Winter wedding guest dress - impress boyfriend and FU to ex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, OP. I'm also in my 30s and think these would be pretty:

https://www.shopbop.com/margot-maxi-dress-runaway-label/vp/v=1/1505713389.htm

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-gal-gown-in-oxblood/dp/NBDR-WD3420

https://www.shopbop.com/halter-drape-bias-gown-norma/vp/v=1/1508286323.htm

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-halter-fishtail-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD677

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-amira-gown-in-black/dp/NBDR-WD3274

https://www.shopbop.com/sleeveless-low-back-drape-gown/vp/v=1/1558319414.htm

https://www.theoutnet.com/en-us/shop/product/rhea-costa/dresses/gowns/kira-belted-satin-gown/1647597345568786

https://www.revolve.com/alc-lara-gown-in-ivy/dp/ALX-WD592

That first one is gorgeous. Has OP said if this is black tie or cocktail?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, OP. I'm also in my 30s and think these would be pretty:

https://www.shopbop.com/margot-maxi-dress-runaway-label/vp/v=1/1505713389.htm

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-gal-gown-in-oxblood/dp/NBDR-WD3420

https://www.shopbop.com/halter-drape-bias-gown-norma/vp/v=1/1508286323.htm

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-halter-fishtail-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD677

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-amira-gown-in-black/dp/NBDR-WD3274

https://www.shopbop.com/sleeveless-low-back-drape-gown/vp/v=1/1558319414.htm

https://www.theoutnet.com/en-us/shop/product/rhea-costa/dresses/gowns/kira-belted-satin-gown/1647597345568786

https://www.revolve.com/alc-lara-gown-in-ivy/dp/ALX-WD592

That first one is gorgeous. Has OP said if this is black tie or cocktail?

She didn't, I was just going off black tie because she said swanky. OP, report back please if it's not black tie and I'll find some cocktail dresses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get and appreciate where you are coming from. But three things to consider:

1) You’re jerkface ex-husband has already seen you naked. So like, no matter what, it’s nothing he hasn’t already had.

2) If you dress overtly sexy, you’re going to leave room for him and his date and his friends to make rude comments about you, that you’re a “sad old sl**” or “she’s trying to be a cougar” or on and on. Even if they secretly think you look hot, the commentary is going to be that you’re trying too hard. They will—RIGHTLY—criticize you for trying to seek attention on a day that should be about the bride and groom.

3) If you instead aim to look beautiful and classy, no one can say anything against you, and you’ll look above it all. Because you’ll be above it all.

Except op literally never said she wanted to dress “slutty”. She just wants to look good, which means not wearing most of the potato sacks people are posting here.

ITA. People are acting like OP said she wants to wear a loincloth and give her new bf a blow job on the dance floor. When in reality all she said was she needs to look good. Like a revenge dress, as much as I hate that term.

LOL. The thread title literally says this is meant to be an "FU to ex," but OK. You're right. OP is totally above board on this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, OP. I'm also in my 30s and think these would be pretty:

https://www.shopbop.com/margot-maxi-dress-runaway-label/vp/v=1/1505713389.htm

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-gal-gown-in-oxblood/dp/NBDR-WD3420

https://www.shopbop.com/halter-drape-bias-gown-norma/vp/v=1/1508286323.htm

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-halter-fishtail-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD677

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-amira-gown-in-black/dp/NBDR-WD3274

https://www.shopbop.com/sleeveless-low-back-drape-gown/vp/v=1/1558319414.htm

https://www.theoutnet.com/en-us/shop/product/rhea-costa/dresses/gowns/kira-belted-satin-gown/1647597345568786

https://www.revolve.com/alc-lara-gown-in-ivy/dp/ALX-WD592

Love these.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, OP. I'm also in my 30s and think these would be pretty:

https://www.shopbop.com/margot-maxi-dress-runaway-label/vp/v=1/1505713389.htm

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-gal-gown-in-oxblood/dp/NBDR-WD3420

https://www.shopbop.com/halter-drape-bias-gown-norma/vp/v=1/1508286323.htm

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-halter-fishtail-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD677

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-amira-gown-in-black/dp/NBDR-WD3274

https://www.shopbop.com/sleeveless-low-back-drape-gown/vp/v=1/1558319414.htm

https://www.theoutnet.com/en-us/shop/product/rhea-costa/dresses/gowns/kira-belted-satin-gown/1647597345568786

https://www.revolve.com/alc-lara-gown-in-ivy/dp/ALX-WD592

Love these.

