If 45+ and you had a chance to talk to your 38-year-old self, what would you say?

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Anonymous wrote:Some people on this thread sound like they are in their 80s rather than their 40s. Sheesh.

This entire thread is weird. 38 ain't all that different from 45. I wonder if op made a typo and she's actually 28.

No I'm 38 I just want to feel younger than 45.

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Don't just take a job to get back in there, take the time to figure out what your new career should be and then get the training you need now instead of waiting another 7 years.

Start weight training.

Make a final decision about opening the marriage and stick with it. Find a lover or recommit to a traditional marriage. Don't waste time and energy vacillating.

Set conditions on your socializing. Don't let DH force you to exhaust yourself spending 6-8 hours at events when you can only handle 3-4 hours max.

Enjoy your children and your art. You won't have this much time with them again for years.

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-Take everything you read on DCUM with a grain of salt. When I first started browsing it, I thought something was wrong with me bc we weren’t loaded with perfect kids.
-Start practicing meditation more regularly
-Up the college savings for kids now
-Travel with the kids during the off season when they are younger.

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How heavy?

as heavy as you can manage and build up.
Today in a tabata class I lifted two 15 lb dumbells overhead for a tricep lift. Most gals had the 8s.

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Women with muscles are gross.

Says you. We don't care

Uh huh.

We're not in our 20s. Of course we don't care.

[Anonymous]

I am the one who posted about lifitng heavy. It has nothing to do with be muscley. It has to do with strength, which helps with balance, mobility issues, and being able to participate in life as you age. And for me, its a better workout than crunches for keeping core strength.

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Don’t marry him.
You will be fertile much longer than you think.
Have the sex, you won’t be wet like this after 52
You are hot. Work harder to meet the right man. But also, be more open to men and emotional intimacy generally.
Avoid the married man who wants you.
Make a plan to make more money and advance more professionally even if it means moving.

Buy a house.

[Anonymous]

Buy a house.
But a second home.
Buy index funds.
Buy Apple, NVDA, and the Nasdaq.

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Don’t lean your face on your hand when you work.

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Wear the bikini

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Make some big moves now tomorrow isn't guaranteed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people on this thread sound like they are in their 80s rather than their 40s. Sheesh.

This entire thread is weird. 38 ain't all that different from 45. I wonder if op made a typo and she's actually 28.

As 45 year old I think a lot has changed with my health and looks since 38.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t marry him.
You will be fertile much longer than you think.
Have the sex, you won’t be wet like this after 52
You are hot. Work harder to meet the right man. But also, be more open to men and emotional intimacy generally.
Avoid the married man who wants you.
Make a plan to make more money and advance more professionally even if it means moving.

Buy a house.

Speak for yourself on the sex thing.

[Anonymous]

Don’t pluck your eyebrows even remotely thin

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people on this thread sound like they are in their 80s rather than their 40s. Sheesh.

This entire thread is weird. 38 ain't all that different from 45. I wonder if op made a typo and she's actually 28.

As 45 year old I think a lot has changed with my health and looks since 38.

Agree. Even my life isn't that different. I'm in the same house, same spouse, different job (but same field). It's all about even. My kids are older, but they weren't babies, so no big changes, nothing I'd do over or need a heads up about.

[Anonymous]

Try being a sub before you get married