All boys school...why?

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Anonymous wrote:My 3 boys went to a k-8 where a popular high school placement is an all boys high school. I was skeptical, to say the least. I went to the Open House knowing I’d be turned off by the toxic masculinity. Boys was I wrong and now I’m a huge convert. First, an all boys school exposes them to more male teachers and male role models, something I didn’t realize would be so important. Second, they have so many more opportunities to make friends. Something a lot of boys of struggling with these days. Third, I’m sure the toxic masculinity exists, but it’s avoidable. My boys have lifelong friends and will go to college with confidence. I’m so glad we made this decision. DD is in 6th grade and it’s an all girls
School that worries me now!

they aren't even through college yet and you are saying it's the choice? They aren't even through college and you say they have lifelong friends? How do you know so early? And who at coed schools are you comparing the too?

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Anonymous wrote:All boys schools doesnt mean no interaction with girls and doesn’t mean bad behavior. Lot of stereotypes here, OP. Stop generalizing.

At an all boys school, meaning a school without girls, there is zero interaction with girls. If you want to say that everywhere but school there is interactions with girls, fine. But even that would be nuts to say. Get up in the morning, go to an all boys school, maybe go to practice after school (most likely Not a coed team) then go home after school. Unless they are going out and doing things they shouldn't be on a school night, WHERE ARE THERE GIRLS IN THAT DAY!

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Anonymous wrote:You are generalizing, and that is never a good place to start with a school search. How your boys behave will have a lot more to do with how you raised them than where they go to school.

Your choosing their friends though and your parenting can’t control that.

No, you aren't choosing their friends by choosing their school. My kids have friends from many different schools. OP's premise is simply a stereotype, and one one that does not match our lived experience. None of any of my boys' friends would be considered a "bro" by a long, long, long shot. We left public school in part to get away from a group of boys who were toxic to my oldest.

Lol .. 1st sentence.. school don’t = friends

Last sentence.. we left school to get better friends.

Are you day drinking?

agreed here. The first statement is contradicting.

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I know the all boys schools in my area lie about their graduation rates so parents think their kids are messed up if they don't want to be there. Do the all boys schools discussed here all say their graduation rates are 100%???

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if I had to choose, I would go with Gonzaga, purely because of its size. The classes are around 250 per grade, meaning your son will more easily find his people. If you stumble upon a lousy class at any of the other schools, it really sucks not having options for friends.

250 per grade really? Or is there like 400 freshmen and under 200 seniors because people that go there leave?

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Anonymous wrote:My boys went coed through 8th, all boys for high school, and co ed for college. Why do you think those 4 years, where the girls are far more mature than the boys, are a crucial, or even good time, for them to be interacting in the classroom? My boys had friends who were girls while in high school. They were in coed activities outside of school. Going to a boys' school was no handicap to interacting with women outside of dating. Actually, not a lot of dating goes on in high school these days anyway.

I actually think it gave them the time and space to grow up and become themselves without worrying all day long about how girls' viewed them, and if they liked them, or dealing with (lets face it) mean girl dynamics targeted at boys, etc. I liked that they could leave all that aside when in the high school classroom and focus on the class. Maturity evens out by college, so the coed environment there is far more important to how they will interact with women in the working world. There is nothing "real world" about the high school years.

Our son also went coed through 8th grade. We chose an all boys school for high school for the same reason as the above poster; boys mature at a different rate than girls. He is very bright and an excellent student, but girls were too much of a distraction for him. His boarding school had numerous "mixers" with girls boarding school, so there are a lot of opportunities for the boys and girls to socialize. We think a single sex educational environment with coed social activities works well. He has all summer to interact with girls, but he will be back in an all male environment for the coming school year.

how do you know that being around girls were not a major driving factor of him being a very bright and excellent student? A very bright and excellent student sounds pretty good. Not sure I would want to mess with that. Unless of course that's what he wants, if that's the case great.

