This. My husband would never go on solo vacations if we couldn’t afford a family vacation. He IS taking the kids with him to visit his mother, right? Whatever you do, do not sign your kids up for summer camps when they are school aged. Your husband is a princess. |
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Wow. I could see the idea of sending them if spouse did have a summer job—but you’re going to staff out raising your kids even in the summertime when one of you is home all day? I understand the policy that requires you to pay to keep the slot. I don’t understand sending your kids ti daycare when they could stay in their own home and spend time with the parent who is home. That’s crazy. |
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Sounds like you would have a hell of a lot more free time if you divorced. He does however sound like the kind of person who would forget to show up to pick up his kids. Why are you married to him again? |
She’d have to pay child support if she divorced since she’s the primary income… |
Maybe your teacher wife can spend the summer tutoring you in the proper use of singular and plural pronouns when describing her. Your post is very hard to read. Really, there is just one of her. |
It doesn’t really matter that he isn’t a morning person. He should get up in the summers and help you get the kids out the door so you also get a little break during that time. My husband isn’t a morning person either but he has never wavered and never complained about doing his half in the morning. Your husband could then go back to sleep after you all left the house if he wanted to. But to not get up and help your spouse because you want to sleep in for two months is…I don’t even know the right word for it but I’d hate to be married to someone like that. |
What SAHM has her kids in daycare all day? What the actual f are you talking about? |
Are you dim? If he’s at the pool during the day then he’s not earning any money. He’s not helping around the house. He’s not lightening OP’s load. He’s not contributing the the household and family in any way. That’s the problem. |
They’re paying for daycare whether they use it or not. OP isn’t being a jerk and insisting that because her husband is home he must take care of the kids even though they’re still writing checks to daycare. She just wants him to do SOMETHING. |
Oh stop, they can’t stop paying for daycare without messing up their childcare for the other 9 months of the year. Do you really think her DH is going to say sure, I’ll watch the kids all day while you work despite the fact we have to keep paying for daycare? I really doubt a man who won’t pick up a few hours per week tutoring to help the family is going to voluntarily watch his young kids all day. The ball is not in her court. |
I’m glad I’m not the only one who read the OP as the husband and it was his wife who was the teacher. I wonder if people’s reactions would have been different had they made that assumption. My guess is that’s why OP didn’t reveal the gender. |
seems like typical school teacher behavior. familiar narrative about teachers doing sooo much and being sooo tired and spending all of their time off during the summers pouring their heart and soul into the children and stocking their classrooms with their own money! All nonsense of course, the majority are like this guy. What a catch! |
DP but gender is irrelevant to how I view the situation. I have female friends who are teachers and they are busy over the summer with their own school aged kids (most of them maybe do 1-2 weeks of camp b/c their kids want to go), but otherwise they are active in taking their kids to do fun stuff, and in down time they catch up on random home projects. I have a friend who has been waiting for summer to do a major home purge/declutter and some other projects. If a woman teacher without any childcare responsibilities was lounging poolside and taking solo trips all summer while her working DH was taking on all the regular kid/house loads, I would think that person isn’t a very good family team player. |