School wrongly accused my child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, pretty much…
Unsavory in this case = traumatizing.
DC keeps being teary that the school thought it was him.
I’m also traumatized - can’t sleep…
Freakin incompetence…

IF, and that’s a capitalized if, your story is true, This is a good time to demonstrate how to move on from these setbacks in life.

Using the word, PTSD and traumatized are not accurate descriptors of the event.

Going forward, you could reduce a recurrence of this type of upsetting event by having your kid do his homework on time and try not to rush everything the last five days of school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

You’re a troll, correct? This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read. You’re going to write a book! LOL!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He was accused of something that would draw attention of a local law enforcement.

He has ADHD.

I have been in contact with School about lack of support on their part in response to my multiple emails requesting help. I told them that I intend to contact the county and mass media. This is of course, our desperation to get School ‘adequate’ attention (as they were simply footballing my child around ) and I really meant it and I still mean it. After all me and my husband pay a lot of taxes to support the school.

It is right after I complained, the school in rush, pulled my son in and accused him. he right away, pointed out that it’s a different child with the same first name who should be accused. I believe that was the schools way to shut me down, but instead it escalated even more. They didn’t even get their basic facts straight… digital footprint is usually associated with full names so all they had to do is to check which Larla did that…

Very tough times.

You mention digital footprint. If something your child sent to someone or received from someone, don’t you have have the emails or whatever it is on your side? Could you not just print that out and present?

You say “which Larla.” Is that supposed to be your son or is there also a girl involved that you could get help from?

They school accused her kid of something that another child did and he had to stay home until they realized the mistake. The kid is now upset, understandably and probalby has rumors going around about him even though he is innocent. It wasn't that hard to follow.

This is op. Thanks for your help to explain. Emotions are still raw so my style is not perfect.

To add, the school called me and said on the phone - “we found xyz that your son searched online and he did it at midnight from your home.” — I was speechless for I don’t know how long. Then somehow I gathered myself and said I want to find out more and who exactly is the person who gave my son the idea for that search, because based on my conversation, there is always someone at school influencing my child to choose bad choices…

The school then asked if I could bring my son over with his laptop. When the school showed their XYZ pictures to my son he got immediately visibly upset and immediately replied that was a different Larlo! That Larlo is always on that website!

The quote above is now sitting in my head like PTSD.

Which laptop did they use to show him these pictures?

Their own laptop with screenshots of teacher-provided material which was the other boy’s activity…

Did the other boy access from your son’s computer? Otherwise not following how your son got caught up in this because the digital trail would be computer specific.

If was threat to school or other student or teacher, would be glad school investigated.

Agreed, if it was something that would cause line law enforcement to investigate and it wasn’t p*rn, then it had to be something with guns or shooting up schools

[Anonymous]

I am saying the following with care, so imagine a nice soothing voice, no snark or judgment:

You sound very, very, anxious; like you may be in the midst of panic attacks as you are writing your posts. Please take some deep breaths, in and out for 5 minutes to calm down. You will get nowhere with anyone until you get yourself settled and able to explain the chain of events clearly and calmly.

It is possible that your reaction and state of mind is becoming more traumatizing than the incident itself. Now they have to manage your emotions as well as their own and that's not good for anyone involved.

What has happened is done and instead of thinking about retaliation, revenge, or restitution, just think about what needs to be done to salvage the grades in the 3 classes. Ignore all of the other noise for now; you can deal with that later.

Maybe consider something like this to the teachers: As you might know, we recently dealt with a really difficult situation here at school. It's over now and we'd really like to finish out the year in a positive way. Would you be willing to meet with me and/or my child to get the missing assignments so we can get them in before the end of the school year?

Be calm, be clear, keep your feelings about the incident separate from the task at hand of getting the assignment done.

Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

OP, how many assignments are we talking about? Does it matter if your son turns them in? Unless they're in a foreign language or HS math, none of this really matters.

