UVA rush
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Anonymous
PP is just wildly insecure. Probably a loser then and an in life. |
My own kid is smart enough not to bother with rush at their school. Sorry yours isn't.
Anonymous
+1 My DD who is in a sorority at uva said that kids are being absolutely awful on yikyak about rush. Saying that girls who join a particular sorority are all fat, etc. that another is all socially awkward or sluts etc, it’s brutal. So of course the PNM don’t want to go where they’d be made fun. It’s awful because every single sorority there has something great to offer. Tiers are real to the kids and they lead to frat relations and how you are perceived. |
Anonymous
Yep. It’s like a microcosm of the status anxiety that is rampant on <checks notes> DCUM. |
Anonymous
Actually, the opposite is true. The vast majority of the people in the "top frats/sororities" are from the northeast. Boarding schools usually. if you are just your average UVA student from NoVA, you're not getting into the "top". There is a Richmond area private school that apparently sends a bunch but up here in NoVa? You're just going to be "mid". Who cares though because there are over 30 fraternities and 14 sororities, there are plenty of places. The person who posted on the parent's board was specifically complaining that he didn't get into a "top frat" because he's an international student. And that in state kid have a leg up, which is not true AT all. Others rightfully pointed out that she posted this with 10 days left in the rush so how could her son possibly know who they kept and if they were international or diverse? |
Anonymous
| Good luck to any of you who have girls going into pref today. I know it's probably been a stressful week for the girls and there are probably tears this morning. The Friday cuts are the worst at the higher ranked sororities especially because girls felt that they had a shot still if they were there for house tours. My dd had her painful cuts earlier in the week but had many friends who were devastated on pref day. It all worked out though, even if they didn't get their top choices from earlier in the week, they all seem happy where they ended up. |
Anonymous
“Devastated” on pref day? Dear lord. Reality check please. |
Anonymous
You have never really wanted something and it didn’t happen? These are 18 and 19 year olds. Have you always been so callous or is this a learned character defect? |
Anonymous
That’s right. And 18-19 years old is about the time most of us start to realize that our perception of ourselves is not necessarily how the rest of the world views us. It’s a wake up and grow up moment. I would question why membership in a certain sorority is of such consequence to a girls perception of herself, and why parents let it get out of hand to this point. |
Anonymous
This is so true and can be a rude awakening for some of these young women. It sort of soured my first two years at UVA, but in hindsight, it was a blessing to be shut out of the system. Social life at UVA can be really tough, particularly kids who go in thinking they have a shot at this quintessential college/Greek experience, but don’t have rhe right background or connections. |
Anonymous
| It was just as bad back in the late 80’s with rush at my Big 10. Granted, no social media but there was the same social hierarchy of frats and sororities. Devastating to go through a month of parties and then wind up not pledging. People shouldn’t belittle those who are disappointed by the experience. |
Anonymous
+1 not to mention, this is UVA we're talking about. ALot of these kids have always come out on top, so to see that they are not "on top" at UVA, they are just run of the mill here, that's a wake up call. I personally think it's a wake up call that is needed, but still it's very hard. These are still teenagers you realize. My kid was not devastated but she was bummed. She likes her sorority ok, has met alot of great friends and is on the executive board now. She hated rush then and she hates rush now on the other side. She has she been humbled at UVA in many ways. For better or worse. It can be a tough pill to swallow for many. |
Anonymous
its because of the OTHER kids. I already posted about kids on yikyak slamming sororities for various reasons. You read that and then you don't want to tell your friends, "Hey I just pledged XYZ sorority, you know the one with the fat girls everyone is ragging on?". If the stupid kids would stop demanding others on social media, then it would all be much better. I dunno, you guys raised these kids, I don't know what kind of awful parenting has to take place for these kids to put others down so publicly, but so many of your here on DCUM, here on THIS very thread, do the same so I guess we see where it comes from. |
Anonymous
| sorry stop DEMEANING others.. bad typing this Am |
Anonymous
Fair point but as others have noted, kids have always demeaned and ranked sororities. Like everything else, it’s just much worse now with social media |
Anonymous
The university says it’s 35% Greek. |