What you're not taking into account is that some people don't think of credit cards as easy money and don't spend much in the first place. I have credit cards and I pretty much only buy necessities. I mean, you only have my word for it, but I hate accumulating stuff, whether it be clothes or toys for the kids or whatever else. I try to spend as thoughtfully as I can, and only on things that I think will make a real improvement and fill a real need. That's just how I was raised. I don't even go to Target, because Target has a ton of junk, some of it overpriced and the occasional deal is not worth my time there. If I decide to make an extra purchase, I usually go home, think it over, and then go back to the store if I decide it's something I really want. I also usually tally up how much I'm spending before I get to the checkout counter, same as if I had cash. I'm a real believer that self-control is possible, and I don't want to carry around a ton of cash and have to go to the ATM every week. |
DO NOT believe what this guy is trying to tell you. It's a lot more likely to lose all your money on that call option (options expire worthless on Jan 2015) than earning the return you "dreamed" of. Option writers (the party who sells you the options) are generally more informed than option buyers. So the odds are against you. It's like buying the lotteries. PP, get familiar with the finance literature before you come here and fool people's money away. You're making too many assumptions that you don't even understand. |
Incomes here are high - that neighbor who you think makes the same as you could be making $400k. And yes parents chip in a lot. I have a friend who just upgraded their house by over a million. Grandparents wrote a check to help. Many people with vacation homes got the money from relatives. And earning $225k with two incomes is more costly wrt commuting and child are than having a single earner and a SAH parent. |
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It's likely that incomes are higher than you realize. You're making 225k, your neighbors could be making 300k. I realize that's "only" 75k, but that sort of difference helps a lot when it comes to being able to splurge on luxury cars, vacations, home renovations etc. and it makes you feel like you have cash in your pocket even after all the retirement savings etc. is taken out of your paycheck.
A staggering number of Americans are paycheck to paycheck or even beyond their means. It's not like those statistics don't apply to DC families. I know people who will do anything to buy the right house and car, even if it means that they don't start funding a 401k into their 30s -- true story. A lot of SAHMs here were in fact in biglaw before staying home. 5 yrs in biglaw, or even 2-3 yrs gets you started with a really nice nest egg esp if you lived below your means, saved/invested it all, and didn't have law school debt. And then as others mentioned -- family help. So your really don't know what anyone's situation is, so don't worry about it and try not to compare. |
I think your neighbors incomes are probably higher than you think. Lots of people in this area are couples with two law firm partners, or highly paid consultants, doctors, business types who are both making very good incomes.
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Well BAC is at $13.57 today!!
So much for the "expert". |
You will be forever poor for wasting money on private school instead of investing in a good home in a good public school district. |
When it makes sense, casually work it into the conversation, one little nugget at a time. I hate that smugness. |
+1. You'll make a return on the house. You won't make a return on the private school. |
We made $400K last year (usually make $200K but DH had a big deal go through) and I totally thought we were all set and wouldn't have to worry about every purchase, but here I am still deciding if its worth it to splurge on the $4 cereal or stick with the one on sane for $2.50.
Part of it is your mindset. We don't go on fancy vacations, have 2 2007 cars, wear mostly hand-me-downs, no cable, rarely eat out, and save only the matched 5% for retirement. But we pay for 3 private school tuitions ($45K last year) + a nanny share ($18K last year) and we paid off a $65K student loan. After taxes, we weren't really left with as much as I thought, even though it was double what we made in the past. |
I, personally, can't imagine how you pay for three private school tuitions and a nanny share on your normal $200k. |
That is a horrible decision to send your kids to private instead of saving for retirement. Unbelievable. |
I feel the opposite. I use cash so rarely that whenever I do, it feels like Monopoly money. I just check my Mint app all the time, so I can see how the budget lines are inching along. Not making any of my budgets go into the red zone is really motivating. |