Any help with teens that sneak out?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how I feel about locking teens Inside but I kind of think you have a right to whatever surveillance and alarms on the outside of your house as you want.

[Anonymous]

My 15 yr old daughter has done this. We have cameras, they know how to get around them. I monitor her snap chat and find this really helps, you can tell if something is brewing. Now we are more consistent when she turns her phone in t us at night. Yeah we have the discussions, she tells is what she did and we discuss it all. She has consequences. She's a good kid with good grades however her decision making and impulse control aren't fabulous. Hopefully we can work with her through it and get to a better decision making place. I've absolutely learned not to emotionally lose it over this bc that will completely shut down the communication and her knowledge that our concerns are based on her safety and emotional well being.

[Anonymous]

If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

It’s so easy to say this until it happens, but the reality is your teen will get a burner phone and still go behind your back. And you will be under a false sense of security that they are learning their lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

Should I beat my kid so they are afraid of me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

They don’t need a phone to sneak out or meet up with friends. They’ll just do it the same way we did before cell phones.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, this is one of the reasons we live in a part of DC most of DCUM wouldn’t ever choose to live in. My kids know if they were to sneak out there’s a high chance that they’ll be shot and killed while wandering around.

? that's a really dumb reason. They could be shot for their coat, shoes, iphone while walking in broad daylight.

It’s a great way to learn how not to be stupid. Like don’t walk around with your iPhone in your hand at any time of day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

They don’t need a phone to sneak out or meet up with friends. They’ll just do it the same way we did before cell phones.

Exactly. Even more so - so they can talk with friends.

But kids that do it often and are struggling with school? That is a problem that you need to look into more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I snuck out constantly as a teen and ended up fine. So did my brothers. By the time I was a senior in HS we were all just literally walking out the back door because my parents didn’t care.

They were probably beaten down by all the sneaking out!

During the college years, I didn’t sneak out but sometimes I came home so late that I had to sneak in by climbing on to the porch roof and through my bedroom window. .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I literally don't understand this. Even if DD wanted to sneak out, none of her friends would want to meet in the middle of the night. They are more the bake brownies and watch a movie type.

Mostly Kids do it just for the sake of doing it. It’s about pushing boundaries they just don’t urge safety issues involved because they are teenagers. This isn’t some huge anomaly in behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

They don’t need a phone to sneak out or meet up with friends. They’ll just do it the same way we did before cell phones.

I have girls. I assure you they want their phones more than they want to sneak out and sit in the cold woods.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

They don’t need a phone to sneak out or meet up with friends. They’ll just do it the same way we did before cell phones.

I have girls. I assure you they want their phones more than they want to sneak out and sit in the cold woods.

They aren’t in the woods anymore. There are enough broken families and kids with a single parent who works 3rd shift. There are also weekday night parties. And if your daughter doesn’t have a phone, she either has a burner, or will use her friends phone while sneaking out to view/use all of her social media accounts. They usually have a friend doing streaks regardless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

They don’t need a phone to sneak out or meet up with friends. They’ll just do it the same way we did before cell phones.

I have girls. I assure you they want their phones more than they want to sneak out and sit in the cold woods.

They aren’t in the woods anymore. There are enough broken families and kids with a single parent who works 3rd shift. There are also weekday night parties. And if your daughter doesn’t have a phone, she either has a burner, or will use her friends phone while sneaking out to view/use all of her social media accounts. They usually have a friend doing streaks regardless.

No. Some (many) kids just don’t do this stuff, as much as you’d like to believe it’s all of them.

[Anonymous]

ADT, sensors on all wndows.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I caught my child sneaking out, even once, I would take their phone for 3 months minimum. Same with vaping, or other intentional lying/deception. I think the issue is all of your children are not afraid of you.

They don’t need a phone to sneak out or meet up with friends. They’ll just do it the same way we did before cell phones.

I have girls. I assure you they want their phones more than they want to sneak out and sit in the cold woods.

They aren’t in the woods anymore. There are enough broken families and kids with a single parent who works 3rd shift. There are also weekday night parties. And if your daughter doesn’t have a phone, she either has a burner, or will use her friends phone while sneaking out to view/use all of her social media accounts. They usually have a friend doing streaks regardless.

No. Some (many) kids just don’t do this stuff, as much as you’d like to believe it’s all of them.

No one said it is all of them. The point of this thread you twit is the kids that do sneak out, is taking away their phone helpful or not?