Bragging about tall kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing yet another boastful social media post about how tall little Johnny is, how much he’s grown, how big his feet are at only 13 etc etc

Being tall isn’t something to brag about. It just happens. I’m tall too and it’s not an achievement.

Short kids, especially boys are overlooked and often literally pushed out of the way by the taller kids, who frankly are only taller most of the time because they went through puberty earlier.

Look down on my 5’4” 15 year old now, but [/b]he’ll be taller than most of you when he does grow. [b]What does it get you to determine a pecking order based on height during teen years?! Is it really something to brag about? Wouldn’t it be better if Johnny was kind? Isn’t that more worthy of a brag?

I’m sure this has been said and examined already, but I have no plans to read every page.

he’ll be taller than most of you when he does grow

you’re pre-bragging about your kid’s height?!

But, really: I’m sincerely sorry if the situation is that people are picking on your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In support of OP, there is a hierarchy among teen boys based on height and size — particularly if they play sports.

My DS is 14 and 5’10 1/2. He will be 6’3 to 6’5 by the time he’s done growing, based on father and grandfather’s heights and growth patterns.

He has same-aged friends who are 5’2” and 5’4” and they are hazed and bullied by the bigger, taller kids. Coaches rule them out, especially in basketball and football.

I also do see dad in particular (I’m a mom) bragging on how big their kid is. It’s a tough time for a 5’4” 15 yr old.

Encourage your boys to be kind.

What Tanner stage is he at 14 years old? And you can’t predict height based in two males in his family. Your height matters more than grandfathers. What is your height?

And that’s just a rough estimate. Siblings would all be the same height if that formula was 100% accurate.

Curious why you care? Sounds like you want to contest the accuracy of the height prediction. Why?

Parental height is more heritable in some races/ethnicities than in others. It’s more directly heritable in Caucasians. So you’ve got nothin’.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised that people think they can predict their kids’ heights based on parents, grandparents etc- it really doesn’t work that way IME. For example, my own sons will be likely 4-5 inches different in height (one is full grown and the other had a bone scan and full work up due to late puberty which gives a pretty accurate prediction). We know a set of (full grown) brothers- where one is 5’8” and the other 6’2”. Tall dad and short mom. Lots of other examples like this that I can think of in our families/friend group. For example my DH has four sisters- they range in height from 5’3”-5’8”. We know a family with 3 sons- the older two are both 6’2” but the youngest is 5’9”.

I’d caution against making assumptions about height (or worse, promising your kid that they will be a certain height or will outgrow others etc).

Really is no telling, I guess.

Most men on my Dad’s side top out at 5’5”. My Dad was “very tall” at 5’11. My mom is 5’10” and she had short parents.

My brother is 6’5”, I am 5’7”, and our other sister is 5’4”.

Not sure how any of that could have been predicted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing yet another boastful social media post about how tall little Johnny is, how much he’s grown, how big his feet are at only 13 etc etc

Being tall isn’t something to brag about. It just happens. I’m tall too and it’s not an achievement.

Short kids, especially boys are overlooked and often literally pushed out of the way by the taller kids, who frankly are only taller most of the time because they went through puberty earlier.

Look down on my 5’4” 15 year old now, but he’ll be taller than most of you when he does grow. What does it get you to determine a pecking order based on height during teen years?! Is it really something to brag about? Wouldn’t it be better if Johnny was kind? Isn’t that more worthy of a brag?

Doesn’t bother me to know how tall is kid is, when.
I know how puberty works for girls grades 5-8 and boys grade 7-12.

Bfd. Move on OP.

[Anonymous]

Well, you can’t blame those moms for desperately trying to avoid their sons being perceived as having “short man energy.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, you can’t blame those moms for desperately trying to avoid their sons being perceived as having “short man energy.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In support of OP, there is a hierarchy among teen boys based on height and size — particularly if they play sports.

My DS is 14 and 5’10 1/2. He will be 6’3 to 6’5 by the time he’s done growing, based on father and grandfather’s heights and growth patterns.

He has same-aged friends who are 5’2” and 5’4” and they are hazed and bullied by the bigger, taller kids. Coaches rule them out, especially in basketball and football.

I also do see dad in particular (I’m a mom) bragging on how big their kid is. It’s a tough time for a 5’4” 15 yr old.

Encourage your boys to be kind.

Someone mentioned tall boys being a-holes. Unfortunately that is true more often than it should be. If we could all do a better job of encouraging our kids to be kind we’d be in a better place.

