Who gets to decide what DD/DS call the step parent?

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Anonymous wrote:The mother likes the daughter calling her husband papa g. You all know it.

So what if she does? It means the DD feels close to the stepdad. What parent would not be glad about that fact?

Please get a grip on yourself and see a therapist.

A child can’t be close with stepdad without calling him papa?
Who is your therapist?

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

Who cares if their child is disrespectful? Is that what you actually mean? Something is wrong with you, seriously.

Something is wrong with you, that's for sure. Why are you so insecure over what DD calls her SD? Why is this so triggering for you? Did you lose your kids to another SD or something?

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

Who cares if their child is disrespectful? Is that what you actually mean? Something is wrong with you, seriously.

Something is wrong with you, that's for sure. Why are you so insecure over what DD calls her SD? Why is this so triggering for you? Did you lose your kids to another SD or something?

Why are you so insecure about respecting her dad? Why is this so triggering for you? Did someone leave you and you need a SD to fulfill his place?

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

I don’t need control because my child respects me. You idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Pp is bitter her ex left her and wants to stick it to him.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

Who cares if their child is disrespectful? Is that what you actually mean? Something is wrong with you, seriously.

Something is wrong with you, that's for sure. Why are you so insecure over what DD calls her SD? Why is this so triggering for you? Did you lose your kids to another SD or something?

Why are you so insecure about respecting her dad? Why is this so triggering for you? Did someone leave you and you need a SD to fulfill his place?

Calling someone else a name has nothing to do with respecting a father. As long as she respects him, calls him what he wants to be called, she is doing her duty.

Once again - what she does in her own time with other people has no impact on her father.

So many petty insecure loser men out there.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

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Did the incel middle schoolers find this thread?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your ex may not like it but the reality is your DH is a role model in the life of your child. Children can never have too many people love them. Ex should want current DH and child to get along.
It might sting a bit but he should be adult enough to see nothing malicious is happening here and your kid respects new DH enough in her life to give him his new title.
I have a friend with a son the same age as DD who is remarried and her ex is also getting married this year. 12yo son calls Step dad and soon to be step mom by their first names for now.

I’m sure ex wants them to get along. That does not mean he needs to like the daughter calling the step dad that name.

No he doesn't need to like it. He still has no say in it.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

All he's doing is pushing her further away from him. She's going to be drawn to the kind, non-aggressive, non-petty Papa G even more.

Honestly, that sounds like the better outcome for DD. I don't have any time for parents who use their own petty issues to use against their children. Parents (incl step parents) should have the childs best interest at heart. This dad is just an egomaniac, and cares more about his title than his child. What an AHOLE.

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OP, your DD gets to decide what to call her stepfather, even if her dad doesn't like it. However, out of respect for her dad, she can change her phone contacts for her stepfather back to his first name, so that her dad doesn't have to see that she calls stepdad, Papa G.

You don't have to (and shouldn't) respond to your ex-H's rant.

I'm sorry that your DD was subjected to the yelling by her father. She didn't ask to have divorced parents and she didn't do anything wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

I don’t need control because my child respects me. You idiot.

So you care more about the titles your child uses for various people than her actual wellbeing? You think it's acceptable to berate and scold a child because you are an insecure tiny dick man? You are not a good parent if you think a title is more important than a child feeling safe, loved and would rather terrorize your child to exert your "control".