Can guests take home leftovers if they've cooked the dish?

[Anonymous]

If it saves me from having to clean up another dish
they can take it all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not unless the host gives ok. The only possible exception is if you brought the dishware, and are trying to be smooth and say I can take this home and wash it...

Agree. We had someone bring a cake to a dinner party we hosted and they took home their cakepan and the remaining cake which made us sad because it was delicious. If the dish isn’t tasty, please take it home

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Anonymous wrote:This is a spinoff of the active thread about in-laws showing up with containers to take home Thanksgiving leftovers. In that thread, the OP has prepared all of the food. What if Thanksgiving is more of a potluck? In my family, I host the festivities because I have the largest home and can easily accommodate everyone. I cook several dishes, but my in-laws bring the turkey, stuffing, and other dishes. They've always brought containers to take home leftovers.

Although I guess I would have preferred that they ask, I figured it was their right since they made the food and we are family. There are plenty of leftovers for all of us. Is the etiquette such that if the meal is served in one's own home then one controls the leftover process regardless of who made what?

If you make it it goes home with you.

This. We usually ask around if anyone wants whatever we brought with us, but we always take home what we made.

[Anonymous]

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Cooks have first dibs on their own dishes.

+1 especially if others didn’t bring anything much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not unless the host gives ok. The only possible exception is if you brought the dishware, and are trying to be smooth and say I can take this home and wash it...

Agree. We had someone bring a cake to a dinner party we hosted and they took home their cakepan and the remaining cake which made us sad because it was delicious. If the dish isn’t tasty, please take it home

That was rude of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the host should invite the people who brought the food to take it home if they would like, and the polite reply is "are you sure? You're welcome to keep it." Then the host should say something like "it was so delicious, but we've got so much food, our fridge is absolutely heaving." Once both parties have sufficiently encouraged the other party to take/keep the food, the people who made it can take it. At least this is how it plays out in my circles.

This!

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Anonymous wrote:To answer your title question, no. Stop trying to take home food! To answer the question in the body of the post about if it's potluck, I don't know - bc I would never attend a potluck.

DCUM’s gotta DCUM. 😂

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Anonymous wrote:To answer your title question, no. Stop trying to take home food! To answer the question in the body of the post about if it's potluck, I don't know - bc I would never attend a potluck.

You sound terrible. I happily give away food. I don’t care at all…if you leave it I will eat it, if you take it good!

Why wouldn't you attend a potluck? Are you not confident in your ability to cook?

I wouldn't attend a potluck because I don't have confidence in other people's cleanliness or food safety.. I've seen way too many people's cats walking on kitchen counters, way too many people walk out of public bathrooms without washing their hands, etc.

I hope you never eat restaurant food, because I have some news for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the host should invite the people who brought the food to take it home if they would like, and the polite reply is "are you sure? You're welcome to keep it." Then the host should say something like "it was so delicious, but we've got so much food, our fridge is absolutely heaving." Once both parties have sufficiently encouraged the other party to take/keep the food, the people who made it can take it. At least this is how it plays out in my circles.

+1. Good descriptors

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Anonymous wrote:My gawd, who the F cares? Who are you people fighting family for leftover food?

I was wondering this too! I can’t imagine caring enough about leftovers get upset about this.

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Anonymous wrote:I have zero interest in leftovers, so when I host I try to pawn stuff off on everyone else. I will usually just throw a little bit of each dish into containers and stop thinking about it forever. However, if you really want to take the rest of your creamed corn home with you, I'm happy to oblige.

Exactly! Because we are American!

Nobody in America celebrating an original American holiday gives a crap about what happens in Nicaragua or Belarus

Soooo American.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I host I prefer that people take their contributions home. I don’t need a mishmash of leftovers clogging the fridge.

Agree. Not to mention, extra dishes to wash.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a spinoff of the active thread about in-laws showing up with containers to take home Thanksgiving leftovers. In that thread, the OP has prepared all of the food. What if Thanksgiving is more of a potluck? In my family, I host the festivities because I have the largest home and can easily accommodate everyone. I cook several dishes, but my in-laws bring the turkey, stuffing, and other dishes. They've always brought containers to take home leftovers.

Although I guess I would have preferred that they ask, I figured it was their right since they made the food and we are family. There are plenty of leftovers for all of us. Is the etiquette such that if the meal is served in one's own home then one controls the leftover process regardless of who made what?

If you make it it goes home with you.

This. We usually ask around if anyone wants whatever we brought with us, but we always take home what we made.

+1 same over here.

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Anonymous wrote:My gawd, who the F cares? Who are you people fighting family for leftover food?

This was my thought too.

It’s not the food, it’s the labor to make the food.

[Anonymous]

If you were actually “hosting” a meal, of course you “own” the leftovers. But if others spent the money and time to make major components of the meal, they should make the decisions about their dishes.