Argue for or against this theory, if you have 2 children

[Anonymous]

I had a preference before becoming a mother and got the opposite sex from what I thought I wanted. Once my kids arrived, I fell in love with them. I don't see how parents could wish for anyone other than the kids they have.

[Anonymous]

I think its just ridiculous how people keep writing "i always wanted" as if youre entitled to what you "wanted." Unless you are choosing your gender via IVF, youre not getting the gender you wanted because you wanted it. All I truly cared about during my pregnancies was that my babies would be born healthy. I have two boys and of course would have loved a girl but for those with one of each or two of whichever gender who think they got those genders bc its what they always wanted etc is just reading obnoxious to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think its just ridiculous how people keep writing "i always wanted" as if youre entitled to what you "wanted." Unless you are choosing your gender via IVF, youre not getting the gender you wanted because you wanted it. All I truly cared about during my pregnancies was that my babies would be born healthy. I have two boys and of course would have loved a girl but for those with one of each or two of whichever gender who think they got those genders bc its what they always wanted etc is just reading obnoxious to me.

PP above and I still feel that as long as they are healthy, thats all that matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's always some relationship missing for someone.

I love having one of each. But I am a little sad my DD won't have a sister like I do. I have a brother too, but he doesn't have a brother (just two sisters). So I don't really feel sad my DS won't have a brother because it's not a relationship I saw growing up. My DH has a sister, not a brother.

So no matter what, there's *something* missing. But that's ok, because I love my kids and they are healthy and thriving and that's really the point of all this.

This. If I had unlimited resources and wasn't already in my 30s when we started our family, I'd have loved to have 2 boys and 2 girls so each child could have both same and opposite gender siblings and DH and I could have the experience of raising both boys and girls. But, that's not to be.

We have one of each. Older boy, younger girl. I did really want a girl for #2 but, out of a desire to not be disappointed if that wasn't to be, I spent the weeks prior to the gender u/s envisioning all the great things of having 2 boys, giving #1 a brother etc. Did such a good job that did feel a little pang of disappointment for not getting that when I learned we were having a girl! There are great things about all the potential gender mixes and how well they get along all comes down to individual personalities. In the end, very happy with one of each but they aren't particularly close. DS never expressed that he wanted a brother but DD did have an "invisible sister" imaginary friend when she was little. She's also been fortunate to become very close friends since 2nd grade with two girls who are both only-children. The are in HS now and I don't think she'd have the close sister-like relationships with them if any of them had sisters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so grateful to have one of each. My kids are 7 and 9 (boy). But i will say, I think it would be hella easier having same gender. I think I'm luckier that I have one of each but I do agree that as they get older as mine have, 2 of same gender can be great - if I was them I would love the same gender sibling. Also, I would love that if I did hand me down clothing as so dresses/shoes of DD may get worn just a few times, the activities would be a lot easier since my kids are all boy and all girl, entertainment as in movies would be easier too.. some of it is simply personality - they are just very boy and very girl so they don't like any of the same things. They get along and fight and what not but I can see that if they were the same gender, they would have even more fun FWIW I am an only child and my husband has an older brother. In a truly ideal world, I'd have 4 kids, 2 pair of each gender LOL

I have friends that have 3 of the same gender. They say they are happy but I also know they had the 3rd to try to get the other gender they don't have. Of course they accept once they don't get what they want but I think that all in all, having 1 of each is a parent's dream. I get that you love your kids no matter what but practically speaking, yeah, why wouldn't you want the experience of having a boy and a girl. So it works out any which way I suppose!

I truly never wanted a girl. I don't really like girly things or girly play. I don't like how vain girls are. The mood swings...
They worry of if they will be ugly.

LOL, I wanted a girl and got a girl who loves bugs, snakes, dirt. and has to be nagged to brush her hair. Bad idea to get too wrapped up preferring a particular gender because there's a good chance that particular child may not conform to the picture in your head of that gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think its just ridiculous how people keep writing "i always wanted" as if youre entitled to what you "wanted." Unless you are choosing your gender via IVF, youre not getting the gender you wanted because you wanted it. All I truly cared about during my pregnancies was that my babies would be born healthy. I have two boys and of course would have loved a girl but for those with one of each or two of whichever gender who think they got those genders bc its what they always wanted etc is just reading obnoxious to me.

I always wanted =/= I feel entitled to have.
It's closer to when you said "of course I would have loved a girl." It's the same exact sentiment. Don't know why it's fine for you to feel that way but obnoxious for everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Weird theory. Once we had one girl I wanted another girl. They are 3 and 9 months - two girls and I love it.

[Anonymous]

I've always wanted two girls and I got two girls. I've been happy with this decision since before they were born, when they were babies/toddlers, and now. But we haven't made it through the teenage years yet so I suppose I might need to get back to you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think its just ridiculous how people keep writing "i always wanted" as if youre entitled to what you "wanted." Unless you are choosing your gender via IVF, youre not getting the gender you wanted because you wanted it. All I truly cared about during my pregnancies was that my babies would be born healthy. I have two boys and of course would have loved a girl but for those with one of each or two of whichever gender who think they got those genders bc its what they always wanted etc is just reading obnoxious to me.

You must not be good at logic problems. Wanting something in no way means you are entitled to it. I never thought I had the kids I have because I wanted them. Honestly, no one thinks like you do, and the fact that you find it obnoxious says a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

I have two little kids and wanted GG but got GB. Agree this is weird.