Loudoun breaking new ground!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we are complaining that a coach made cuts at a tryout?

The parents would rather break the news to their kid at home while they're hugging little Johnny to make sure he's ok? Grow up people, they're 10-11 years old, it's ok to fail and work hard for something you want.

I can see these parents taking their kids out to Hibachi to break the news they're on the 2nd or 3rd team LOL

A coach shouldn't be cutting little kids off teams in person in front of hundreds of people and other kids. That shows such poor judgment and character. Its amazing you would let someone who did that coach your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Loudoun tryouts were a joke. We only attended day 2. The coaches weren’t even paying attention. My son advanced up 3 teams throughout the night. He scored 5 goals on the 3rd scrimmage… the coach had his back turned and missed all 5 of them. It’s as if they already knew what the teams were and gave zero F’s about anyone new trying out. There was one scrimmage of 11v11 on a quarter sized field, the same sized field rec kids play 4v4 on and the coach was yelling at the boys to stop bunching up. Bro, there’s no space for them to spread out.

I have seen this also at other clubs. Its frustrating. But I would tell you, if you want to really get an offer there, go to all the tryouts and ask to come to a practice too.

I have seen them give an offer that night to kids who can cook (sounds like your kid cooked that night) and I have seen them totally disengaged and not paying attention. Open tryouts suck for many reasons, this is just but two of them. I'd circle back and ask to attend a practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we are complaining that a coach made cuts at a tryout?

The parents would rather break the news to their kid at home while they're hugging little Johnny to make sure he's ok? Grow up people, they're 10-11 years old, it's ok to fail and work hard for something you want.

I can see these parents taking their kids out to Hibachi to break the news they're on the 2nd or 3rd team LOL

A coach shouldn't be cutting little kids off teams in person in front of hundreds of people and other kids. That shows such poor judgment and character. Its amazing you would let someone who did that coach your child.

Isn’t it sad that people this lacking in emotional intelligence are raising children? Ready to repeat the mistakes in the next generation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, 1st tryout day was brutal! Soaked Cotton tshirts in driving rain. I was impressed by all the kids. I was never that tough. Its a proud day when you realize your kid is tougher and better than you! These kids are all gonna do great as long as we model good behavior.

It was an especially long tryout season for my kid this year because they tried out for a few high level teams. Those didn’t work out, so then they had to go through the tryouts for the second tier. They were at tryouts in snow, in cold rain, and 90 degrees. I told them how proud I was for putting themselves out there.

Anyway, threads like this are good because they help parents figure out coaches to stay away from. I refuse to pay several thousand dollars to knowingly put my kids around people who either don’t know or don’t care about how to treat children, a few times per week for 10 months. Parents need to demand better from clubs and vote with their feet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, 1st tryout day was brutal! Soaked Cotton tshirts in driving rain. I was impressed by all the kids. I was never that tough. Its a proud day when you realize your kid is tougher and better than you! These kids are all gonna do great as long as we model good behavior.

It was an especially long tryout season for my kid this year because they tried out for a few high level teams. Those didn’t work out, so then they had to go through the tryouts for the second tier. They were at tryouts in snow, in cold rain, and 90 degrees. I told them how proud I was for putting themselves out there.

Anyway, threads like this are good because they help parents figure out coaches to stay away from. I refuse to pay several thousand dollars to knowingly put my kids around people who either don’t know or don’t care about how to treat children, a few times per week for 10 months. Parents need to demand better from clubs and vote with their feet.

True, but we have to be able to balance the opinions between facts and just bierness towards certain coaches. But enough evidence and comments allows a chance to balance it all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we are complaining that a coach made cuts at a tryout?

The parents would rather break the news to their kid at home while they're hugging little Johnny to make sure he's ok? Grow up people, they're 10-11 years old, it's ok to fail and work hard for something you want.