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My DD goes to an all girls high school and I am a fan of single sex education. I only hung out with boys from the all boys Prep School near me (think Georgetown Prep). I was in public and the boys at my public school were all unmotivated and wanted to party or were nerds - no in between. The Prep boys were from good families and were great kids. They were all athletes (even a lacrosse player) and none of them were anything but respectful and kind to others/girls. I’m sure there were some bad apples, but I never met any of them. Toxic male behavior can be found everywhere. I think the benefits of an all boys school far outweigh any perceived negatives.

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Anonymous wrote:All boys schools doesnt mean no interaction with girls and doesn’t mean bad behavior. Lot of stereotypes here, OP. Stop generalizing.

At an all boys school, meaning a school without girls, there is zero interaction with girls. If you want to say that everywhere but school there is interactions with girls, fine. But even that would be nuts to say. Get up in the morning, go to an all boys school, maybe go to practice after school (most likely Not a coed team) then go home after school. Unless they are going out and doing things they shouldn't be on a school night, WHERE ARE THERE GIRLS IN THAT DAY!

My son has classes with girls at the all girls school his school is associated with.

He also has a number of classes taught by excellent teachers that also happen to be women.

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Single sex schools do not represent the real world. My kids already live in a bubble and I don’t want to make it worse by sending them to a fake environment. However, to each their own. Private school is a luxury. I won’t judge your private school decision if you don’t judge my luxuries.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to NCS and I 100 percent agree with you. I would never send my sons to an all boys school after interacting with STA boys throughout high school. A handful of the boys were ok, but they tended to be the ones who didn't fit in well to the school overall.

It’s funny; I know quite a few NCS grads who say this about STA, specifically.

But, I also know a few STA grads who would never send their daughters to NCS.

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quoting you "but his impression is that many of the girls spout feminist ideas that they have not really thought about themselves, and they are combative in class and seem very unhappy and stressed academically."

Combative. Feminist. Sounds like how the STA boys used to like to put down NCS girls back in the 90s!

I'll grant you stressed academically is accurate. NCS is harder than STA and the girls work much harder than their counterparts at STA.

Why is described by someone as feminist a put down? My son’s sisters would describe themselves that way. However, repeating traditional feminist ideas without having explored them with intellectual rigor suggests more of a “following the party line” than independent thinking.

So STA boys still look down on/ are cowered by NCS girls.

It appears that nothing has changed since the ‘80s.

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly can’t believe people think this type of behavior exists only in all-boy schools.

1000 percent. My DD goes to a coed private and boys are all the same. Seriously people.

To the OP, when you write a post like this you have answered your own question. Hard pass.

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Anonymous wrote:Single sex schools do not represent the real world. My kids already live in a bubble and I don’t want to make it worse by sending them to a fake environment. However, to each their own. Private school is a luxury. I won’t judge your private school decision if you don’t judge my luxuries.

Assuming you’re not allowing your kids to go to college then, right? With it being a fake environment that’s not replicated anywhere else at any time of your DC’s life? Headed straight to the work force, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I think now that we are raising boys in a 'man hating' culture, particularly white men, it is more important than ever to put them in all boys schools to help with their confidence.

You are confusing hate with demanding accountability for one's actions.

One's action of...being born a white male? Mmkay.

DP. No, your actions of being clueless about your privilege and behaving in ways that are racist and entitled without ever realizing it … because you are clueless.

Your assumption that this is a “man-hating” culture is Exhibit 1 of your cluelessness. Take a look at the composition of Congress, the leadership of Fortune 500 companies, most positions of power and tell us all again how white man-hating this culture is.

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Anonymous wrote:My COED experience was like a mixture of Heathers, Mean Girls and 16 Candles. Beyond being absolutely horrible, so much time was wasted on so many things that meant nothing in the long run. Single sex for my kids all the way.

Similar experience but not sure what I'll do with kids. I'm open to both, though...I think there's a perception that co-ed is better bc world is co-ed diminishes the complexity of co-ed at the pubescent stage.

Agreed. Single-sec schools create a host of additional issues.

Read the previous sentence again. You clearly did not understand it.