Parents who don’t care about their child’s appearance

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Anonymous wrote:I am convinced there are a group of women on DCUM who start threads to prop up their HA reselling business.

It's just propaganda. HA does not make magical stain-resistant impossibly sturdy clothes. They absolutely get worn down and pill and stained like everything else. Frankly having had both Target clothes and the pricy brands for young kids, I think the pricy brands are totally a waste of money for young kids.

If you think your magical expensive brands stand up just so much better, it's because you don't let your little girls run around and have fun on the playground.

I love Tea and some Boden, but mostly for my DD, as the boys' designs seem babyish after a certain age. The reseller groups are kind of nuts and perpetuate this idea that these brands are an "investment": a million rules, people posting ISOs for certain hard-to-find items, if anything's been in the dryer ever it's automatically "play" condition, etc. It's this weird collector culture, like it's baseball cards or something. I do think that fast fashion like old navy, target, etc. can be problematic and it is more conscious to shop second hand, but it's kind of ridiculous to pay 15-20 dollars for a second hand tea dress.

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My husband does not care one bit about his clothes or his appearance in general. He’s an MD/PhD, and is very hygienic. But clothes? I grabbed him once going out of the door with huge rips in his shorts right below his bottom.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here and my nieces don’t really look unkept. I only noticed after caring for them for a week that their clothes are terrible. Polyester, pills, rips, etc. Why do people such cheap, itchy, poor quality clothing?!

If it bothers you so much, why don’t you gift them a bunch of new organic all cotton clothing?

I do give them clothing (just from target) for birthdays and Christmas and they love it.

Wait. So you give them Target clothing as gifts... and you’re complaining that their parents buy clothes from Target instead of HA?

Why not read the OP? . She specifically says that they could afford Target clothes but choose to dress the kids in falling apart threadbare clothes. Other people started saying that Target wasn’t good enough and saying they only use expensive brands.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

This. There are 2 categories of this and one annoys me and one doesn't.

1.) The parents and the kids EQUALLY aren't into appearances. These types are usually "earthy", maybe professors kids, maybe super religious but in general the whole family doesn't care about clothes, haircuts, hairstyles, being trendy or put together. Lots of times the kids share clothes regardless of gender or condition of clothes. The girls hair always looks terrible. The boys pants have holes. BUT they are well taken care of in the areas of education, hygiene, and general well being.

2.) The parents CLEARLY are obsessed with their own appearance and just could care less about the kids. The kids run around all day doing whatever the it shows. They forget to keep things like socks and new undies supplied and forget to go seasonally shoe shopping for the kids but have vast and expensive clothing and shoe collections themselves. These types really piss me off.

We are in category 1.
I actually tried to buy a bunch of expensive clothes after they were recommended on DCUM. I don’t think I take care of them properly or something, because my kids still looked like a mess. Now, I dress them all mostly in underarmour (even my girls). The first Sunday of every month, I take them for haircuts, buy new bows for my daughters and hair wax for the boys, then go to the mall and pick out 3-4 new outfits. Their appearance has dramatically improved.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

This. There are 2 categories of this and one annoys me and one doesn't.

1.) The parents and the kids EQUALLY aren't into appearances. These types are usually "earthy", maybe professors kids, maybe super religious but in general the whole family doesn't care about clothes, haircuts, hairstyles, being trendy or put together. Lots of times the kids share clothes regardless of gender or condition of clothes. The girls hair always looks terrible. The boys pants have holes. BUT they are well taken care of in the areas of education, hygiene, and general well being.

2.) The parents CLEARLY are obsessed with their own appearance and just could care less about the kids. The kids run around all day doing whatever the it shows. They forget to keep things like socks and new undies supplied and forget to go seasonally shoe shopping for the kids but have vast and expensive clothing and shoe collections themselves. These types really piss me off.

We are in category 1.
I actually tried to buy a bunch of expensive clothes after they were recommended on DCUM. I don’t think I take care of them properly or something, because my kids still looked like a mess. Now, I dress them all mostly in underarmour (even my girls). The first Sunday of every month, I take them for haircuts, buy new bows for my daughters and hair wax for the boys, then go to the mall and pick out 3-4 new outfits. Their appearance has dramatically improved.

