Dating etiquete - what next?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, there is a big difference between confidence and being conceited. You've crossed that line. It's good you're fine being alone because being conceited is very off putting and few guys will want to put up with it. See if you can figure out how to do the confidence bit by itself. It's far more attractive and I bet you'll be even happier

I understand what you're saying but I think you're not understanding me. I realize now that I'm not good at getting my meaning and tone across by text in this type of situation, at least until I learn to do it better. But people who know me very well and tell me exactly what they think even if it's a criticism, all say I'm not conceited or arrogant. They say I'm humble, sweet, considerate. There are other characteristics they criticize me for but lack of humility IRL is not one of them.

[Anonymous]

OP, my heart hurt for my earlier criticism after I read your last post. I have to apologize. Your confidence is hard-won and well-deserved. I wish you all the best.

[Anonymous]

I'm 38 and considering divorcing. People tell me all the time that I look younger. I'm Asian, have long hair and dress youthful. I would never be delusional to think some guy is in love with me after a few texts. I am sure it is very possible to be attractive and desirable at age 46. Your attitude is off putting though. Women in their mid-late 40's are not as desirable as you may like.

[Anonymous]

I use women like OP for pump and dump. Vulnerable clueless and conceited! But if you pick the right one, you get serviced very well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 38 and considering divorcing. People tell me all the time that I look younger. I'm Asian, have long hair and dress youthful. I would never be delusional to think some guy is in love with me after a few texts. I am sure it is very possible to be attractive and desirable at age 46. Your attitude is off putting though. Women in their mid-late 40's are not as desirable as you may like.

OP said that they have been in the same social circle for some time. So even though the dating is new, he is not.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you on some sort of feel good drugs? Most of your comments seem unrealistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, there is a big difference between confidence and being conceited. You've crossed that line. It's good you're fine being alone because being conceited is very off putting and few guys will want to put up with it. See if you can figure out how to do the confidence bit by itself. It's far more attractive and I bet you'll be even happier

I understand what you're saying but I think you're not understanding me. I realize now that I'm not good at getting my meaning and tone across by text in this type of situation, at least until I learn to do it better. But people who know me very well and tell me exactly what they think even if it's a criticism, all say I'm not conceited or arrogant. They say I'm humble, sweet, considerate. There are other characteristics they criticize me for but lack of humility IRL is not one of them.

Um, how has this topic come up? "So enough about me. What do you think of me?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 38 and considering divorcing. People tell me all the time that I look younger. I'm Asian, have long hair and dress youthful. I would never be delusional to think some guy is in love with me after a few texts. I am sure it is very possible to be attractive and desirable at age 46. Your attitude is off putting though. Women in their mid-late 40's are not as desirable as you may like.

I don't know, I guess it depends on perspective. I think women in their 40s are incredibly desirable. When you get a bit more emotionally mature, age tends to have much less bearing on desirability.
-BR

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I use women like OP for pump and dump. Vulnerable clueless and conceited! But if you pick the right one, you get serviced very well.

Couldn't have said it better myself!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, OP? I feel like my mom would act like you if she were suddenly single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good lord you sound full of yourself. I mean, you sounded a little conceited when you posted twice about your looks and how much men hit on you but now with your "he must be in love with me" comment, you just sound incredibly conceited with no self awareness. Work on that. At your age, looks only go so far with getting you a LTR. If you continue to have the shitty attitude, it's going to be a struggle

She's so full of shit it's disgusting. Unfortunately OP is the rule, not the exception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I use women like OP for pump and dump. Vulnerable clueless and conceited! But if you pick the right one, you get serviced very well.

Thank you for reminding me why I'm generally turned off by dating now that I'm divorced. I'm healthy, attractive, friendly, smart and have a ton to offer. But this is the kind of attitude that makes me want to just hang with my girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use women like OP for pump and dump. Vulnerable clueless and conceited! But if you pick the right one, you get serviced very well.

Thank you for reminding me why I'm generally turned off by dating now that I'm divorced. I'm healthy, attractive, friendly, smart and have a ton to offer. But this is the kind of attitude that makes me want to just hang with my girlfriends.

And pray tell what do you have to offer? Your youth was sucked dry by the first guy you married. Your body is a bag of botox and expensive make up. You are relatively fit for a middle aged hag, I will give you that. You come with baggage- children. You are a mess emotionally. You are high maintenance financially and emotionally. You are a waste of time in the dating world! And you feel "hurt" the moment I bring up a pre-nup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use women like OP for pump and dump. Vulnerable clueless and conceited! But if you pick the right one, you get serviced very well.

Thank you for reminding me why I'm generally turned off by dating now that I'm divorced. I'm healthy, attractive, friendly, smart and have a ton to offer. But this is the kind of attitude that makes me want to just hang with my girlfriends.

And pray tell what do you have to offer? Your youth was sucked dry by the first guy you married. Your body is a bag of botox and expensive make up. You are relatively fit for a middle aged hag, I will give you that. You come with baggage- children. You are a mess emotionally. You are high maintenance financially and emotionally. You are a waste of time in the dating world! And you feel "hurt" the moment I bring up a pre-nup.

WTF who writes this shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use women like OP for pump and dump. Vulnerable clueless and conceited! But if you pick the right one, you get serviced very well.

Thank you for reminding me why I'm generally turned off by dating now that I'm divorced. I'm healthy, attractive, friendly, smart and have a ton to offer. But this is the kind of attitude that makes me want to just hang with my girlfriends.

And pray tell what do you have to offer? Your youth was sucked dry by the first guy you married. Your body is a bag of botox and expensive make up. You are relatively fit for a middle aged hag, I will give you that. You come with baggage- children. You are a mess emotionally. You are high maintenance financially and emotionally. You are a waste of time in the dating world! And you feel "hurt" the moment I bring up a pre-nup.

Welp - suffice it to say that you'll never find out what I, or any woman like me, has to offer. You are a small, sad, bitter soul. We can see your type coming a mile away. Subtle you are not. Nor are you any sort of value add. So peddle your nonsense somewhere else, little fella.