Single mom judgment/rant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference between camp and what you are talking about is the kid probably wants to go to sleep away camp. You are just pawning your kid off on others so that you can have fun Huge difference.

Okay, forget the camp reference. What about parents just going on a trip on their own without their kids? You’re opposed to parents going away to have fun as a couple? Please share.

Yes. DH and I, did not go away for a vacation together without our kids. Period. And we had plenty of fun in our own house, we hosted a lot of parties, we have a huge social circle.

Children remained our priority and thankfully in our circle kids are a part of any celebration - birthdays, weddings, holidays etc.

When kids become older and go to camps etc away from home - feel free to go on couple-only trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

Yes. Because men don't get pregnant. The cost of reproduction for them is not high. Let's assume that the ex was a POS. So, I judge the mother for having such a poor judgement to have kids with this POS who does not step up. But, frankly, trash attracts trash.

OP sounds like a spoilt brat too. Or maybe she is on the prowl to get another man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents who go on vacation without their kids get plenty of judgement too.

The key is to stop caring about what random co-workers think about you.

DH and I are going to Italy for a week for a child-free wedding, leaving 2 kids with grandma (and a sitter to help her), and every single person who has heard about it has been thrilled for us. Single mom OP is absolutely getting crapped on for no reason here.

Not the same at all. Your kids are from an intact family and have not faced the trauma of divorce. So, its fine if they stay with grandma and helper for a week. They are not being shuttled from one place to another.

Divorced OP has already subjected her kids to POS father and a broken family. So yeah sucks for her but please do not compare her with a normal intact family situation. She is a single mom by poor decision and bears some responsibility for that. She is not taking a two day break from taking care of a severely intellectually disabled child or from being a military wife. She is going for a vacation of 10 days and her kids are being shuttled between caregivers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference between camp and what you are talking about is the kid probably wants to go to sleep away camp. You are just pawning your kid off on others so that you can have fun Huge difference.

Okay, forget the camp reference. What about parents just going on a trip on their own without their kids? You’re opposed to parents going away to have fun as a couple? Please share.

Yes. DH and I, did not go away for a vacation together without our kids. Period. And we had plenty of fun in our own house, we hosted a lot of parties, we have a huge social circle.

Children remained our priority and thankfully in our circle kids are a part of any celebration - birthdays, weddings, holidays etc.

When kids become older and go to camps etc away from home - feel free to go on couple-only trip.

How lucky you had a husband to share the workload with. You sound insanely privileged and clueless about single women raising kids on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents who go on vacation without their kids get plenty of judgement too.

The key is to stop caring about what random co-workers think about you.

DH and I are going to Italy for a week for a child-free wedding, leaving 2 kids with grandma (and a sitter to help her), and every single person who has heard about it has been thrilled for us. Single mom OP is absolutely getting crapped on for no reason here.

Not the same at all. Your kids are from an intact family and have not faced the trauma of divorce. So, its fine if they stay with grandma and helper for a week. They are not being shuttled from one place to another.

Divorced OP has already subjected her kids to POS father and a broken family. So yeah sucks for her but please do not compare her with a normal intact family situation. She is a single mom by poor decision and bears some responsibility for that. She is not taking a two day break from taking care of a severely intellectually disabled child or from being a military wife. She is going for a vacation of 10 days and her kids are being shuttled between caregivers.

I hope you encounter the same kind of hate you put out into the world but tenfold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

Yes. Because men don't get pregnant. The cost of reproduction for them is not high. Let's assume that the ex was a POS. So, I judge the mother for having such a poor judgement to have kids with this POS who does not step up. But, frankly, trash attracts trash.

OP sounds like a spoilt brat too. Or maybe she is on the prowl to get another man?

You sound like the biggest peace of trash on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"poor child."

Might I add, I will also say that I think parents, single or not, deserve a break. My child also has a disability and I am exhausted.