Haircuts and 3-4 new outfits per person per month? Wow. I'm definitely in category one by that measure. Haircuts when starting to look shaggy (anywhere from 4-10 weeks depending on cut) and enough clothes to make it through a typical week in matching, seasonally appropriate outfits.

I used to wonder about kids who looked messy when my kid was 1 and not able to do as much. Now he is almost 4, has strong opinions about clothes (no buttons on anything ever), and pretty good at getting mussed up shortly after being dressed.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

This. There are 2 categories of this and one annoys me and one doesn't.

1.) The parents and the kids EQUALLY aren't into appearances. These types are usually "earthy", maybe professors kids, maybe super religious but in general the whole family doesn't care about clothes, haircuts, hairstyles, being trendy or put together. Lots of times the kids share clothes regardless of gender or condition of clothes. The girls hair always looks terrible. The boys pants have holes. BUT they are well taken care of in the areas of education, hygiene, and general well being.

2.) The parents CLEARLY are obsessed with their own appearance and just could care less about the kids. The kids run around all day doing whatever the it shows. They forget to keep things like socks and new undies supplied and forget to go seasonally shoe shopping for the kids but have vast and expensive clothing and shoe collections themselves. These types really piss me off.

We are in category 1.
I actually tried to buy a bunch of expensive clothes after they were recommended on DCUM. I don’t think I take care of them properly or something, because my kids still looked like a mess. Now, I dress them all mostly in underarmour (even my girls). The first Sunday of every month, I take them for haircuts, buy new bows for my daughters and hair wax for the boys, then go to the mall and pick out 3-4 new outfits. Their appearance has dramatically improved.

Haircuts and 3-4 new outfits per person per month? Wow. I'm definitely in category one by that measure. Haircuts when starting to look shaggy (anywhere from 4-10 weeks depending on cut) and enough clothes to make it through a typical week in matching, seasonally appropriate outfits.

I used to wonder about kids who looked messy when my kid was 1 and not able to do as much. Now he is almost 4, has strong opinions about clothes (no buttons on anything ever), and pretty good at getting mussed up shortly after being dressed.

Yeah. I don’t know. I am aware that people are able to get their kids looking out together with much less effort, but I just can’t seem to manage it. They actually still don’t look great. They just look like all of the other kids now instead of the messiest ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, OP. Go find a hobby.

I hate when people on here say that. I mean, you're here too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

Or maybe they care about things other then appearances!

That’s really sad and a horrible excuse to be lazy.

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Make sure your kids’ Nails are clipped and clean. It’s the least you all can do if you can’t be bothered to brush your kids’s Hair and provide within with clean clothes.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

Or maybe they care about things other then appearances!

That’s really sad and a horrible excuse to be lazy.

My parents were like that.

It was really really hard to get to my early teens having no experience with how to care for myself. Other kids noticed and it was brutal to try to figure everything out on my own long after everyone else.

Don’t do this to your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

Or maybe they care about things other then appearances!

That’s really sad and a horrible excuse to be lazy.

Excessive attention to appearance is a sign of class insecurity. People who know they’re not going to slide down the class ladder/those with nothing to prove tend to focus less on brands and grooming themselves within an inch of their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

Or maybe they care about things other then appearances!

That’s really sad and a horrible excuse to be lazy.

Excessive attention to appearance is a sign of class insecurity. People who know they’re not going to slide down the class ladder/those with nothing to prove tend to focus less on brands and grooming themselves within an inch of their lives.

That has absolutely nothing to do with not combing your kids’ hair and providing with clean clothes— brands do not matter.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

Or maybe they care about things other then appearances!

That’s really sad and a horrible excuse to be lazy.

Excessive attention to appearance is a sign of class insecurity. People who know they’re not going to slide down the class ladder/those with nothing to prove tend to focus less on brands and grooming themselves within an inch of their lives.

oh so high class people go around disheveled in cheap polyester clothes? who knew!

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

Or maybe they care about things other then appearances!

That’s really sad and a horrible excuse to be lazy.

My parents were like that.

It was really really hard to get to my early teens having no experience with how to care for myself. Other kids noticed and it was brutal to try to figure everything out on my own long after everyone else.

Don’t do this to your kid.

Kids have YouTube tutorials for all that stuff now.

[Anonymous]

I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.