Maybe link to some evidence of this instead of saying it’s true more often than it should be. My very quiet, kind son who has always been two heads taller than same-aged peers was mercilessly bullied by a pack of shorter boys to the point my son was suicidal in middle school. Even with this experienced, I don’t go around saying short kids are a-holes more often than they should be. Cruelty comes in all shapes and sizes. So do kind hearts.

[Anonymous]

19 year old son is a tad over 5'8'', 3 - 3.5 inches shorter than me. 5' 9'' is his predicted final height taking into account the difference between me and my wife, he was usually among the smallest in his class but it was never a big deal. He never had any interest in sports so we never got heard many of these "height boasts".

[Anonymous]

Tonight’s the weekend

[Anonymous]

People comment on my daughter’s height so much that I sometimes say something just to head them off. It’s shocking how comfortable they feel saying “wow!” or “she’s only three??” in this incredulous tone right in front of her. “What size does she wear!?” It goes on and on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People comment on my daughter’s height so much that I sometimes say something just to head them off. It’s shocking how comfortable they feel saying “wow!” or “she’s only three??” in this incredulous tone right in front of her. “What size does she wear!?” It goes on and on.

Cool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In support of OP, there is a hierarchy among teen boys based on height and size — particularly if they play sports.

My DS is 14 and 5’10 1/2. He will be 6’3 to 6’5 by the time he’s done growing, based on father and grandfather’s heights and growth patterns.

He has same-aged friends who are 5’2” and 5’4” and they are hazed and bullied by the bigger, taller kids. Coaches rule them out, especially in basketball and football.

I also do see dad in particular (I’m a mom) bragging on how big their kid is. It’s a tough time for a 5’4” 15 yr old.

Encourage your boys to be kind.

Someone mentioned tall boys being a-holes. Unfortunately that is true more often than it should be. If we could all do a better job of encouraging our kids to be kind we’d be in a better place.

Maybe link to some evidence of this instead of saying it’s true more often than it should be. My very quiet, kind son who has always been two heads taller than same-aged peers was mercilessly bullied by a pack of shorter boys to the point my son was suicidal in middle school. Even with this experienced, I don’t go around saying short kids are a-holes more often than they should be. Cruelty comes in all shapes and sizes. So do kind hearts.

Mercilessly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In support of OP, there is a hierarchy among teen boys based on height and size — particularly if they play sports.

My DS is 14 and 5’10 1/2. He will be 6’3 to 6’5 by the time he’s done growing, based on father and grandfather’s heights and growth patterns.

He has same-aged friends who are 5’2” and 5’4” and they are hazed and bullied by the bigger, taller kids. Coaches rule them out, especially in basketball and football.

I also do see dad in particular (I’m a mom) bragging on how big their kid is. It’s a tough time for a 5’4” 15 yr old.

Encourage your boys to be kind.

Someone mentioned tall boys being a-holes. Unfortunately that is true more often than it should be. If we could all do a better job of encouraging our kids to be kind we’d be in a better place.

Maybe link to some evidence of this instead of saying it’s true more often than it should be. My very quiet, kind son who has always been two heads taller than same-aged peers was mercilessly bullied by a pack of shorter boys to the point my son was suicidal in middle school. Even with this experienced, I don’t go around saying short kids are a-holes more often than they should be. Cruelty comes in all shapes and sizes. So do kind hearts.

Mercilessly?

You have issues.

[Anonymous]

My kids are short and will be forever. My friend’s kids are the tallest, healthiest-looking children (both parents are very tall) and we literally comment on their height all the time because it’s kind of amazing. I don’t know why anyone should feel badly about it. I love tall, strong children, they just look healthy and vibrant to me. Besides, mothers are constantly stressing out about a million thing related to their child, it’s nice to compliment them on something that is visible. I also tell people when their child is very beautiful. Be kind people, it costs nothing!

[Anonymous]

Insecure parents with short kids are annoying. Especially sports parents with anxiety. I have a 13 year old who is 5’11. I’ve never bragged about him being tall. Why? Because it is basically irrelevant to me. In fact, he did hit puberty early and I don’t expect him to get much taller. I’m so sick of these parents suggesting that my kid excels in his sport because he is tall. Um. Wrong. My kid has always excelled in his sport - even prior to his growth spurt. If anything, growing so tall so fast made it harder for his body to adjust. I can’t tell you how many parents on his team push their anxiety onto me with their suggestions that my kid somehow has an unfair advantage. I then have to comfort them about my kids early growth spurt, etc. It’s exhausting. Just chill the f out about your kids height. It will be what it will be.