I feel a bit liberated wearing the hijab lately

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she’s ugly, fat, doesn’t wash her hair.

Just cover it up with hijab. Easy breezy.

Of course another women shi**ing in her because of her appearance. Covered or not covered you can't win. Women judge way more than men. Better than all these fake eyelash fake animal nail young women.

It's easy to win. Ignore these creepy loser men who fantasize online about women being ugly as the reason for their loneliness..

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I don’t assume anything. Some of DD’s friends and their moms are hijabis. Some consistently; the others on occasion. They hold a spectrum of religious and social beliefs.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she’s ugly, fat, doesn’t wash her hair.

Just cover it up with hijab. Easy breezy.

Easiest would be shaving it all off, which is what OP would do if she was serious about her claims to avert the male gaze.

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Good for you. Hair covering is more cultural than religious, because as you mentioned, the tenet in Islam is modesty. Hair covering is just one cultural expression of that. Hijab isn't necessarily Islamic inherently.

As long as you do it for you, that's what matters. And if you change your mind and find other ways to be modest, then cool.

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Anonymous wrote:I've known enough women from traditional religions that feel this way that it's unsurprising. Liberal culture should be accepting of women making choices that work for them like this. You and I probably don't see eye to eye on a lot of social issues, I'm in a same sex marriage to someone trans, but I'm happy if this works for you.

Just don’t ask your OP friend whether she thinks your “same sex marriage to someone trans” is okay…and your Kumbyah-fest will turn out juuuuuust fine.

I don't need other people to approve of my choices for me to approve of theirs.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh—OP is not “brave” to wear a hijab in our area. Glad that it makes her feel good and all, but assuming this is in DMV, this isn’t exactly a hostile environment for hijab-wearing females.
It’s akin to flying an LGBTQIA+ flag in a high school counselors office, tbh.
Nothing shocking and nothing counter-cultural about it.

Easy for you to say. Wearing a hajib in this area does get a lot of stares. Why don't you try it and report back to us.

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I have a Babushka scarf. The comments and stares go away as we get older.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh—OP is not “brave” to wear a hijab in our area. Glad that it makes her feel good and all, but assuming this is in DMV, this isn’t exactly a hostile environment for hijab-wearing females.
It’s akin to flying an LGBTQIA+ flag in a high school counselors office, tbh.
Nothing shocking and nothing counter-cultural about it.

Easy for you to say. Wearing a hajib in this area does get a lot of stares. Why don't you try it and report back to us.

Where in this area do you live/work/play? I’m in 20910. I work in eastern MoCo and mostly am in NWDC, parts of PG, and occasionally Rockville, Bethesda, and Chevy Chase. Hijabs aren’t turning heads there.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like the goal is to take the focus away from appearances and sexuality but it really does the opposite.

I get the impression cultures where women wear the hijab are obsessed with sex. It seems very archaic and like the people haven’t evolved with time. But then you look at other aspects of their life and culture and you can see they haven’t evolved and it makes sense they are so focused on gender.

Every culture is "obsessed with sex." God knows the US is.

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Anonymous wrote:I've heard this sentiment a lot. Lots of people think it can be a feminist stance. 30 years ago I entertained the idea. I don't anymore because I don't think male respect or female empowerment is the reason behind it. I think the reason behind it is to police women's looks, mobility and agency, and to make male lust the responsibility of women. You can put it on but you can't take it off. It's not a choice in Iran where women are taking them off as an act of rebellion. You are not subject to morality police, so you can cosplay it to represent whatever you want it to, and you'll find plenty of women who agree with you.

+1

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I think head scarves look incredibly chic. I always assume that the woman wearing them speak impeccable French and smell expensive. I wish I could pull it off on my bad hair days, but it might look odd with my baggy jeans and Patagonia puffer.

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Anonymous wrote:Anti hijabers, why don't you go out every day in a bikini?

Because I would get cold.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she’s ugly, fat, doesn’t wash her hair.

Just cover it up with hijab. Easy breezy.

Easiest would be shaving it all off, which is what OP would do if she was serious about her claims to avert the male gaze.

100%. this is what I did.

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Anonymous wrote:wearing the hijab is a symbol of male oppression over women. How do you not know this?

I agree. I pity women forced by men to cover their hair. Jews too.

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Anonymous wrote:I moved to a new state recently and decided to start wearing a hijab (covering my hair). When you think of the hijab, you probably don’t think “political”. Or “independent”. Or “empowered”. Feminist? In a society where our value seems to be based on looks I think covering your hair and dressing modest can be an alterative to avoid this. Woman/sex combination is everywhere.. especially instagram.. it's like soft porn. Everywhere it seems there are ads for enhancing your ass... and lots of people have become obsessed with taking photos of themselves.. Wearing hijab is not the only way to express my feelings and frustrations; but knowing that our interpretation of liberal culture embraces, if not encourages, uncovering, covering up is a way to reject that. I do not believe that the hair in itself is that important; this is not about protection from men’s lusts. It is me telling the world that my femininity is not available for public consumption. I am taking control of it, and I don’t want to be part of a system that reduces and demeans women. I really believe that a non-Muslim woman could do this if she chose to. I know longer worry about face wrinkles on my forehead because the scarf covers them or my hair as much. I still color my hair and get haircuts but I don't worry about styling it everyday. I speak as a woman who just happens to come from the Islamic faith. I also noticed I worry less about my clothing.

Wow please find your brain

No non Muslim
Woman is going this and for gods sake no man is deciding what we wear.

Your take on this is immature at best

I absolutely respect your choices you do you but don’t make it out like wearing this item is fun.