Happy wife, happy life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happy wife, happy life at one point in time was correct. However, today, at least among folks my generation (we are both 28 married 3 years) we both seek to make each other happy. I keep him happy as best as I can and he does the same for me as well.

Please come back in 20-30 years. You are literally still in the honeymoon phase.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't heard this phrase used by anyone under 50

I’m over 50 and don’t hear it used much either. I find it very misogynistic. I am not depending on someone else for my happiness.

Np

I’m also not sticking around for someone’s abuse or neglect trying to make me unhappy.

Agree with this flip.

It should be: don’t make her or him UNHAPPY.

If this is reasonably applied, ie I wanna LV bag waaaaaah VS I need you to be more present for the kids when you’re home and off of work, things will be good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happy wife, happy life at one point in time was correct. However, today, at least among folks my generation (we are both 28 married 3 years) we both seek to make each other happy. I keep him happy as best as I can and he does the same for me as well.

Please come back in 20-30 years. You are literally still in the honeymoon phase.

No she is not. She is the type of woman I wish I married. I wife is such a narcissistic f**k that at times I wonder if she mentally stable. Every single aspect of our marriage has been to keep her happy. I am not kidding. It’s not normal. I think the younger generation believe in equality which is a good think. Many of the women my generation are stuck in this cloud that they are queens that need to cared for unconditionally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Are you joking? Traditionally, men have dictated everything in a marriage. Surely you know that. As late as the 70's or so, wives couldn't even get credit in their own names . . . . in short, men have always been valuable.

Also, it's a silly saying. You poor thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Are you joking? Traditionally, men have dictated everything in a marriage. Surely you know that. As late as the 70's or so, wives couldn't even get credit in their own names . . . . in short, men have always been valuable.

Also, it's a silly saying. You poor thing.

You are absolutely correct. But would you agree though that today we value women’s mental health more than men’s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happy wife, happy life at one point in time was correct. However, today, at least among folks my generation (we are both 28 married 3 years) we both seek to make each other happy. I keep him happy as best as I can and he does the same for me as well.

Please come back in 20-30 years. You are literally still in the honeymoon phase.

No she is not. She is the type of woman I wish I married. I wife is such a narcissistic f**k that at times I wonder if she mentally stable. Every single aspect of our marriage has been to keep her happy. I am not kidding. It’s not normal. I think the younger generation believe in equality which is a good think. Many of the women my generation are stuck in this cloud that they are queens that need to cared for unconditionally.

Why on earth did you marry someone like that then? Was she a totally different person while dating?
What happened to her after marriage that she became unstable?

[Anonymous]

The flipped version is much more accepted because it captures more nuance…and communicates that it’s not all about the husband’s actions to make his wife happy, it’s also about the hell-hath-no-fury power wielded by an unhappy wife/mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happy wife, happy life at one point in time was correct. However, today, at least among folks my generation (we are both 28 married 3 years) we both seek to make each other happy. I keep him happy as best as I can and he does the same for me as well.

Please come back in 20-30 years. You are literally still in the honeymoon phase.

No she is not. She is the type of woman I wish I married. I wife is such a narcissistic f**k that at times I wonder if she mentally stable. Every single aspect of our marriage has been to keep her happy. I am not kidding. It’s not normal. I think the younger generation believe in equality which is a good think. Many of the women my generation are stuck in this cloud that they are queens that need to cared for unconditionally.

If your wife was so mentally unstable and terrible by your third year of marriage, I wonder why you married her, what signs you overlooked, and why continue to stay married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Are you joking? Traditionally, men have dictated everything in a marriage. Surely you know that. As late as the 70's or so, wives couldn't even get credit in their own names . . . . in short, men have always been valuable.

Also, it's a silly saying. You poor thing.

History is irrelevant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Only women, children, and dogs are unconditionally loved. Men have to show what they are worth. That's why most men these days are refusing to get married. There's really no upside for a man. There really isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happy wife, happy life at one point in time was correct. However, today, at least among folks my generation (we are both 28 married 3 years) we both seek to make each other happy. I keep him happy as best as I can and he does the same for me as well.

Please come back in 20-30 years. You are literally still in the honeymoon phase.

No she is not. She is the type of woman I wish I married. I wife is such a narcissistic f**k that at times I wonder if she mentally stable. Every single aspect of our marriage has been to keep her happy. I am not kidding. It’s not normal. I think the younger generation believe in equality which is a good think. Many of the women my generation are stuck in this cloud that they are queens that need to cared for unconditionally.

If your wife was so mentally unstable and terrible by your third year of marriage, I wonder why you married her, what signs you overlooked, and why continue to stay married.

Since PP said "she is the type of woman I wish I married," I assume he has asked himself the same questions many times. It's not relevant to his point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Goodness the men on this thread are so pouty.

Goodness the women on this thread are so dismissive of men's feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Only women, children, and dogs are unconditionally loved. Men have to show what they are worth. That's why most men these days are refusing to get married. There's really no upside for a man. There really isn't.

Women are unconditionally loved? By whom? Their mothers? Men fall out of love with their wives every day.

[Anonymous]

Please find me a man who does not innately prioritize his own happiness. I'll wait.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Goodness the men on this thread are so pouty.

Goodness the women on this thread are so dismissive of men's feelings.

Well when the man's feelings are "I'm mad because women are so crazy and we just have to take it and we can't demonstrate toxic masculinity anymore" then yeah I am dismissive of those feelings. When it's "my wife was a narcissist who demands that everything I do is for her happiness," I feel bad for him.