Rising 7th grade daughter- clothing ideas

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as OP is aware that she's asking very wealthy moms about what the girls in their very wealthy areas/schools wear. We don't live in a very wealthy area (we live in a somewhat wealthy area, LOL) and although some girls wear what people have described definitely not all of them. I looked at those Lululemon shorts and I don't think anyone I know is buying their daughters $68 bootie shorts. $28 bootie shorts, maybe, but wow, the bougie ladies here are out of touch with the proletariat!

My kid wears amazon dupes of the lulu shorts and loves them. Bonus that they come in kid sizes that are slim enough for her.

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Anonymous wrote:She is old enough that you should take her shopping and let her pick out what she likes.

This. In the 7th grade, my DD would have never worn short shorts or fitted tops. It was boxy tees, joggers and Jordans. She finishing up the 8th grade she’s starting to branch out a bit. Cargos or 4 inch shorts, crop or fitted tops, still wearing Jordans.

Take her shopping and let her pick out her own things. Don’t push what’s popular or things out of her comfort zone.

Agree.

They have gym class 4-5x a week and are not changing into gym suits yet so everyone wears athletic wear every day.

Fine with me.

We bought the Lulu, Nike, aviator, golden hinge skirts stuff and now she’s focused, not worried/doesn’t care about it, got into gifted & talented, and does her swim team practices 3x a week and other rec sports 1x a week.

She also knows she’s isn’t getting a smartphone until 7th or 8th grade.

Our public school families signed a contract in that and got a huge critical mass to do so.

Lol.

Do you actually have something to add?

I actually have teenagers; unlike you. And I’ve already given my thoughts to OP.

I have teens. Don't know why you would think otherwise? And I'm NP. Sounds like the previous posters has teens too.

So lol was just a burp of some sort since you claim you have given OP advice already

Name the public school where a “huge critical mass” of parents agreed to no phones in middle school, or it didn’t happen.

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Anonymous wrote:She is old enough that you should take her shopping and let her pick out what she likes.

This. In the 7th grade, my DD would have never worn short shorts or fitted tops. It was boxy tees, joggers and Jordans. She finishing up the 8th grade she’s starting to branch out a bit. Cargos or 4 inch shorts, crop or fitted tops, still wearing Jordans.

Take her shopping and let her pick out her own things. Don’t push what’s popular or things out of her comfort zone.

Agree.

They have gym class 4-5x a week and are not changing into gym suits yet so everyone wears athletic wear every day.

Fine with me.

We bought the Lulu, Nike, aviator, golden hinge skirts stuff and now she’s focused, not worried/doesn’t care about it, got into gifted & talented, and does her swim team practices 3x a week and other rec sports 1x a week.

She also knows she’s isn’t getting a smartphone until 7th or 8th grade.

Our public school families signed a contract in that and got a huge critical mass to do so.

Lol.

Do you actually have something to add?

I actually have teenagers; unlike you. And I’ve already given my thoughts to OP.

I have teens. Don't know why you would think otherwise? And I'm NP. Sounds like the previous posters has teens too.

So lol was just a burp of some sort since you claim you have given OP advice already

Name the public school where a “huge critical mass” of parents agreed to no phones in middle school, or it didn’t happen.

DP but I'm guessing it's the Wait Until 8th Pledge (which would be 10% of a grade at a school, so YMMV if that's huge) and you can look those schools up online.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I help my kid with fashion. It’s cruel not to and to pretend what you wear doesn’t matter. My seven year old wears sequined shirts, my middle school child does not.

Start with shoes. Nike or converse are good pics. Yes to white sneakers by Nike. Black conserve work. Crocs are a good second choice. Don’t care that she’s price conscious - that is coming from you because she learned it - throw the ratty, ill fitting clothes out. Uggs might work but my kid seems to be over them so idk.

Jeans are pretty easy. You can go to the Gap, my kid is skinny and tall. Target sometimes has jeans. Madewell has nice clothing generally.

Band tees are ok. Look at urban outfitters and similar to see what’s in. I just got an Olivia Rodrigo tee. Don’t let your husband’s musical taste guide too much here. He can wear his own tees.

