Posting about kids on social media every single day

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Anonymous wrote:I did this on IG for my sons first year and then had it easily printed and bound Into a book.

I also did it to bother you.

Every day of the first year? That sounds like the most boring book ever.

Not OP but I have a sister-in-law that does this going on year 5 and yes it’s extremely tiring - mostly because she’s doing it in a way that doesn’t reflect her truth so I get the annoying/bothersome part. It’s everything is always perfect and positive and sometimes supper inappropriate and potentially embarrassing for the child - like no we don’t need to celebrate their first poop in a toilet - with potty pictures!

However, putting all that into a book every year would probably be something the child would look back and really cherish - esp as they move into adulthood or after you die. I would love to read a book about my grandmother’s thoughts on my mom growing up or my moms on me. It’s may be boring and tiresome and eye rolling for you but it’s not for the audience it should be for - the child.

That really boring book will be very special to them one day - or it would be to me and I’m not sentimental at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I am well aware that this is going to sound like those DCUM women who are like "I am 45 and people always think I'm 20." However, my kids are very interesting and genuinely hilarious, and I post good content.

I don't post photos of the child making a sand castle and say "great day at Rehoboth!" I might post something like a video of my then-3 year old son inexplicably meowing at the water when he's afraid of it, with the caption: "can your kid do that too?" Or a video of my 13 year old explaining that she absolutely cannot get up to do chores because a cat is asleep on her lap. Or a video of the two of them arguing about which group of people has the moral high ground in a fantasy novel they both read.

And then there are goofy things, like my husband boxing with DD, my kids playing bizarre games they made up but having a blast doing it, photos of them working on fathers day cards and them laughing with each other about how bad they are, videos of my son falling asleep while he eats French fries, etc. Out of context these don't sound funny or interesting, but people always go out of their way to comment on how much they like my posts.

I do know privacy is an issue, but I ask permission, I don't post anything I think they would be embarrassed about later (which is a different analysis for each kid), if they say no, I accept the no. The account is private (I would NEVER publicly share photos of my kids) and I'm not IG friends with anybody I don't know in real life.

So yeah, I do like family and friends knowing how funny and awesome my kids are. Or I suppose being reminded about how funny and awesome my kids are, because they already know my kids in person. If they don't want to hear about it, that's fine. I know my posts aren't to everybody's tastes and I'm sure some just don't care about things my kids do.

Another reason is that it is just for me easier access to memories. I have zillions of photos on my phone but the best ones I post to instagram.

And one last reason is that I never liked it when I was a kid and I saw relatives who hadn't seen me in a while and they were all like "wow you sure grew!" and went on and on about it. All the family members have seen the kids grow steadily so they are never subjected to comments about their growth.

There you have it, OP.
There are people who genuinely think other people are delighted by their kids mediocre lives.

Well when I don’t post for ten days and I get people texting me asking me why I’m not posting, I do think that they are genuinely interested. So perhaps the right way to say this is “there are people who are genuinely interested in these posts.”

Probably just trying to make sure you are dead. Here is how you know-how many friends vs how many comments? Say you have 100 friends and on every video you get 10 comments/likes - some people will like everything no matter what or some will like/comment out of obligation or duty but some really do enjoy your videos. So when you don’t post how many of those friends that like/comment actually message you? 2? 3? Then those are the only ones that actually care! Just text it to them.

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I think some parents don't understand where their lives end and their children's lives begin. Too many have no respect for their children, as individuals.
So many also living vicariously through their children.

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I have one friend like this. She posts lots of little moments of her two kids playing together. It seems like she's just happy and wants to share it. I don't mean like crafting an image of perfection (she also posts occasionally about getting divorced, so it really doesn't seem like she's trying to pain this perfect image), she just seems really delighted by her kids. Like Drew Barrymore discovering rain. It's not particularly interesting content, but it's nice to see.

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Anonymous wrote:I put pics of my kids on Facebook (not every day though) because when I don’t my mother in law bugs me to.

Is there a reason not to just send a Google link to the photos you want her to see? I'd feel really odd broadcasting to my whole social network something just meant for my mother in law. I'm not offended by ppl who do it your way, but am curious.

NP. How would you even do that? You know what, don’t tell me. I know so much easier to post them on Facebook.

I don’t post every day but often when I post it is for the in-laws. And note that MILs often don’t know how to do much on the computer besides Facebook.

Also I really don’t care if somebody looks at my posts or not. Mute me, de-friend me, whatever. I don’t post to make everybody I know happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I put pics of my kids on Facebook (not every day though) because when I don’t my mother in law bugs me to.

Is there a reason not to just send a Google link to the photos you want her to see? I'd feel really odd broadcasting to my whole social network something just meant for my mother in law. I'm not offended by ppl who do it your way, but am curious.

When I sent my mom photos she demanded "Put them on Facebook so Aunts X and Y can see." Then I made a private family group but that wasn't good enough. "I want the ladies from my exercise class to comment on the photos." Or some random neighbor lady. Now I rarely post anything at all because she is so annoying about it! Usually once per season.

