At a breaking point in nearly sexless marriage

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I think you are totally misreading these posts. No one is talking about forcing someone reluctant to have sex or engage in sexual activity. We are talking about the root issues, which are why doesn’t this person want to have sex with their spouse to begin with?

And at the crux of that question is the spouse feigning ignorance about why someone doesn’t want to sleep with them, yet they continue to whine, ask, guilt trip, bully and worse about wanting sex asap.

So cart before the horse.

But. If and when the ignorant demanding spouse demands sex, as their duty, as they’re married, as their right, you open the consent and rape door quite quickly. Married or not.

So all very relevant.

Again, fix your relationship issues first. Sex is an output of that.

This post makes you seem like you have a very definite bias or agenda, and that you are not trying to be thoughtful or helpful.

It’s not exactly productive to tell someone that they are selfish, ignorant, and demanding when they are asking about a marriage problem. I guess your advice is to “fix your relationship issues” but that seems pretty obvious, no?

God how much of a loser are you if you can't get your wife to sleep with you? Just get divorced dude. Stop whining about it here.

LOL incorrect on every single count. I don’t think I’m the loser here.

*sobbing, mashing the keyboad*

"I'm not the loser! My wife doesn't want to have sex with me because I'm such a winner! Can I cheat on her? Please?!!?"

Just get a divorce dude. I'm sure there are entire apartment complexes in Fairfax filled with sad dads like you. You guys can watch tv and talk about how women are leeches and everyone else can live in peace.

These posts are unhinged and hard to read. Who hurt you, pp?

[Anonymous]

We should just have a sticky thread for married men angry that their wives don't have sex with them as frequently as they want.

Explain that:

A) you can't decide if your wife should have sex
B) it's not normal to want to have sex with a woman if she is not into it or attracted to you, even if she's given consent
C) make yourself more attractive and do things that she finds attractive
D) if none of that makes sense, just get divorced and live your sex dreams with someone who is willing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We should just have a sticky thread for married men angry that their wives don't have sex with them as frequently as they want.

Explain that:

A) you can't decide if your wife should have sex
B) it's not normal to want to have sex with a woman if she is not into it or attracted to you, even if she's given consent
C) make yourself more attractive and do things that she finds attractive
D) if none of that makes sense, just get divorced and live your sex dreams with someone who is willing

Only D in your list makes any sense.

Or "E", have an affair and grey rock wifey.

why bother with an affair? If she won't have sex with you and you don't care about your marriage, just ditch it. What are you afraid of? Go have fun with your sex addiction!

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I said BOTH partners decide when THEY have sex in a PARTNERSHIP. Its a MUTUAL decision. Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse. However if their spouse is an a-hole, abusive or have become very fat then it’s completely not to have any desire.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I said BOTH partners decide when THEY have sex in a PARTNERSHIP. Its a MUTUAL decision. Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse. However if their spouse is an a-hole, abusive or have become very fat then it’s completely not to have any desire.

OMG i can't stop laughing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I think you are totally misreading these posts. No one is talking about forcing someone reluctant to have sex or engage in sexual activity. We are talking about the root issues, which are why doesn’t this person want to have sex with their spouse to begin with?

Probably menopause. Why do so few people understand that there is more than one hormonal change in life?

9 times out of 10 it’s a shit partner and marriage. After being hurt and let down so frequently over the years, who wants to sleep with that. No one.

Either you have had some very shitty partners or perhaps YOU r the problem. Reading ur posts i m guessing its the latter. You sound unhinged

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

If you don’t have an answer, laughing is the easy way out
Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I said BOTH partners decide when THEY have sex in a PARTNERSHIP. Its a MUTUAL decision. Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse. However if their spouse is an a-hole, abusive or have become very fat then it’s completely not to have any desire.

OMG i can't stop laughing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I think you are totally misreading these posts. No one is talking about forcing someone reluctant to have sex or engage in sexual activity. We are talking about the root issues, which are why doesn’t this person want to have sex with their spouse to begin with?

Probably menopause. Why do so few people understand that there is more than one hormonal change in life?

These men aren't genuinely interested in the why, they just want their wives to do it. Just go jerk off or get a divorce, leave the poor woman alone.

No. It’s not fair to make a unilateral decision to take se* off the table. It’s one of the intimacies of marriage that you can’t share with anyone else. It’s not fair to gaslight husbands who are very understandably upset about lack of a physical relationship. And I’m a DW who has struggled with lack of drive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I said BOTH partners decide when THEY have sex in a PARTNERSHIP. Its a MUTUAL decision. Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse. However if their spouse is an a-hole, abusive or have become very fat then it’s completely not to have any desire.

