Best revenge you ever got on someone?

[Anonymous]

Revenge is stupid. What a waste of time. It is all about your attitude. Things happen, but mostly it isn't because people are wronging you. Most people are just being selfish or looking out for themselves.

I think most of life is like being in an exercise class. You think everybody is looking at you or cares that your butt is jiggling. Nope. They are all obsessed with their own jiggling bellies and don't even notice you. That explosive laughter at the back of the class has nothing to do with your Downward Facing Dog at all, but probably because somebody farted while doing their own DFD.

Revenge is pointless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.

I'm sure you're lying about that. Nobody would not invite a kid to a party because of a parents affair.

Try again. Keep trying to convince yourself that your bitterness is actually hurting someone other than yourself.

Okay, so it was at least 4. Not lying about it. Yes, when the neighborhood is so interconnected and everyone knows everyone, yes, people don't invite others to parties for this reason. It is about screwing being nice to the mom who was sleeping with a friend's husband. My friends see them out together with our kids and they get disgusted.

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Are you talking about ... kids’ birthday parties? As in, some poor kids whose lives have already been upended through no fault of their own didn’t get invited to their friends’ Birthday parties? And this is supposed to be a punishment for the adults who don’t like these things anyway? I hope I’m misunderstanding!

The friends of the kids are absolutely invited to their birthday parties. But sometimes you invite non-friends so the parents don't feel like their kid was left out. These kids aren't friends with his AP's DD. A few people didn't care if she and my STBX felt left out. Her kid has plenty of other parties to go to. But it is noticible she isn't getting the pity invites.

Looks to me as though she was talking about kids' bday parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Before the birth of our second child I knew I planned to divorce her so after the birth I convinced her to get her tubes tied. She won’t be giving another man children.

you need to familiarize yourself with IVF

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.

I'm sure you're lying about that. Nobody would not invite a kid to a party because of a parents affair.

Try again. Keep trying to convince yourself that your bitterness is actually hurting someone other than yourself.

Okay, so it was at least 4. Not lying about it. Yes, when the neighborhood is so interconnected and everyone knows everyone, yes, people don't invite others to parties for this reason. It is about screwing being nice to the mom who was sleeping with a friend's husband. My friends see them out together with our kids and they get disgusted.

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Are you talking about ... kids’ birthday parties? As in, some poor kids whose lives have already been upended through no fault of their own didn’t get invited to their friends’ Birthday parties? And this is supposed to be a punishment for the adults who don’t like these things anyway? I hope I’m misunderstanding!

The friends of the kids are absolutely invited to their birthday parties. But sometimes you invite non-friends so the parents don't feel like their kid was left out. These kids aren't friends with his AP's DD. A few people didn't care if she and my STBX felt left out. Her kid has plenty of other parties to go to. But it is noticible she isn't getting the pity invites.

Well, you don’t even know how to spell, so I’m pretty sure no one is really upset about anything that comes from you. You’re irrelevant. I’m sorry for that.

[Anonymous]

Best revenge I ever got was actually my ex’s revenge that backfired on her.

We divorced and we shared custody. She would bad mouth me to the kids. Flake out on drop-offs. She tried to do things to sabotage my relationships with my kids – telling me that event/game times had changed. Hauled me into court at every turn. Very similar to what PP did. It is irrelevant here but, on the advice of my lawyer, I saved and documented EVERYTHING and formalized every communication. Kids got older and openly questioned why the math was not adding up – things she was saying about me were not the same things they saw. Still, I never said a bad word about her to them. Just did the best I could. Final straw was she lost her mind when my oldest DD (who was a teen) accused her of manipulating her relationship with me. They had a big blow up and, although they have made peace, their relationship has been changed forever. She now sees her mom differently. They all do.

Moral of the story: Move on and try to find happiness. Revenge is not all is cracked up to be and can bite you in the behind if you are not careful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For the PP who pulled all the stupid crap listed (e.g., making sure her XH had trouble buying Christmas gifts for her kids): Every time you tried to hurt him you sent the message of just how hung up on him you still are.

Everyone but you can see it. Including your kids.

you don't know what you are talking about. I have a great relationship with my kids. They prefer me over their father. They wouldn't do that if he was a good guy. He deserves what he gets and don't try to shame me for sticking up for myself.

If your ex is as bad of a guy as you say, none of this really hurts him, it just hurts your kids (and you.). Maybe they seem fine now, but do you think they will be able to have healthy relationships themselves after watching you do all this to yourself and them? Consider some counseling for yourself and for them. If you cannot let go of your anger they will wind up emotionally stunted developmentally. Watching your kids be disappointed to be missing Christmas presents does not bring real joy. I'm sure you had some really unfair things happen to you, but just think about the struggling parents who manage to swallow their pride and accept toys from total strangers just to avoid disappointing their kids this Christmas. You can do better, op. I hope you can turn over a new leaf this season. I wish you and your kids peace.

[Anonymous]

Banged his best friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best revenge I ever got was actually my ex’s revenge that backfired on her.