Thanks. The only thing is, I somehow missed in her OP that the ceremony will be in a church. So, OP, for most of these, you might want to get a little cashmere wrap or something just to be respectful.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP- I’m hourglass and size 8 as well but with a 34G chest. If you also have a big bust, you’re going to be limited because you’re going to need a good bra and you don’t want to look too top heavy. This is what I’m thinking of:

https://www.revolve.com/mobile/nbd-jenni-blazer-mini-dress-in-black/dp/NBDR-WD3252/?d=Womens&vn=true&vnclk=true

https://www.revolve.com/mobile/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228/?d=Womens&vn=true

https://www.revolve.com/mobile/afrm-shailene-dress-in-noir/dp/AFFM-WD312/?d=Womens&vn=true

There are just some ideas of cuts that I think would look good on your silhouette.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here, OP, a few more specifically within your price range.

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-diana-fishtail-gown-in-black-mesh-nude/dp/NKAM-WD430

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-x-revolve-v-neck-rectangle-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD228 - This one at least has shoulders covered

https://www.revolve.com/michael-costello-x-revolve-cabra-maxi-dress-in-blue/dp/MELR-WD1187

PP above who said I love your first set of suggestions (your subsequent ones are really nice, too!): can you do me next for a holiday party? 😂

[Anonymous]

Oh and can also try TA3 because it has built in shapewear:

https://ta3swim.com/collections/shaping-dresses/products/sweetie-mesh-column-dress-black-lily

https://ta3swim.com/collections/shaping-dresses/products/notchy-long-sleeve-midi-dress-contour-black-oat

https://ta3swim.com/collections/shaping-dresses/products/squarey-long-sleeve-dress

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Living well is the best revenge. Don’t get caught in these games. Buy a nice dress like you normally would, get your hair and makeup done and spend your energies getting in shape if you need to.

+1

Don’t come across as desperate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a wedding to go to at the height of winter. The ceremony is in a beautiful old church and the reception is at a swanky city place with dinner and a fun dancing crowd. I'll be attending with my boyfriend and my cheating ex husband will also be there. I'm late 30s, 5'6in, size 8, hourglass shape.

Any recs on dresses or where to look? I haven't been to a wedding in ages. Ideally budget under $250.

If you have a large chest, flaunt it.

https://www.babyboofashion.com/en-us/products/jacqueline-maxi-dress-black?variant=41224076296255¤cy=USD&tw_source=google&tw_adid=&tw_campaign=21392452761&tw_kwdid=&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21398814389&gbraid=0AAAAACs2VHl514iKfCFup7DXcTPKS4SzO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spend a tad more and get this in blue.

https://www.thereformation.com/products/belden-dress/1318314CRM.html?skip_atc_confirmation=true&dwvar_1318314CRM_color=NVY&quantity=1

Ffs!!! That is possibly the most opposite of what OP is going for possibly.

Eh, I wouldn't wear it because it would look awful on me but nowhere did OP say she *wants* to dress slutty. She said she wanted to look good.

I think people are conflating that OP wants to show off a little with OP wanting to look like a cheap whore.

Geez. there’s a lot of ground between dressing like the grandma of the bride and dressing like a cheap whore.

[Anonymous]

DCUM really has bad taste today.

If you like prints: https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/dress_the_population/carlita_dress

If you want to go a little more plain: https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/rosetta_getty_x_rtr/off_the_shoulder_ruched_bodice_dress

For a little more drama and structure: https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/aidan_mattox/floral_jacquard_midi_dress

Pair with the highest heels you can handle plus a shrug or shawl for the church.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, OP. I'm also in my 30s and think these would be pretty:

https://www.shopbop.com/margot-maxi-dress-runaway-label/vp/v=1/1505713389.htm

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-gal-gown-in-oxblood/dp/NBDR-WD3420

https://www.shopbop.com/halter-drape-bias-gown-norma/vp/v=1/1508286323.htm

https://www.revolve.com/norma-kamali-halter-fishtail-gown-in-black/dp/NKAM-WD677

https://www.revolve.com/nbd-amira-gown-in-black/dp/NBDR-WD3274

https://www.shopbop.com/sleeveless-low-back-drape-gown/vp/v=1/1558319414.htm

https://www.theoutnet.com/en-us/shop/product/rhea-costa/dresses/gowns/kira-belted-satin-gown/1647597345568786

https://www.revolve.com/alc-lara-gown-in-ivy/dp/ALX-WD592

Love these.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM really has bad taste today.

If you like prints: https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/dress_the_population/carlita_dress

If you want to go a little more plain: https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/rosetta_getty_x_rtr/off_the_shoulder_ruched_bodice_dress

For a little more drama and structure: https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/aidan_mattox/floral_jacquard_midi_dress

Pair with the highest heels you can handle plus a shrug or shawl for the church.

These are yucky. Really not good.