Abercrombie has nice stuff. They have great winter coats that usually go on a good sale. Simple and stylish. You can supplement with Target but get a few nicer things would be my recommendation. Make sure her water bottle is Stanley or the like. No unicorns, etc.

You want your daughter to feel confident and mature. Get her the clothing to match.

Oh we all know exactly what type of person you are based just on this. Striver.

+1 The real cruelty would be giving a kid who couldn’t care less in an Olivia Rodrigo tee and a Stanley water bottle and telling her it’s going to make her more appealing.

And I can’t help but laugh at Madewell. That’s for middle aged women trying to look hip but non-threatening.

+2

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Anonymous wrote:She is old enough that you should take her shopping and let her pick out what she likes.

This. In the 7th grade, my DD would have never worn short shorts or fitted tops. It was boxy tees, joggers and Jordans. She finishing up the 8th grade she’s starting to branch out a bit. Cargos or 4 inch shorts, crop or fitted tops, still wearing Jordans.

Take her shopping and let her pick out her own things. Don’t push what’s popular or things out of her comfort zone.

Agree.

They have gym class 4-5x a week and are not changing into gym suits yet so everyone wears athletic wear every day.

Fine with me.

We bought the Lulu, Nike, aviator, golden hinge skirts stuff and now she’s focused, not worried/doesn’t care about it, got into gifted & talented, and does her swim team practices 3x a week and other rec sports 1x a week.

She also knows she’s isn’t getting a smartphone until 7th or 8th grade.

Our public school families signed a contract in that and got a huge critical mass to do so.

Lol.

Do you actually have something to add?

I actually have teenagers; unlike you. And I’ve already given my thoughts to OP.

I have teens. Don't know why you would think otherwise? And I'm NP. Sounds like the previous posters has teens too.

So lol was just a burp of some sort since you claim you have given OP advice already

Name the public school where a “huge critical mass” of parents agreed to no phones in middle school, or it didn’t happen.

I have no idea, I'm not that poster. But I'm inclined to believe her. More than a few areas around the country are seeing the issues with phones for middle schoolers and are not okay with making that trade off just for social reasons. But I don't live there, though my kid isn't getting a phone until later this summer before the start of 9th.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in McLean and my daughter wears almost exclusively All In Motion from Target, Old Navy, Athleta Girls, and H&M. She plays lacrosse, she has a lot of friends, she's always out doing something, so I guess her childish wardrobe has not hurt her socially as some of these crazy mothers would like you to think.

+1 Similar experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in McLean and my daughter wears almost exclusively All In Motion from Target, Old Navy, Athleta Girls, and H&M. She plays lacrosse, she has a lot of friends, she's always out doing something, so I guess her childish wardrobe has not hurt her socially as some of these crazy mothers would like you to think.

Swap Dick’s for H&M and same for my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:She is old enough that you should take her shopping and let her pick out what she likes.

This. In the 7th grade, my DD would have never worn short shorts or fitted tops. It was boxy tees, joggers and Jordans. She finishing up the 8th grade she’s starting to branch out a bit. Cargos or 4 inch shorts, crop or fitted tops, still wearing Jordans.

Take her shopping and let her pick out her own things. Don’t push what’s popular or things out of her comfort zone.

Agree.

They have gym class 4-5x a week and are not changing into gym suits yet so everyone wears athletic wear every day.

Fine with me.

We bought the Lulu, Nike, aviator, golden hinge skirts stuff and now she’s focused, not worried/doesn’t care about it, got into gifted & talented, and does her swim team practices 3x a week and other rec sports 1x a week.

She also knows she’s isn’t getting a smartphone until 7th or 8th grade.

Our public school families signed a contract in that and got a huge critical mass to do so.

Lol.

Do you actually have something to add?

I actually have teenagers; unlike you. And I’ve already given my thoughts to OP.

I have teens. Don't know why you would think otherwise? And I'm NP. Sounds like the previous posters has teens too.