I can see these parents taking their kids out to Hibachi to break the news they're on the 2nd or 3rd team LOL

This guy touches himself while wearing his ECNL hat and his kid’s medals in front of the mirror

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, 1st tryout day was brutal! Soaked Cotton tshirts in driving rain. I was impressed by all the kids. I was never that tough. Its a proud day when you realize your kid is tougher and better than you! These kids are all gonna do great as long as we model good behavior.

It was an especially long tryout season for my kid this year because they tried out for a few high level teams. Those didn’t work out, so then they had to go through the tryouts for the second tier. They were at tryouts in snow, in cold rain, and 90 degrees. I told them how proud I was for putting themselves out there.

Anyway, threads like this are good because they help parents figure out coaches to stay away from. I refuse to pay several thousand dollars to knowingly put my kids around people who either don’t know or don’t care about how to treat children, a few times per week for 10 months. Parents need to demand better from clubs and vote with their feet.

True, but we have to be able to balance the opinions between facts and just bierness towards certain coaches. But enough evidence and comments allows a chance to balance it all.

Doesn't sound like there is any positive evidence for JC.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. Rejection is a part of life, but public rejection does not need to be. If your company is doing layoffs, do they line everyone up and publicly announce who gets to keep their job? If you don’t think that would be appropriate for adults, why do you think it would be appropriate for children?

Please stop. This is a ridiculous comment. This happens at most tryouts where players are moved to their respective teams in front of all of the other candidates. I’m sorry your DC was cut or moved down. They will be better for it in the long run. Teaching moment - it will teach them to persevere.

You stop. You know nothing about child development or psychology. There is no benefit to being rejected in front of peers. I know of what I speak. That is not a growth experience; it’s an experience that causes shame. The teaching moment can happen through a conversation between the parent/coach and player when they get cut or moved down. You need to separate the rejection from the public aspect of it. I’m sorry for your children that you are raising them with such little awareness of things that can affect them greatly.

I am not that parent and I don’t have a psychology degree but I am a little disappointed in this response if you are a professional. My kid is only 11 and has read Victor Frankie “Man’s Search for Meaning.” They understand that any circumstance in their life depends on how they interpret it. My kid does not feel shame because they don’t allow something as silly as an A team and B team determine their worth. They know that any evaluation: grades, tryouts, standardized test, school acceptances, etc. are evaluations at a certain point in time and have no bearing on who they are as people. If they want a different outcome, they must evaluate what they are doing and change. If your child feels shame due to the actions of others, that is a parenting issue that you can now change if you weren’t aware before.

I have a doctorate in psychology and your sample size of one does not refute the research on the impact of public rejection in children. Nor did you address the public aspect of the rejection, which is the problem here (not the rejection itself). Any clinical psychologist would agree that what was described here is not at all developmentally appropriate. While it may not be something that would bother your child, we know from research that public rejection is experienced by some kids as humiliation, which can then lead to feelings of shame. It’s a bad practice for anyone who cares about kids’ well-being. It is not a weakness to feel humiliated; it’s a normal human emotion. While it’s inevitable at some point in life, adults should not take actions that actively contribute to it.

You might want to get a refund on this degree and stay at a Holiday Inn.

Whatever is happening in normal parenting circles is not working. You just said while it may not bother my child while not acknowledging that my caveman parenting is responsible for the resilience of my child.

Here is where the pearls will be c

[Anonymous]

Hit enter by accident. I will simply state that there is so much pearl clutching in this space but you are not monitoring your kids and what they say on the pitch to minority kids. When you kids make A team, you don’t check how they treat B team and below. There is so much hypocrisy. You don’t see the humiliation others are enduring. You only whine when it hits you.

Instead of citing a double-blind study, you should be trying to figure out how a parent intellectually inferior to you is raising kids with superior emotion and intellectual intelligence than the majority of our current population. Study that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hit enter by accident. I will simply state that there is so much pearl clutching in this space but you are not monitoring your kids and what they say on the pitch to minority kids. When you kids make A team, you don’t check how they treat B team and below. There is so much hypocrisy. You don’t see the humiliation others are enduring. You only whine when it hits you.

