My mom and my paternal grandmother (my maternal grandmother died before she turned 40) were both overweight in their 40s, and both dieted a lot (didn't exercise or live an active lifestyle, and my grandmother drank a lot). I feel like I've tried to learn from that and have stayed active and been more thoughtful about my diet all along. I think the attitude used to be that women would gain weight and become more sedentary when they had kids, and that's just how it was. I am in my 40s and am a healthy weight, without engaging in the kind of fad and yo-yo diets they did, in large part because I've never accepted "oh I'm a mom now, I'm going to gain 30 lbs eating garbage and start watching a lot of daytime TV." I also want to model healthy behavior for my kids (which means being active and eating well, but also not modeling restrictive dieting or obsessive exercise due to unhappiness with my body). Some middle aged moms today might be less healthy than in prior generations, but for my family at least, the opposite is true. My sister is also healthy and fit. We both remember our mom just kind of hating herself and her body but also doing a lot of very unhealthy things in our childhood. |
Tummy tuck. |
Excellent post! - 50s woman & looking gooood |
Good for you and your sister for breaking the cycle! |
OP here. Did you ever have a pooch? I got mine after having kids and the shape of my belly just changed. But it only became pronounced enough to bother me in the last couple years. I think it's just once my body had that shape, literally any amount of weight gain was going to make it more obvious, because all the weight seems to go straight to my belly now. I had heard of this phenomenon before but when I made it through pregnancies and post partum and was pretty much the same size as pre-babies with just a little more roundness in my belly, I thought I'd escaped it. I guess not. |
tummy tuck and keep your bmi 19-21 |
So then you decide what you want to do next? It's like you are going to be crying over missed pastries and that was your only opportunity to eat them. |
I have a twin sister - we are both 40. I weigh probably 10 more pounds than her and have a small belly. She is lean with absolutely no belly. We are both 5'7" - she weighs around 140 and I weigh around 150.
Here are the differences: 1) She had two moderately sized babies (8 pounds) in her 20s and got back into shape immediately vs me who had 3 large (9+ pound babies) in my 30s/mid 30s and it has been hard to get back in shape afterward 2) She is a long distance runner. She probably runs 1500-2000 miles a year and does marathons. I do not run at all and weight lift 3) She doesn't each much in terms of carbs because she is gluten intolerant. I on the other hand love carbs and try to cut them out as much as possible Just an anecdotal tale of two women both in their 40s fighting the good fight to stay in shape. Sometimes I get depressed that she is thinner than I am but her kids are also much older than mine and I am running around after a toddler still. |
I’m the 47 year old poster. I had a small pooch after each kid in my 30s. I lost it with diet and exercise (mostly diet). I definitely relax my eating around the holidays. Belly is the first place that carbs and sugar go as belly weight is a sign of insulin resistance. As soon as I monitor my calorie intake and cut out sugar, I lose weight in the stomach and get toned. |
Since giving up sweets is such an emotional hurdle for you, I’d recommend taking three months to conduct an experiment. Cut out sweets, temporarily, and see how you feel for three months. That’s enough to gauge whether it makes a difference. If you’re not satisfied it’s worth it, make peace with your pooch and eat a cookie. |
Read books by Dr Stacy Simms |
But OP is already doing all that. It’s not like she’s lounging on the sofa eating Cheetos. If she’s exercising almost every day and eating well except for some sweets, then this is about as good as her body is going to get, unless she sacrifices something that really gives her pleasure. |
NP. Totally agree. I’m 45 and do barre, lift, cardio etc. A good workout 6 days a week. I don’t overeat. I’m accepting some of these changes. I don’t want to spend the second half of my life starving. |
You don't have to accept having a "pooch" as you all so provincially call it. You can actually avoid this through diet. I'm 45 and have a flat stomach, even after 4 csections. Diet is everything.
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I would also like to point out that belly fat is the most dangerous fat one can carry, as a man or a woman. Everything you can do should be done to avoid it. |