Every year private school counselors use this to steer kids one way or the other. Be careful when your kid answers the question. No preference at all would be the best answer. |
+1 We used a private counselor in addition to the high touch counseling at our Bay Area private school and his advice did differ especially as it related to the Ivy+ schools which was essentially to apply to almost all except ones he truly did not think he would be happy at (in DS' case there were 3 of those he just didn't like). DC's had more and better choices than his peers who followed the more traditional advice of the school counselor . . . If your kid is unhooked and truly high stats (max rigor, top 5% of class, mid 1500's SAT, significant EC's with leadership/impact) you probably don't want to limit their list on the basis of weather, ranking of sports teams etc. . . Kid can those things to decide where to go not where to apply |
Tell that to my DC who went to one of those schools, had a 3.9/1500 and ended up only getting into schools that were nowhere near the top 25-30. The game isn't what you think it is. |
I keep hearing this about Pitt. Do they yield protect or consider demonstrated interest or just accept everyone with high stats? |
DP can you share a sample profile of someone who really stands a chance vs. those who think they do but really don't? Wondering if we are in group 1 or group 2 |
Brown?? I know top 10% kids from feeder privates who didn't get into Brown ED |
Different people understand the term "reach" differently. We have to first define what is a "reach". |
DP this is true for a lot of good privates, at some of them a 3.9 put you among top 5 kids (not top 5%) and you can have your pick of HYP |
Why if the student genuinely doesn't want to be at a city school or somewhere rural, or doesn't want to cross time zones? |
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My take is private school counselors are helpful - we never had an outside one for either of my kids.
My kids friend groups all got in somewhere that was on their list of top choices but not all got their first choice. Lean into legacy where you have it and it still matters. Don't be afraid to play the long RD game. |
Then it’s totally legitimate to prioritize that and accept that the school may be less prestigious as a result. I have a kid who really wanted to be close to home, and that affected the schools he applied to. He is happy. I have another kid who wants to go to a top school and prioritizes that above location (such as being in a city vs rural setting). |
This is the approach my independent counselor advised as well. It is a long-shot for even the tippy top kids and you never know what will happen at those very selective schools. Curious if you could shares some of the schools your DC got into and which one they chose. |
Sure- here is his reach list and results Yale (SCEA rejected) Harvard (rejected) Princeton (WL) Columbia (accepted and what he choose) Brown (accepted) Duke (rejected) Rice (accepted) U Chicago (Wait list) Cal- Accepted UCLA- Accepted Williams- Accepted |
This was also our approach for 2 kids at a non-DC private. RD was nerve-wracking though. We found choice of major to matter a lot in outcomes. Non-stem kid had a lot more “top” options than stem kid. One kid had stronger national level recognition in ECs. Now Ivy and T10 students - who had options for both in RD. It required an enormous amount of work and customization for the essays. These T20s are looking for different things. I disagree that you can just tweak a supplemental essay and use it for many T20 schools. At least we did not do that. Some schools like more creative and others more straightforward. Some schools want you to stress personal qualities and others want you to stress your academic interest and relevant experience. It’s hard to do all of that and do it well in one template essay. |
Then you will be true to yourself. Of course. For more kids, they are adaptive to weather location or size. They may have a preference, but not strong enough to be steered away. The weak preference should not be used as a limitation. |