My niece just screwed herself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: You sound like a jerk.

Only to people who don't think it's important to thank people for gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it’s the groom’s responsibility to write the thank you notes.

Also, you sound hateful and as another PP said, I’d want my aunt to write me off too if I knew she was talking about me the way you are talking about your niece.

If you are an ingrate who can’t be bothered to say thanks for $1000 you should be written off.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone have a good excuse for the niece and husband not acknowledging a gift of $1000? Do you people really think it’s no longer necessary to write thank you notes or at least say thank you in person for such generosity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it’s the groom’s responsibility to write the thank you notes.

Also, you sound hateful and as another PP said, I’d want my aunt to write me off too if I knew she was talking about me the way you are talking about your niece.

If you are an ingrate who can’t be bothered to say thanks for $1000 you should be written off.

Again, fine by me. Everyone *should* promptly send their thank you notes but it is a worse offense to “write off” family members who don’t do it promptly enough for you. Sounds like that’s where you and I differ.

[Anonymous]

There's something really twisted about this whole thing. You're mad you couldn't buy affection and attention. Instead of sitting around stewing over that, why don't you reach out to have a meaningful relationship with your niece? Ask her out to lunch and inquire about married life? Invite her and her new husband to stay with you for a nice weekend?

You are choosing to live the shallowest possible life.

[Anonymous]

I am 38 and completely agree with you. She seems very rude. But I would ask her parents or her about it directly in case the thank-you was lost.

[Anonymous]

The title of this post is so tacky. OP, don’t send someone a gift unless you really want to, and once you’ve sent it, let go.

Can you really not imagine any reason you may not have received a thank-you note? Maybe it was lost in mail. Maybe it arrived and you accidentally put it in the recycling. Maybe it was sent electronically and you overlooked it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's something really twisted about this whole thing. You're mad you couldn't buy affection and attention. Instead of sitting around stewing over that, why don't you reach out to have a meaningful relationship with your niece? Ask her out to lunch and inquire about married life? Invite her and her new husband to stay with you for a nice weekend?

You are choosing to live the shallowest possible life.

If the niece can't be bothered to say thank you for $1000, she's not going to have time for lunch with OP.

I'm sure she'd accept a free weekend at OP's house, though -- assuming it's in an interesting area and the amenities are top quality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: You sound like a jerk.

Only to people who don't think it's important to thank people for gifts.

I always send handwritten thank you notes and think the OP sounds like petulant jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's something really twisted about this whole thing. You're mad you couldn't buy affection and attention. Instead of sitting around stewing over that, why don't you reach out to have a meaningful relationship with your niece? Ask her out to lunch and inquire about married life? Invite her and her new husband to stay with you for a nice weekend?

You are choosing to live the shallowest possible life.

If the niece can't be bothered to say thank you for $1000, she's not going to have time for lunch with OP.

I'm sure she'd accept a free weekend at OP's house, though -- assuming it's in an interesting area and the amenities are top quality.

Grim worldview. I can’t relate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's something really twisted about this whole thing. You're mad you couldn't buy affection and attention. Instead of sitting around stewing over that, why don't you reach out to have a meaningful relationship with your niece? Ask her out to lunch and inquire about married life? Invite her and her new husband to stay with you for a nice weekend?

You are choosing to live the shallowest possible life.

If the niece can't be bothered to say thank you for $1000, she's not going to have time for lunch with OP.

I'm sure she'd accept a free weekend at OP's house, though -- assuming it's in an interesting area and the amenities are top quality.

Grim worldview. I can’t relate.

Do you write thank you notes for major gifts or at least say thank you?

Why should OP continue to give gifts if it’s not clear the receiver appreciates them? She is not rude if she decides not to give any more gifts, which is how I interpret her post. She’s done giving to someone who doesn’t seem to care about getting and that is how it should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I definitely think it’s quite rude and ungrateful of her. I’m surprised by how many people act like it’s totally fine to not say thank you.

I totally agree and am shocked by this thread.

[Anonymous]

Literally no one is saying it’s totally fine not to say thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally no one is saying it’s totally fine not to say thank you.

Literally most of the posts on here are saying exactly that -- that OP is trying "buy affection" because she expected a thank you from her niece.

Saying thank you into thin air while you endorse the check doesn't count.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not writing her off. I am just never giving her another gift.

Will she be able to cope? Probably.