So lol was just a burp of some sort since you claim you have given OP advice already

Name the public school where a “huge critical mass” of parents agreed to no phones in middle school, or it didn’t happen.

DP but I'm guessing it's the Wait Until 8th Pledge (which would be 10% of a grade at a school, so YMMV if that's huge) and you can look those schools up online.

Yeah 10% is not a critical mass by any reasonable definition.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I help my kid with fashion. It’s cruel not to and to pretend what you wear doesn’t matter. My seven year old wears sequined shirts, my middle school child does not.

Start with shoes. Nike or converse are good pics. Yes to white sneakers by Nike. Black conserve work. Crocs are a good second choice. Don’t care that she’s price conscious - that is coming from you because she learned it - throw the ratty, ill fitting clothes out. Uggs might work but my kid seems to be over them so idk.

Jeans are pretty easy. You can go to the Gap, my kid is skinny and tall. Target sometimes has jeans. Madewell has nice clothing generally.

Band tees are ok. Look at urban outfitters and similar to see what’s in. I just got an Olivia Rodrigo tee. Don’t let your husband’s musical taste guide too much here. He can wear his own tees.

Abercrombie has nice stuff. They have great winter coats that usually go on a good sale. Simple and stylish. You can supplement with Target but get a few nicer things would be my recommendation. Make sure her water bottle is Stanley or the like. No unicorns, etc.

You want your daughter to feel confident and mature. Get her the clothing to match.

Oh we all know exactly what type of person you are based just on this. Striver.

+1 The real cruelty would be giving a kid who couldn’t care less in an Olivia Rodrigo tee and a Stanley water bottle and telling her it’s going to make her more appealing.

And I can’t help but laugh at Madewell. That’s for middle aged women trying to look hip but non-threatening.

+2

Right? And Abercrombie is geared towards younger millennials now. https://retailwire.com/discussion/how-did-abercrombie-become-cool-with-millennials/#google_vignette

[Anonymous]

My DD is in 7th and she buys her clothes from Aerie and Hot Topic.

She wouldn’t be willing to wear Nike, Lululrmom etc.

You really need to know your DD’s “aesthetic” as the kids say!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in 7th and she buys her clothes from Aerie and Hot Topic.

She wouldn’t be willing to wear Nike, Lululrmom etc.

You really need to know your DD’s “aesthetic” as the kids say!

I think its funny that you think there is a meaningful distinction between Aerie and Lululemon. Its all athleisure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in 7th and she buys her clothes from Aerie and Hot Topic.

She wouldn’t be willing to wear Nike, Lululrmom etc.

You really need to know your DD’s “aesthetic” as the kids say!

I think it’s funny that you think there is a meaningful distinction between Aerie and Lululemon. Its all athleisure.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter who is just wrapping up 6th grade is starting to transition her wardrobe away from Cat & Jack graphic tees.

I just followed her lead. She had a pair of flowy pants that I bought her for her 5th grade graduation, she asked for another pair about a month ago. I also noticed she was wearing the one solid top she owned really often, so I picked up a few non-graphic shirts at Target for her and let her choose what she wanted to keep.

It helped to give her some choices without having it be a whole thing, and it helped me to get a sense of what she wants to wear.

I think part of the issue is that some posters are in Fairfax where their 6th graders are still in elementary school, and many of us have 7th graders who have now been in middle school almost two years. The idea of my daughter wearing a Cat & Jack graphic tee is bizarre.

[Anonymous]

We also have a rising 7th grader and I started to think about wardrobe upgrade for her this past week. She’s on the younger side and not into fashion or makeup like some of her classmates do. She won’t wear top that’s tightly fitted or cropped or sexy, no tight short neither. I got DD some Athleta skorts and under Armour top, some casual floral dresses, and plan to get some more plain sport tee.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is in 7th and she buys her clothes from Aerie and Hot Topic.

She wouldn’t be willing to wear Nike, Lululrmom etc.

You really need to know your DD’s “aesthetic” as the kids say!

I think its funny that you think there is a meaningful distinction between Aerie and Lululemon. Its all athleisure.

The kids know.
Whether they prefer Lululemon or don't like it.