if you marry a well-off, educated white person from a family with assets and are still married. Some people find divorce untasteful, but if the rest is there, they aren't going to care one bit about the divorce and will be supportive.

Every. Single. Indian. I know (and I am so many having grown up in a heavy Indian community) would lose their minds if their child married a black person. Indians are weirdly hateful toward black people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Indian-American here.

Most people don't care if you marry a well-off, educated white person from a family with assets and are still married. Some people find divorce untasteful, but if the rest is there, they aren't going to care one bit about the divorce and will be supportive.

Every. Single. Indian. I know (and I am so many having grown up in a heavy Indian community) would lose their minds if their child married a black person. Indians are weirdly hateful toward black people.

Yeah, that has changed quite a bit from years ago. In reality, Indians want their doctor kids to marry other doctors/professionally successful people. Indians meet their non-Indian spouses in either college/graduate school or work. I do know of a number of Indian doctors marrying Black doctors - and being supported from both sides of the families.

I think it is a SES thing rather than a race thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Indian-American here.

Most people don't care if you marry a well-off, educated white person from a family with assets and are still married. Some people find divorce untasteful, but if the rest is there, they aren't going to care one bit about the divorce and will be supportive.

Every. Single. Indian. I know (and I am so many having grown up in a heavy Indian community) would lose their minds if their child married a black person. Indians are weirdly hateful toward black people.

Yeah, that has changed quite a bit from years ago. In reality, Indians want their doctor kids to marry other doctors/professionally successful people. Indians meet their non-Indian spouses in either college/graduate school or work. I do know of a number of Indian doctors marrying Black doctors - and being supported from both sides of the families.

I think it is a SES thing rather than a race thing.

Nope. PP here. I've seen Indians disowned for marrying black attorneys, physicians, engineers. Didn't matter. There just isn't the whole well, he's a successful person or she's a brilliant surgeon thing I've seen with white people marrying into the Indian community.

There is just so much gossip and drama around this. I've known people who have married black people (yes successful) and yes, they have been derided by the aunties and rejected by families. It is VERY much a thing.