We divorced and we shared custody. She would bad mouth me to the kids. Flake out on drop-offs. She tried to do things to sabotage my relationships with my kids – telling me that event/game times had changed. Hauled me into court at every turn. Very similar to what PP did. It is irrelevant here but, on the advice of my lawyer, I saved and documented EVERYTHING and formalized every communication. Kids got older and openly questioned why the math was not adding up – things she was saying about me were not the same things they saw. Still, I never said a bad word about her to them. Just did the best I could. Final straw was she lost her mind when my oldest DD (who was a teen) accused her of manipulating her relationship with me. They had a big blow up and, although they have made peace, their relationship has been changed forever. She now sees her mom differently. They all do.

Moral of the story: Move on and try to find happiness. Revenge is not all is cracked up to be and can bite you in the behind if you are not careful.

Something similar happened to us. But the kids were very young. We saved and documented everything. She pulled us into court AGAIN for some ridiculous made up reason. The judge had just had enough. Awarded my DH physical custody and gave her every other weekend. PAS is a serious issue. The kids are adults now and have very little contact with their biological mother. They see her once a year at Christmas, but won't even spend the night.

Be careful, OP. This kind of revenge can backfire in a catastrophic way.

[Anonymous]

OP, what is your situation that common sense doesn't apply? The best revenge is living well, so get busy living well LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Revenge served hot:

1. I aired all our dirty laundry to one of the executive admins at his job knowing she would spread anything I told her.

Revenge served warm:

2. Told him I wanted to work things out and got him into marriage counseling and just when he thought things were settled down I served him papers while he was at lunch with clients. Awkward!

Revenge served cold:

3. Years after the divorce I found out he was getting remarried so I sued for a custodial modification by serving him on the morning of the wedding and also asking for more child support.
4. I also saved up all the medical bills for months and had a few thousand dollars of reimbursement receipts delivered to him the day they returned from their honeymoon.
5. A month into the case I dropped my attorney and started calling his attorney every day to discuss various things because I knew his lawyer was charging $500 per hour. I did that for several months until just before the hearing and I dropped the case. It cost him around 20 grand. I know this caused a lot of problems for him during their first year of marriage. It also made the kids upset with him because he didn't have money for their Christmas and birthdays.
6. Occasionally I'll agree to extended summer vacations for the kids and then play "hard to get" concerning the pickup and drop off dates. This really pisses him off when he needs to buy airline tickets because he can't really make reservations for anything until that gets worked out. He likes to make reservations in advance.

You are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Before the birth of our second child I knew I planned to divorce her so after the birth I convinced her to get her tubes tied. She won’t be giving another man children.

you need to familiarize yourself with IVF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Revenge served hot:

1. I aired all our dirty laundry to one of the executive admins at his job knowing she would spread anything I told her.

Revenge served warm:

2. Told him I wanted to work things out and got him into marriage counseling and just when he thought things were settled down I served him papers while he was at lunch with clients. Awkward!

Revenge served cold:

3. Years after the divorce I found out he was getting remarried so I sued for a custodial modification by serving him on the morning of the wedding and also asking for more child support.
4. I also saved up all the medical bills for months and had a few thousand dollars of reimbursement receipts delivered to him the day they returned from their honeymoon.
5. A month into the case I dropped my attorney and started calling his attorney every day to discuss various things because I knew his lawyer was charging $500 per hour. I did that for several months until just before the hearing and I dropped the case. It cost him around 20 grand. I know this caused a lot of problems for him during their first year of marriage. It also made the kids upset with him because he didn't have money for their Christmas and birthdays.
6. Occasionally I'll agree to extended summer vacations for the kids and then play "hard to get" concerning the pickup and drop off dates. This really pisses him off when he needs to buy airline tickets because he can't really make reservations for anything until that gets worked out. He likes to make reservations in advance.

You are pathetic.

And single, I bet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best revenge I ever got was actually my ex’s revenge that backfired on her.

We divorced and we shared custody. She would bad mouth me to the kids. Flake out on drop-offs. She tried to do things to sabotage my relationships with my kids – telling me that event/game times had changed. Hauled me into court at every turn. Very similar to what PP did. It is irrelevant here but, on the advice of my lawyer, I saved and documented EVERYTHING and formalized every communication. Kids got older and openly questioned why the math was not adding up – things she was saying about me were not the same things they saw. Still, I never said a bad word about her to them. Just did the best I could. Final straw was she lost her mind when my oldest DD (who was a teen) accused her of manipulating her relationship with me. They had a big blow up and, although they have made peace, their relationship has been changed forever. She now sees her mom differently. They all do.

Moral of the story: Move on and try to find happiness. Revenge is not all is cracked up to be and can bite you in the behind if you are not careful.

I don't understand how this plays out in practice. When the kids are older do you just pull out a binder full of e-mails and texts and let them read through them? I'm not in this situation so I can't relate to how kids think but it just seems like it would be weird having them read historical information and connecting all the dots. Like, her telling you that the time of an event changed so you missed it. Just seems like an older kid wouldn't remember that specific event and what time it was or whatever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: Before the birth of our second child I knew I planned to divorce her so after the birth I convinced her to get her tubes tied. She won’t be giving another man children.

you need to familiarize yourself with IVF

NP and it seems like a nasty thing to do to someone. Isn't IVF really really expensive though? There's posts on the Money section about people spending tens of thousands of dollars on it.

[Anonymous]

Not really adding to the discussion but I’m loving Pink’s song Revenge with Eminem on her new Album