Spin Off - Do a Kids’ Parents Political Views Impact You Allowing A Friendship?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

This is the liberal way. If you disagree with me, you are my enemy. Racism, sexism, rape, oh my!

To be clear, are you saying that in your opinion people should embrace those who openly tell you they are racist? Sexist? OK with rapists in power? Or do you disagree that these are correct descriptions of Trump?

And you don’t think that people can support a presidential candidate for reasons completely unrelated to those things? Like maybe they prefer his substantive policies? Should they vote for someone whose politics are completely different than their own just because some Liberals have tried to brand Trump a sexist and a racist (which he is not)?

Hopefully your kids have better critical thinking skills than you do.

[Anonymous]

So much sensitivity and hand-wringing from the “f—k your feelings” crowd, lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The intolerance in this thread particularly when it comes to young children is unbelievable.

Translation: I don't understand the paradox of tolerance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am comfortable with my children being around Republicans. That's not a problem for me. We have policy differences, but have the same end goal in mind. McCain, Kaisich, Romney, fine. When they ran I wasn't going to vote for them, but they had policy positions I could argue against.

However, that's not who is running that party right now, and I'd be concerned having my kid play with the kids of Trump supporters. The parents are okay with so many things that aren't just a difference of policy. They might not be advocating for racism, sexism, anti-LGBTQ, assault, and just a true dislike of people in general...but they aren't discouraging it either. I don't want that messaging around my kids.

You are intolerant.

I am. I am really intolerant of the example that Trump and his supporters are setting. It's disgusting. Republicans I have no issue with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

Wow. You're a horrible person.

- not a Trump supporter

Unfortunately, you are a Trump supporter. If you think being closed to the idea of befriending those who support a racist and sexist rapist makes me a bad person, then you just told on yourself. Your projection is a confession.

DP. Unfortunately? What does that mean? We are free to support whoever we want in this democracy of ours. What are you going to do when Trump wins this election in two weeks time? Are you prepared to emigrate? Because if not, you will have some serious adjusting to do and you do not seem at all ready for it my dear.

We will pray for our country because that is the day Democracy will die. And you won't care because you don't care about other Americans because we are 'other' to you. I hope you are so wrong about who is going to win. Will you riot again and try to make this man a dictator?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

So close minded. Way to raise your kids in a vacuum. Exposure to a diversity of views is good for all of us.

Exposure to homophobia would be damaging to my kid, as a kid of gay parents. I know she's going to see it in the world, and I'm preparing her for that, but I don't need to invite it into my home and I won't apologize for that. Sorry your kid can't have friends b/c you're a bigot.

Homophobia? Give me a break. It’s not 1955 anymore.

Tell that to the GOP.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2022/07/01/dont-say-gay-florida-law/

https://19thnews.org/2023/08/house-republicans-anti-lgbtq-measures-federal-spending-bills/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am super liberal and have always had friends from different parties. I think it is really controlling and narrow minded to try to control who your kid befriends. As someone wrote earlier, kids often have different views than their parents anyway.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

Wow. You're a horrible person.

- not a Trump supporter

Unfortunately, you are a Trump supporter. If you think being closed to the idea of befriending those who support a racist and sexist rapist makes me a bad person, then you just told on yourself. Your projection is a confession.

DP. Unfortunately? What does that mean? We are free to support whoever we want in this democracy of ours. What are you going to do when Trump wins this election in two weeks time? Are you prepared to emigrate? Because if not, you will have some serious adjusting to do and you do not seem at all ready for it my dear.

We will pray for our country because that is the day Democracy will die. And you won't care because you don't care about other Americans because we are 'other' to you. I hope you are so wrong about who is going to win. Will you riot again and try to make this man a dictator?

So it died in 2016 and then came back and now it's going to die again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let’s see if we can do this without being political. In public elementary school, my DD (who is Black) befriended a girl (White) whose parents supported a political candidate that I could not stand. The mom reached out twice for a playdate and I made up excuses, hoping the friendship would eventually die down. However, after a dance recital, the mom cornered me and I relented. Admittedly after watching the girls play together behind the scenes of the recital, it was obvious they had a really good bond.

Eventually, our daughters ended up becoming best friends. This girl and her mom were literally the nicest people I have ever met. And the girl and her brother were the best behaved kids I had ever met as well. We never discussed politics. They eventually moved away. But interestingly, after the George Floyd murder, she wrote me a long message about how it had impacted her and asked if we could talk about what had happened.

Within a reasonable range (which could include certain Trump voters), no. There are lines of no return, though. Racism, religious bigotry, homophobia, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would imagine my kids' friends' mothers do not know I am a Republican. Why would this ever come up in conversation?

Then your friends aren't black or gay; or if they are we know you're a republican and we're just nice to you but not close.

Also - your kids tell my kids who you vote for.

What on earth? Many African Americans support Trump. Many LGBTQ support Trump. You really do love in a bubble.

*Citation needed - "MANY" lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I normally run a quick LinkedIn check on the parents. Work directly for certain republicans and no. I ignore or tell them no. Work for those I align with. Welcome with open arms. I won’t tolerate my children being influenced by those with narrow views.

Shocking you would think and act this way. [sarcasm] If you have any influence over your own kids maybe influence them to have an open mind, vs. your narrow views.

[Anonymous]

Why should the burden of tolerance fall on marginalized groups who were the target of intolerance first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am comfortable with my children being around Republicans. That's not a problem for me. We have policy differences, but have the same end goal in mind. McCain, Kaisich, Romney, fine. When they ran I wasn't going to vote for them, but they had policy positions I could argue against.

However, that's not who is running that party right now, and I'd be concerned having my kid play with the kids of Trump supporters. The parents are okay with so many things that aren't just a difference of policy. They might not be advocating for racism, sexism, anti-LGBTQ, assault, and just a true dislike of people in general...but they aren't discouraging it either. I don't want that messaging around my kids.

You are intolerant.

I am. I am really intolerant of the example that Trump and his supporters are setting. It's disgusting. Republicans I have no issue with.

You do realize he’s the Republican nominee for President, don’t you? Who do you expect Republicans to support?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I normally run a quick LinkedIn check on the parents. Work directly for certain republicans and no. I ignore or tell them no. Work for those I align with. Welcome with open arms. I won’t tolerate my children being influenced by those with narrow views.

You are the one with the narrow views. Disgusting and close minded. You should be ashamed.

She is reacting to the words and actions of another. If you are not a straight, white Christian, or a MAGA, then Trump is calling you "the enemy within" - why cozy up to that?

[Anonymous]

There is, in my mind, a difference between being a "Republican" of long standing and a MAGA Trumper.
I don't really want my kids hanging around with people who cheer when Trump promises their cats and dogs won't be eaten when he's president again.