DH putting interests and activities first

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Dad who loves to play tennis and would play for hours and hours everyday if I could. But I am a parent and I have responsibilities like taking kids to activities and helping with the house. Its certainly not fun but happy wife = happy life

instead of "divorce" just tell the hubs to man up. Every single comment on DCUM suggests divorce as the resolution

It's not really about happy wife = happy life. It's that men need to be grown ups who don't balk at handling half of the parenting/household duties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay here's what to do -- stop asking him for anything. Take a few weeks and manage the kids by yourself. Please it's really not the end of the world. Completely ignore him. Also, dress extra sexy and make sure to pamper yourself. Talk to your friends on the phone. Arrange for a sitter one night for you to go out. Watch what happens hehe

Yuck. This is so 90's a la "The Rules". Embarrassed to admit I read that book in my early 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Dad who loves to play tennis and would play for hours and hours everyday if I could. But I am a parent and I have responsibilities like taking kids to activities and helping with the house. Its certainly not fun but happy wife = happy life

instead of "divorce" just tell the hubs to man up. Every single comment on DCUM suggests divorce as the resolution

It's not really about happy wife = happy life. It's that men need to be grown ups who don't balk at handling half of the parenting/household duties.

+1

It's not about the wife. It's about the dad's/parent's decision to become a parent including all of the responsibilities associated with that.

"Happy wife" assumes falsely that all of these responsibilities belong to the wife.

[Anonymous]

How many activities are your kids in? A lot of parents let the activities get completely out of hand, and it’s miserable when your entire existence is shuttling kids around to activity after activity.

This is unpopular opinion but I really do think the obsession with activities is killing families. You don’t have time to bond if you’re just driving and sitting around all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why I stopped signing my kids up for activities. The only sport I sign them up for is swim lessons, if that even counts. I'm not with my ex but we co parent and he lives down the street so we pretty much both see the kids every day (like today he dropped the kids off with me before work, I got them ready and took them to school, he will pick them up).

I focus on activities I can do with my kids. Paddle boarding, biking, etc. Helps we are in a warm climate. I stopped caring about their dad doing anything fun with them. I also don't set up too many play dates, because I know I'm going to be the one doing all the driving and socializing. It kind of sucks for the kids, but we do have a lot of fun the 3 of us without their Dad.

Lol. Are your kids eternally 3 yos or something?

Sounds like OPs kids are preschool. She’s doing playdates and lamenting “sports activities.” Lol.