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I post sparingly but I do find it funny how bothered people get by what others post. Who cares if Sarah makes a boring daily post about her baby every day for the first year? Just scroll by. Does it really bother people that much if someone uploads 20 pictures of their vacation? Don't go through them. Just scroll by. Lovey dovey anniversary posts? Scroll on by. I enjoy seeing the boring daily stuff as well as the exciting things people post about. It doesn't make me jealous or sad or angry. If you're feeling negative emotions tied to what others are posting, maybe it's time to evaluate what's up with your life that's causing you to feel this way.

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Anonymous wrote:I have one friend like this. She posts lots of little moments of her two kids playing together. It seems like she's just happy and wants to share it. I don't mean like crafting an image of perfection (she also posts occasionally about getting divorced, so it really doesn't seem like she's trying to pain this perfect image), she just seems really delighted by her kids. Like Drew Barrymore discovering rain. It's not particularly interesting content, but it's nice to see.

When kids are little, it is easy to do this. I had a friend who posted 365 days of gratitude a few years ago. Her posts didn’t bother me. I liked some and ignored most. I like her and her family so I enjoy her posts. I like her dog, her kids and if she posts a photo of food, it actually makes me want to try the ice cream shop or restaurant. Obviously if I didn’t like her, her posts would probably annoy me.

I have another friend who doesn’t post as often but every post seems like a brag post. There is always a subtle or not so
Subtle hint about how expensive and extravagant the trip or outing was.

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Anonymous wrote:I think some parents don't understand where their lives end and their children's lives begin. Too many have no respect for their children, as individuals.
So many also living vicariously through their children.

+a million

What’s even worse is the moms who post about their sick kids. Photos of kids before a surgery, kid at the doctor, “thanks for keeping us in your thoughts.” It’s gross.

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Anonymous wrote:I did this on IG for my sons first year and then had it easily printed and bound Into a book.

I also did it to bother you.

Good news! You can make your diary private, so it’s actually a diary and not a pathetic online bid for daily attention.

You’re welcome.

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Anonymous wrote:I put pics of my kids on Facebook (not every day though) because when I don’t my mother in law bugs me to.

Is there a reason not to just send a Google link to the photos you want her to see? I'd feel really odd broadcasting to my whole social network something just meant for my mother in law. I'm not offended by ppl who do it your way, but am curious.

NP. How would you even do that? You know what, don’t tell me. I know so much easier to post them on Facebook.

I don’t post every day but often when I post it is for the in-laws. And note that MILs often don’t know how to do much on the computer besides Facebook.

Also I really don’t care if somebody looks at my posts or not. Mute me, de-friend me, whatever. I don’t post to make everybody I know happy.

Thanks for replying. Makes sense if you're doing this for older family members who can't handle a different platform (or if you find facebook to be easiest). For me, google is easier. Maybe because I have an android phone. Bonus for me is that I can target the photos to specific recipients or a defined group.

You can share with a defined group on Facebook. Personally I have a no posting pictures of my dc on Facebook rule, but I do love seeing pictures posted by friends! Even if they post every day.

I'm assuming that most of the people who are "anti" posting on FB are only questioning those who post "for family" but aren't using the group settings on facebook. If they were, the rest of the world wouldn't be seeing them too.

*thunderous applause*

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I know a lot of people do this and I like seeing photos. I find it very strange that people want to post so many identifying details about their kids - school names, grades, teachers etc.

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I wish there were laws against it. So many kids now grow up posing and performing for their parents social media feeds. Really they are working children whose lives are being pushed out to the masses to satiate their parents need for attention or likes or money.

And I think it is also sad that others are so invested in families that they don’t even know that they happily enjoy kids being exploited. Why someone is fascinated by watching a random child eat a banana or watching a random woman pack her diaper bag or watching random kids forced to perform some little skit or routine or watching some random kid cry or have a meltdown. It’s such voyerism to me and at the expense of kids who have no say or control. I would 100% support laws limiting how often kids can be put on social media.

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Actually in know what’s even worse - people who constantly post photos of their kids on FB BUT put little hearts or smiley faces over their faces. Like “Karla’s first gymnastics competition!” With photos where you see the body so so so weird.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish there were laws against it. So many kids now grow up posing and performing for their parents social media feeds. Really they are working children whose lives are being pushed out to the masses to satiate their parents need for attention or likes or money.

And I think it is also sad that others are so invested in families that they don’t even know that they happily enjoy kids being exploited. Why someone is fascinated by watching a random child eat a banana or watching a random woman pack her diaper bag or watching random kids forced to perform some little skit or routine or watching some random kid cry or have a meltdown. It’s such voyerism to me and at the expense of kids who have no say or control. I would 100% support laws limiting how often kids can be put on social media.

+1000000. The culture needs to change around posting your kids online. It’s gross and the kids will resent you for it. Look up “sharenting”