63% want them to come. That's a large majority. |
DP but this is simply stupid. My spouse and/or I go to all of our kids’ events and games, even though my parents rarely came to mine. Looking back on it, I feel I could have been much better at those activities if my parents had shown any interest, but that’s it. I don’t feel like I was unloved or ignored! And I have a great relationship with my parents. |
My husband's parents didn't come to his games. They weren't interested. He wished his parents supported him more. They also didn't care when he quit because they weren't into it anyway. Their internet was in music not sports and he wasn't into sports. He doesn't have a great relationship with them today because they have never had much in common. |
^ he was into sports, they were into music |
This doesn’t surprise me at all. If anything I am surprised it isn’t higher. At least 1/3 of the dads are still total nutbags at HS age. In youth sports- much higher percentage (some eventually realize their kid is not making teams because of crazy dad, so they reluctantly learn to behave). Sad state of affairs really. I’m sure there may be some moms in that category as well but I haven’t seen many. |
Seriously? There are so many moms who have no clue yet they yell and scream like maniacs. |
I get a little nervous, but I know that aside from injury, every experience is part of the learning experience, whether good or bad. I was next to a mom who was losing her mind when her son didn’t make it to the starting block on time, and when she calmed down, I offered that the experience of missing a race was probably the most learning experience he could have had. I try to take the long view and appreciate the moments of struggle because that is what creates grit and resilience. And I try to encourage my kids to brush off their mistakes and move on. |
I only missed a couple of my DD's games and I love seeing her play. Early on I was not her best supporter: she loved her sport, but she was not very good at it. With no sports culture in our family, I didn't know how to deal with disappointment. We were talking abut the games on the way home and I was quite harsh with her or at her team. Once she started playing club, I noticed how other parents supported their kids and I felt terrible about being negative when she was still learning the game. I like to believe that my attitude changed for the better. |