Sounds like your coworker is clinging on to their self-made identity as a mommy martyr, or maybe are envious that they couldn’t afford to do this when they were at your stage of life, or envious bc they don’t have a kid and want one, etc. It’s their own issue they’re projecting onto you (assuming you’re not doing this every month) - don’t worry and have a great time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference between camp and what you are talking about is the kid probably wants to go to sleep away camp. You are just pawning your kid off on others so that you can have fun Huge difference.

Okay, forget the camp reference. What about parents just going on a trip on their own without their kids? You’re opposed to parents going away to have fun as a couple? Please share.

Yes. DH and I, did not go away for a vacation together without our kids. Period. And we had plenty of fun in our own house, we hosted a lot of parties, we have a huge social circle.

Children remained our priority and thankfully in our circle kids are a part of any celebration - birthdays, weddings, holidays etc.

When kids become older and go to camps etc away from home - feel free to go on couple-only trip.

How lucky you had a husband to share the workload with. You sound insanely privileged and clueless about single women raising kids on their own.

Luck and privilege has nothing to do with it. It is about having standards, having self-respect, having education and career, being worthy, not marrying losers and having control of your fertility. ( Not including women who have become widowed or their partner has become disabled or they have undergone catastrophic circumstances like war, pandemic, natural disasters, genocide etc).

Stop having sex with losers or use BC when you have sex. Do not marry men who are waving the red flags in front of you. Because when you become the woman who ignores all the red flags in men, then you yourself become a big huge red flag, that all the good men avoid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're getting to go away and have fun while leaving your kid at home to be passed around between grandparents, ex and nanny.

This shouldn't be hard to understand.

What is easy for me to understand is no one is judging the dad for pawning his kid off to his ex while he does God knows what. Judgements are uniquely for women. Oh, and she probably gets paid less at work than her equivalent male counterpart in the office

Yes. Because men don't get pregnant. The cost of reproduction for them is not high. Let's assume that the ex was a POS. So, I judge the mother for having such a poor judgement to have kids with this POS who does not step up. But, frankly, trash attracts trash.

OP sounds like a spoilt brat too. Or maybe she is on the prowl to get another man?

You sound like the biggest peace of trash on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents who go on vacation without their kids get plenty of judgement too.

The key is to stop caring about what random co-workers think about you.

DH and I are going to Italy for a week for a child-free wedding, leaving 2 kids with grandma (and a sitter to help her), and every single person who has heard about it has been thrilled for us. Single mom OP is absolutely getting crapped on for no reason here.

Not the same at all. Your kids are from an intact family and have not faced the trauma of divorce. So, its fine if they stay with grandma and helper for a week. They are not being shuttled from one place to another.

Divorced OP has already subjected her kids to POS father and a broken family. So yeah sucks for her but please do not compare her with a normal intact family situation. She is a single mom by poor decision and bears some responsibility for that. She is not taking a two day break from taking care of a severely intellectually disabled child or from being a military wife. She is going for a vacation of 10 days and her kids are being shuttled between caregivers.

I hope you encounter the same kind of hate you put out into the world but tenfold.

So by your logic...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference between camp and what you are talking about is the kid probably wants to go to sleep away camp. You are just pawning your kid off on others so that you can have fun Huge difference.

Okay, forget the camp reference. What about parents just going on a trip on their own without their kids? You’re opposed to parents going away to have fun as a couple? Please share.

Yes. DH and I, did not go away for a vacation together without our kids. Period. And we had plenty of fun in our own house, we hosted a lot of parties, we have a huge social circle.

Children remained our priority and thankfully in our circle kids are a part of any celebration - birthdays, weddings, holidays etc.

When kids become older and go to camps etc away from home - feel free to go on couple-only trip.

How lucky you had a husband to share the workload with. You sound insanely privileged and clueless about single women raising kids on their own.

Luck and privilege has nothing to do with it. It is about having standards, having self-respect, having education and career, being worthy, not marrying losers and having control of your fertility. ( Not including women who have become widowed or their partner has become disabled or they have undergone catastrophic circumstances like war, pandemic, natural disasters, genocide etc).

Stop having sex with losers or use BC when you have sex. Do not marry men who are waving the red flags in front of you. Because when you become the woman who ignores all the red flags in men, then you yourself become a big huge red flag, that all the good men avoid.

