Watching your kid play

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

DP and I disagree. I think we send our kids the wrong message by hovering over their every move.

Watching their games is not "hovering." WTF?

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

Do you actually think they are going to tell you how ignored they feel? No, it will just be pushed down and come out in therapy later.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

Do you actually think they are going to tell you how ignored they feel? No, it will just be pushed down and come out in therapy later.

What's to become of you? How will you cope without the satisfaction of hearing one of my kids cry to someone "She was NEVER there!"? How will you go on in life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 18-year old has always said she wants me at her softball games. Not sure what you're doing wrong with your teen who doesn't want you there.... j/k. Maybe because she knows I enjoy watching her play and the games in general and I'm paying attention so I can actively participate in a conversation about it.

I don’t get why it is some strange parenting flex if your kid does or doesn’t need you to attend every game.

If your kid wants you there….then great. If they are indifferent, why is that a problem?

If they don’t want you there then you are likely the aggressive parent everyone hates.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

Wow, you've really created quite the fantasy in your head, haven't you? Will you be devastated to find out you're wrong? Two of my kids are adults and both moved back in at the start of Covid, and though they've moved out since, we talk to each other all the time and are quite close.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

It’s really not. The parent that refuses to come to anything or the parent that comes to everything and is a massive d**k the whole time fits your category. For the 90% that fall between this the parent/kid relationship is just fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

Wow, you've really created quite the fantasy in your head, haven't you? Will you be devastated to find out you're wrong? Two of my kids are adults and both moved back in at the start of Covid, and though they've moved out since, we talk to each other all the time and are quite close.

The bum can’t find a job?

If you are attending every game…assume it’s you that’s out of work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

Wow, you've really created quite the fantasy in your head, haven't you? Will you be devastated to find out you're wrong? Two of my kids are adults and both moved back in at the start of Covid, and though they've moved out since, we talk to each other all the time and are quite close.

They are only kids for a short while and then they move out. Where exactly are your books going? Your priorities are awful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

It’s really not. The parent that refuses to come to anything or the parent that comes to everything and is a massive d**k the whole time fits your category. For the 90% that fall between this the parent/kid relationship is just fine.

Cool just sit there with your nose in your book and hope for the best.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

It’s really not. The parent that refuses to come to anything or the parent that comes to everything and is a massive d**k the whole time fits your category. For the 90% that fall between this the parent/kid relationship is just fine.

Cool just sit there with your nose in your book and hope for the best.

So you sound like the d**k parent that doesn’t know they are the d**k parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

It’s really not. The parent that refuses to come to anything or the parent that comes to everything and is a massive d**k the whole time fits your category. For the 90% that fall between this the parent/kid relationship is just fine.

Cool just sit there with your nose in your book and hope for the best.

So you sound like the d**k parent that doesn’t know they are the d**k parent.

Totally. You got it. But you wouldn't know because you haven't been there in 15 years b/c your kids are failure to launch adults anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

It’s really not. The parent that refuses to come to anything or the parent that comes to everything and is a massive d**k the whole time fits your category. For the 90% that fall between this the parent/kid relationship is just fine.

Cool just sit there with your nose in your book and hope for the best.

So you sound like the d**k parent that doesn’t know they are the d**k parent.

Totally. You got it. But you wouldn't know because you haven't been there in 15 years b/c your kids are failure to launch adults anyway.

So, you agree that you are the unemployed, d**k parent. Just confirming.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think we’d be doing our kids a favor if we were not all sitting breathlessly on the sidelines of every single game.

I love watching and supporting my kids, but they should be playing for themselves, and not an audience of adults (many of whom often give unhelpful feedback).

But you can also just be there, mostly stay quiet, and then after the game tell your kid "I love watching you play!" which is what I've seen suggested from several high level players in our sport is the right thing to say to a kid after a game.

That’s what I do (though I seem to be one of the quieter ones).

But I personally would love to hear how they feel about playing some games independently, with no parents at all. Let them, their teammates and coaches go solo.

I'm the one who doesn't go to most games and brings a book when I do. They feel just fine about my not watching because I started how I meant to go on. "Have fun; I'll pick you up at 6pm!" and off they went. So they're happy when I show, but don't care when I don't. At the start of each season I tell them to let me know iif they'll want me to come to something - they generally pick 1-3 games.

This is the kid who won't come home much once they move out. You're not close at all to your kid, and it shows, I'd stop bragging about it. Your kid will tell their future spouse how you weren't there for them and how they plan to do better.

It’s really not. The parent that refuses to come to anything or the parent that comes to everything and is a massive d**k the whole time fits your category. For the 90% that fall between this the parent/kid relationship is just fine.

Cool just sit there with your nose in your book and hope for the best.

So you sound like the d**k parent that doesn’t know they are the d**k parent.

Totally. You got it. But you wouldn't know because you haven't been there in 15 years b/c your kids are failure to launch adults anyway.

So, you agree that you are the unemployed, d**k parent. Just confirming.

Sure Boomer, you have it all figured out. Typical boomer, too busy to pay attention to their kids.

[Anonymous]

Folks, read the articles and hope you are not in the 40% where your kids wish you didn't come.

https://headstartbasketball.com/basketball-edge-almost-40-high-school-athletes-dont-want-parents-attend-games-according-recent-study/

[Anonymous]

In a recent study done by Youth Sports Statistics, 37% of high school athletes that took part in the study did not want their own parents attending their games. That is an unbelievably disheartening statistic! And yet, if you have attended one of your child’s games recently you are probably aware of the toxic environment that is an all too frequent scene in youth sports.