Well this is just stupid. Of course they are getting into college. |
Wow, this is me. I’m a 48 year old rebelling against achievement culture. |
I think this is excellent advice. School is their "job" right now. Don't argue about college with a 14 year old. They are just doing this to spin you up. Require that they attend school and homework be completed. Maybe encourage a job (this looks good on college application--don't tell your kid). Start the SAT/ACT convo up again at the end of sophomore year. |
Get a divorce. |
YES, we have a winner. |
I had a kid like this, straight up through 10th grade. Very smart, but totally internally motivated (or not at all). Didn't really care about grades unless the topic interested him. I just stressed over and over again that the better his grades were, the more choices he would have. I also had one memorable conversation where I told him that it didn't matter if he was going to slack off in college, that in order to get into college he had to trick them into thinking he'd be a good student there, lol. He really buckled down in 11th and 12th grade and ended up at a decent, not highly ranked college. He ended up a Phi Beta Kappa, graduated summa cum laude, and is now in a top-ranked PhD program. So if this is a product of my parenting, ok. |
I had a kid like this, straight up through 10th grade. Very smart, but totally internally motivated (or not at all). Didn't really care about grades unless the topic interested him. I just stressed over and over again that the better his grades were, the more choices he would have. I also had one memorable conversation where I told him that it didn't matter if he was going to slack off in college, that in order to get into college he had to trick them into thinking he'd be a good student there, lol. He really buckled down in 11th and 12th grade and ended up at a decent, not highly ranked college. He ended up a Phi Beta Kappa, graduated summa cum laude, and is now in a top-ranked PhD program. So if this is a product of my parenting, ok. |
Because we don’t know what the opportunities will be is precisely why our kids ought to challenge themselves in school. It’s about process not product. |
Not the PP but I’m embarrassed for you. Go read scientific journals and summaries about the current state of affairs re: climate crisis and then get back to us. |
I’m re-upping my post. I don’t understand why people don’t instill the value of learning for knowledge’s sake in their kids. If your focus when it comes to education is grades so that your kids go to college and then get a higher paying job then that’s fine. But what will happen is that some kids will rebel and say well I don’t care about that. But if you instead instill in them the importance of knowledge then whether AI is taking all our jobs or whether we will all die because it’s so hot shouldn’t matter . |
Isn't that what OP's kid is doing? It sounds like she does well when the topic is something she's interested in learning about. |
This would not work in my household. We all do things we don't like that must get completed anyway in life. OP's DD is no different and her job at the moment is school. |
Achievement culture is toxic. |