Wow. We found the perfect person!!!

Lol.

Karma has its eye on you, hon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not a single mom.

She has the logistics in place to both be single and a mom.

I’m not a single mom - I’m an only parent, with zero bandwidth to “be single.”

The thing about in-person workplaces is that you need to learn that there are some people who should just never hear you talk, vacation plan or project plans, even. Some co-workers dislike you intensely for their own reasons and they will find hateful s**t to pull from any word you utter in their presence. If you can’t just shut up in front of them (you can talk with everyone else anywhere else), you’ll need to not give a rat’s ass about their comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference between camp and what you are talking about is the kid probably wants to go to sleep away camp. You are just pawning your kid off on others so that you can have fun Huge difference.

Okay, forget the camp reference. What about parents just going on a trip on their own without their kids? You’re opposed to parents going away to have fun as a couple? Please share.

Yes. DH and I, did not go away for a vacation together without our kids. Period. And we had plenty of fun in our own house, we hosted a lot of parties, we have a huge social circle.

Children remained our priority and thankfully in our circle kids are a part of any celebration - birthdays, weddings, holidays etc.

When kids become older and go to camps etc away from home - feel free to go on couple-only trip.

How lucky you had a husband to share the workload with. You sound insanely privileged and clueless about single women raising kids on their own.

Luck and privilege has nothing to do with it. It is about having standards, having self-respect, having education and career, being worthy, not marrying losers and having control of your fertility. ( Not including women who have become widowed or their partner has become disabled or they have undergone catastrophic circumstances like war, pandemic, natural disasters, genocide etc).

Stop having sex with losers or use BC when you have sex. Do not marry men who are waving the red flags in front of you. Because when you become the woman who ignores all the red flags in men, then you yourself become a big huge red flag, that all the good men avoid.

Wow. We found the perfect person!!!

Lol.

Karma has its eye on you, hon.

Good Karma delivers predictably, sweetie!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A week and a half for a girls trip is a long time to pass your kid off on many others. Your co-worker was not being passive aggressive--they were sharing their honest opinion with you. I get needing the break. We all do (and I too am the parent of an SN child). My divorced single mom went on a skip trip each year with a local ski club and my dad would stay with us for the week or so. To us, that just felt like more time with dad. A week and a half with so many caregivers feels excessive. Again, just an opinion.

You know, it’s not necessary to share your uninvited “honest opinion.” I think many people are fat, ugly, stupid, etc., but I do not share my “honest opinion” with them because it’s rude and none of my business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference between camp and what you are talking about is the kid probably wants to go to sleep away camp. You are just pawning your kid off on others so that you can have fun Huge difference.

Okay, forget the camp reference. What about parents just going on a trip on their own without their kids? You’re opposed to parents going away to have fun as a couple? Please share.

Yes. DH and I, did not go away for a vacation together without our kids. Period. And we had plenty of fun in our own house, we hosted a lot of parties, we have a huge social circle.

Children remained our priority and thankfully in our circle kids are a part of any celebration - birthdays, weddings, holidays etc.

When kids become older and go to camps etc away from home - feel free to go on couple-only trip.

How lucky you had a husband to share the workload with. You sound insanely privileged and clueless about single women raising kids on their own.

Luck and privilege has nothing to do with it. It is about having standards, having self-respect, having education and career, being worthy, not marrying losers and having control of your fertility. ( Not including women who have become widowed or their partner has become disabled or they have undergone catastrophic circumstances like war, pandemic, natural disasters, genocide etc).

Stop having sex with losers or use BC when you have sex. Do not marry men who are waving the red flags in front of you. Because when you become the woman who ignores all the red flags in men, then you yourself become a big huge red flag, that all the good men avoid.

Just go back to whatever hell you came from. You have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. Who the hell do you think you are to judge anyone else’s life. Since you’re such an awesome, smart, clairvoyant person so give your awesome life and leave single moms alone.

But something tells me you are quite miserable and deeply unhappy. Only a seriously damaged person comes back time and time again to kick single moms down. You are the worst of humanity.