S/O: How are you preparing your SONS to be respectful and safe, and to protect themselves?
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Anonymous
What are you talking about? They are 23 and 24. He graduated from college in June, she still has two more years because she's paying her own way. He is working in his chosen field, and saving for a ring and a down-payment on a house. Failure to lauch? Hardly. |
Anonymous
Don't listen to some crazy on the internet. |
Anonymous
Dating for 7 years mean someone's not committed. Cool for teenagers, not cool for adults. |
Anonymous
STFU already. They are barely not kids anymore. No one should be getting married until they finish college. |
Anonymous
| From a young age, I taught my son that enthusiastic consent is the bar. |
Anonymous
Okaaay..... someone's into the sauce a little early today. |
Anonymous
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Consent and respect has always been the center of our discussions and that started at a young age in appropriate ways.
Not only for anyone else but for himself. I wanted my DS to be brought up to understand if something was being done to him by someone else that he didn't like or felt was wrong (another child, an adult) that he can protect himself and his body and that I would also respect his boundaries. Not making him walk into a room full of adults and make him go around the welcome line to embrace or kiss people like so many parents do. Now that he's a teen, I also talk to him about consent and respect more freely/straightforward as well as talk about how crazy boys AND girls can be. As a former teenage girl who has a very clear memory of myself and my friends and the type of dumb decisions teens make. It's important to not make our sons feel like they are guilty of all wrong doing in relationships. Plenty of nutty teen girls grow up to be nutty women and I don't want him to be stuck with one later in life. |
Anonymous
This is the right answer. We've also been teaching our kids that if it's not a hell yes! from everyone involved, than it's a no. When they were little, it clearly wasn't about sex, but now that they are older, this is a big part of the sex talk and my son and daughter are on board. I really do think that asking how boys can be respectful is also the right question. Since I have a boy and a girl, of course I want them both to be responsible, respectful, etc. But I cannot spend all of my time teaching my daughter to "don't go out at night, carry keys in your hand, send a location to me or to your friends on dates, etc." and not teach my son to notice when women walk across the street when they see him, to make sure that he calls out his male friends if they are being gross, to not perpetuate any type of gossip about girls and their behaviors, etc. The lesson isn't "watch out for bad girls," it's don't be a bad guy. |
Anonymous
Same here. Also, teaching them to dump any women who use phrases like "toxic masculinity". No need for them to sign up for a lifetime of misery. |
Anonymous
Yeah, well, they should be finished with college at that age, too. But whatever. Thankfully not my problem! |
Anonymous
It's both. |
Anonymous
I guess I don't understand this comment. Why is this a bad thing what this person is teaching? Seems pretty sound advice. |
Anonymous
Even conservative loon “Dr.” Laura says people should not get married until the age of 25. That’s how crazy you are—even Dr. Laura thinks that’s too young for marriage. |
Anonymous
What's going to change in two years? If they're not committed, they should have been exploring options. |
Anonymous
So shut up about it. |