I do agree with the PP that you're a bit too emotional about this, and not really thinking straight or prioritizing. If the assignments are what you care about, do as she said. Your child likely doesn't even have to go to school for the next 4 days, just turn everything in online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

You’re a troll, correct? This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read. You’re going to write a book! LOL!

And you are clearly form the school. Be ready for the recordings of my crying child after what you have done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how many assignments are we talking about? Does it matter if your son turns them in? Unless they're in a foreign language or HS math, none of this really matters.

I do agree with the PP that you're a bit too emotional about this, and not really thinking straight or prioritizing. If the assignments are what you care about, do as she said. Your child likely doesn't even have to go to school for the next 4 days, just turn everything in online.

I did not read latest posts. The child refuses to talk school, forget going to school; I’m taking him to the doctor today. He opened up — he thinks school thinks he is a [bad guy] (like the one you once saw on tv around Christmas after mass tragedy event at school)…

With this deep trauma, I’m not sure what next step is…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

You’re a troll, correct? This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read. You’re going to write a book! LOL!

And you are clearly form the school. Be ready for the recordings of my crying child after what you have done.

Bahahahahaha! Crazy town.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, how many assignments are we talking about? Does it matter if your son turns them in? Unless they're in a foreign language or HS math, none of this really matters.

I do agree with the PP that you're a bit too emotional about this, and not really thinking straight or prioritizing. If the assignments are what you care about, do as she said. Your child likely doesn't even have to go to school for the next 4 days, just turn everything in online.

I did not read latest posts. The child refuses to talk school, forget going to school; I’m taking him to the doctor today. He opened up — he thinks school thinks he is a [bad guy] (like the one you once saw on tv around Christmas after mass tragedy event at school)…

With this deep trauma, I’m not sure what next step is…

It’s a good thing you’re going to the doctor, because the next step for both of you is probably psychiatric help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, how many assignments are we talking about? Does it matter if your son turns them in? Unless they're in a foreign language or HS math, none of this really matters.

I do agree with the PP that you're a bit too emotional about this, and not really thinking straight or prioritizing. If the assignments are what you care about, do as she said. Your child likely doesn't even have to go to school for the next 4 days, just turn everything in online.

I did not read latest posts. The child refuses to talk school, forget going to school; I’m taking him to the doctor today. He opened up — he thinks school thinks he is a [bad guy] (like the one you once saw on tv around Christmas after mass tragedy event at school)…

With this deep trauma, I’m not sure what next step is…

Read the posts or to summarize here, can you please explain how other student got access to your son’s computer and if not porn or threat to school or student, what was the activity that would draw police that has your son think he was so bad for being accused of. I don’t think OP is one that posted they are recording their kid crying, so don’t think they should reply to that but do think this thread is getting clouded by confusion on what even kid accused of. If willing to go to media, assume will say here what really happened and how other student got your kid’s computer and what accessed or sent.

[Anonymous]

Initially, after some difficulty following, my understanding was the school said the child was accessing inappropriate sites from home. Then I read it was that he was accused of taking photos of girls in school using his phone. Is the issue one of those two? Both? Neither?

Please clarify.

[Anonymous]

It was all on the OTHER computer that belonged to the child with the same first name. the school was in rush to retaliate and didn’t check properly basics. The most appalling thing is that my child was aware that that child is always on a bad website during school hours. That’s the scary part…. And they only discover it because they want to dig up dirt on my son because I complained that I couldn’t get access to the missing assignments…

[Anonymous]

The teacher in rush, got mixed up and obviously provided information on a different child…

[Anonymous]

Today I asked my son if there is anything he wants to say to the people who made mistake and that was his opening time he provided a ton of stuff that I wasn’t aware before, which is even more concerning…

For instance, he said that the other guy was always on the bed website that’s how he made it New looking at the pictures who exactly that was so that was going on for a while…

[Anonymous]

* That’s how he immediately knew looking at those pictures