Instead of citing a double-blind study, you should be trying to figure out how a parent intellectually inferior to you is raising kids with superior emotion and intellectual intelligence than the majority of our current population. Study that.

Your writing reflects a lack of coherence to your thoughts, so I think you’ve got bigger issues here. In addition, your insecurities about you and your child are very much on display. There are some PhD and MD trained people who could help you with these things, but you clearly reject expertise due to your need to feel superior. Maybe some narcissism happening there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hit enter by accident. I will simply state that there is so much pearl clutching in this space but you are not monitoring your kids and what they say on the pitch to minority kids. When you kids make A team, you don’t check how they treat B team and below. There is so much hypocrisy. You don’t see the humiliation others are enduring. You only whine when it hits you.

Instead of citing a double-blind study, you should be trying to figure out how a parent intellectually inferior to you is raising kids with superior emotion and intellectual intelligence than the majority of our current population. Study that.

Your writing reflects a lack of coherence to your thoughts, so I think you’ve got bigger issues here. In addition, your insecurities about you and your child are very much on display. There are some PhD and MD trained people who could help you with these things, but you clearly reject expertise due to your need to feel superior. Maybe some narcissism happening there.

You sir, are an idiot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we are complaining that a coach made cuts at a tryout?

The parents would rather break the news to their kid at home while they're hugging little Johnny to make sure he's ok? Grow up people, they're 10-11 years old, it's ok to fail and work hard for something you want.

I can see these parents taking their kids out to Hibachi to break the news they're on the 2nd or 3rd team LOL

A coach shouldn't be cutting little kids off teams in person in front of hundreds of people and other kids. That shows such poor judgment and character. Its amazing you would let someone who did that coach your child.

I remember when that was the only way it was done and everyone accepted it as normal without the need for therapists

[Anonymous]

Why are the directors at Loudoun allowed to stay there with their $15K/monthly check?

Club is regressing, new Modus operandi like cutting players publicly are surfacing, and overall they’ve lived cushy here in NoVa without a genuine track record building a life they would never be able to attain in England.

Note: don’t worry about my money, my side hustle is flipping businesses so I know a thing or two about being out of touch. Problem is, unlike these bozos, I actually deliver results and you could ask the US government.

I’m highly considering entering youth soccer to revamp it with power and influence. The real type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are the directors at Loudoun allowed to stay there with their $15K/monthly check?

Club is regressing, new Modus operandi like cutting players publicly are surfacing, and overall they’ve lived cushy here in NoVa without a genuine track record building a life they would never be able to attain in England.

Note: don’t worry about my money, my side hustle is flipping businesses so I know a thing or two about being out of touch. Problem is, unlike these bozos, I actually deliver results and you could ask the US government.

I’m highly considering entering youth soccer to revamp it with power and influence. The real type.

What are you rambling about and who are you talking to?

You're wealthy, powerful and successful and worried about Loudoun coaches

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we are complaining that a coach made cuts at a tryout?

The parents would rather break the news to their kid at home while they're hugging little Johnny to make sure he's ok? Grow up people, they're 10-11 years old, it's ok to fail and work hard for something you want.

I can see these parents taking their kids out to Hibachi to break the news they're on the 2nd or 3rd team LOL

A coach shouldn't be cutting little kids off teams in person in front of hundreds of people and other kids. That shows such poor judgment and character. Its amazing you would let someone who did that coach your child.

I remember when that was the only way it was done and everyone accepted it as normal without the need for therapists

If you’re thinking about what might’ve happened at high school tryouts that is not comparable to doing this with 10 year olds. If you are in fact, talking about something that used to happen with 10 year olds, just because people used to do something doesn’t mean it was OK. Do you really look around and think adults are doing just fine in this world? Every single weekend at my kids’ sports I see examples of adults who can’t regulate their emotions. Maybe if someone had paid attention to their social/emotional development when they were kids, they wouldn’t be having adult temper tantrums on the sidelines.