You should not be getting married. It’s not a competition. My husband was broke because of child support, allimony and all the extras she demanded. My mom gave him a family ring. Now I never wear rings so I’d or care. He would do it now. |
Lab diamonds are trashy |
I think it depends on your fiancé’s financial position. If he’s pinching pennies to send kids to college, pay alimony, etc. by then go with the lab diamond. If he’s wealthy and can afford the mined diamond, he should be going with that. Do what makes sense for your financial situation. |
Not as trashy as blood diamonds. |
DP. The problem was your MOTHER. THREE marriages? ![]() |
WT Fffffff |
Any woman who still cares about engagement rings for a second marriage is a huge red flag. |
Does he know he's marrying someone who cares so much about his money? |
You should never ask for a gift. Tacky. |
I am going to assume that everyone on here is a troll because my husband spent $2K on the ring I picked out because I preferred to have a down payment on our first house instead of a shiny rock on my finger. Diamond rings are a waste of money and they are just for show - and personally I think that if you are judging me for the ring on my finger, then I don't really want to know you at all, so this is a great way for me to weed out the crazies! |
I don’t have much respect for women who care about engagement rings…or men who care about women taking their last names. These sexist traditions should have died out years ago.
If you aren’t marrying him for him and only for what he holds out in front of him….why marry at all. The expectation of a man needing to get down on his knee and hold an expensive item up in the hopes the woman will agree to marry him when she sees diamonds is mostly coming from diamond and jewelry companies. |
I want an engagement ring for my second marriage, whenever I decide to do it. For the same reason as my first - they're pretty and i want to signal to others that I'm taken. Of course I could do that with a silicon band. But if I'm going to wear something everyday I want it to be pleasing to me.
But this weird comparison between the ex wife and new wife via engagement ring... definitely a red flag! |
I’d get a plain gold band. Elegant and simple. |
Wearing a ring every day for the rest of your life IS an experience. Not wearing one is a different experience that I would not choose. If $10K is the make or break on a downpayment he doesn’t have enough for marriage. |
You sound like a real peach. |