OMG i can't stop laughing

Laughing is the easy way out if you don’t have an answer

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I said BOTH partners decide when THEY have sex in a PARTNERSHIP. Its a MUTUAL decision. Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse. However if their spouse is an a-hole, abusive or have become very fat then it’s completely not to have any desire.

OMG i can't stop laughing

Laughing is the easy way out if you don’t have an answer

no, i just love the idea that NOT having sex with someone because they're gross is abusive. sorry, i'll try to take you seriously.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I think you are totally misreading these posts. No one is talking about forcing someone reluctant to have sex or engage in sexual activity. We are talking about the root issues, which are why doesn’t this person want to have sex with their spouse to begin with?

Probably menopause. Why do so few people understand that there is more than one hormonal change in life?

These men aren't genuinely interested in the why, they just want their wives to do it. Just go jerk off or get a divorce, leave the poor woman alone.

I haven’t noticed this at all. Most posters who indicate their husband or wife no longer want to have sex with them seem sad, upset, and confused. If they just didn’t care, they would probably just go outside the marriage. This seems like your personal bugaboo.

This. It has been near sexless for several years and we’ve tried to address it but the real problem is spouse is comfortable with a roommate relationship. I *do* care so haven’t gone outside the marriage yet but am preparing this as a next best alternative.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I think you are totally misreading these posts. No one is talking about forcing someone reluctant to have sex or engage in sexual activity. We are talking about the root issues, which are why doesn’t this person want to have sex with their spouse to begin with?

Probably menopause. Why do so few people understand that there is more than one hormonal change in life?

These men aren't genuinely interested in the why, they just want their wives to do it. Just go jerk off or get a divorce, leave the poor woman alone.

No. It’s not fair to make a unilateral decision to take se* off the table. It’s one of the intimacies of marriage that you can’t share with anyone else. It’s not fair to gaslight husbands who are very understandably upset about lack of a physical relationship. And I’m a DW who has struggled with lack of drive.

they can be upset, but what they say about it is the part that deserves mockery.

talk to your wife, do things that will make her want to have sex with you. if she doesn't want to have sex with you—ever again—make a decision about whether sex is the the reason you were keeping your marriage together... if it is the thing that you can't get by without and the reason you wanted to be married in the first place, just get divorced!

these are guys who, for one reason or another, deserved or not, aren't having sex with their wives anymore and they're trying to find ways to blame her and seek permission to cheat or look for support in browbeating her back into bed. They're not accepting the actual situation, not making the hard decision and not moving on. They're just whining.

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I think you are totally misreading these posts. No one is talking about forcing someone reluctant to have sex or engage in sexual activity. We are talking about the root issues, which are why doesn’t this person want to have sex with their spouse to begin with?

Probably menopause. Why do so few people understand that there is more than one hormonal change in life?

These men aren't genuinely interested in the why, they just want their wives to do it. Just go jerk off or get a divorce, leave the poor woman alone.

Your misandry is revolting. You sound like a miserable person.

telling men not to coerce their wives into sex is misandry? lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I said BOTH partners decide when THEY have sex in a PARTNERSHIP. Its a MUTUAL decision. Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse. However if their spouse is an a-hole, abusive or have become very fat then it’s completely not to have any desire.

OMG i can't stop laughing

Laughing is the easy way out if you don’t have an answer

no, i just love the idea that NOT having sex with someone because they're gross is abusive. sorry, i'll try to take you seriously.

You are injecting your own thoughts into other people’s posts. I clearly said if a person is abusive, a-hole or very fat then it’s completely understandable for their spouse to not have any desire for them

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.

Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire.

This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case.

Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it.

The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.

You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire.

Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.

Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership

Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.

This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?

read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.

I said BOTH partners decide when THEY have sex in a PARTNERSHIP. Its a MUTUAL decision. Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse. However if their spouse is an a-hole, abusive or have become very fat then it’s completely not to have any desire.

OMG i can't stop laughing

Laughing is the easy way out if you don’t have an answer

no, i just love the idea that NOT having sex with someone because they're gross is abusive. sorry, i'll try to take you seriously.

You are injecting your own thoughts into other people’s posts. I clearly said if a person is abusive, a-hole or very fat then it’s completely understandable for their spouse to not have any desire for them

no, you said Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse.

It's so funny.