Always fun to see a group of your friends

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry - this is the worst feeling. I spend the summer in a neighborhood where I’m sometimes included and sometimes not (we’re sort of friends with the locals but not enough that they remember to include us all the time). Last night one family was having a party (driveway full of cars, etc) and I felt pretty bummed. I know it isn’t personal, but it feels so crappy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is a thread like this every week. I still don’t understand why anyone needs to share pics of social events with people who weren’t there. Share individual or family pics with your entire “friend” list and then share group pics with the group that went!

You don’t need to include everyone but you do need to have enough class to not rub it in people’s faces. So so strange.

Why is posting pictures of events with a group of friends akin to rubbing it in people’s faces? I love to see the memories of past girls’ trips, concerts with friends, trips out to the wineries, etc.. pop up on FB. I do not equate posting it to rubbing it in. If I wanted to rub it in, I’d take a few pics and text them to a few friends saying, “ Wish you were here!” (Or something else obnoxious)

On the other hand, I don’t post every family outing on FB…it’s just not as exciting.

You can set privacy settings so it still comes up in memories but everyone doesn’t have to see it. You can do what you want, but know that many of your friends think you’re very immature for posting all your friend outings.

What? I don’t think they are immature for posting their outings with other friends.

This is weird. Do you not have many friends IRL where seeing a post on social media is that psychologically scarring to you?

Zero f*cks are given when I see other friends out having fun. Some of you need more friends and thicker skin.

Repeat after me: BE THE INVITER.

No, I have plenty of friends and see them often. I honestly don’t care when I see people post, but they are immature.

Weren’t you taught not to talk about events in front of people if they weren’t invited? If you think it would be rude to talk about in front of a person in real life, then it’s the same thing online.

There is always going to be someone left out. I don’t see the point in making people feel bad just for the pleasure of a few likes. Why do you need the external validation when you already had a great time?

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Anonymous wrote:There is a thread like this every week. I still don’t understand why anyone needs to share pics of social events with people who weren’t there. Share individual or family pics with your entire “friend” list and then share group pics with the group that went!

You don’t need to include everyone but you do need to have enough class to not rub it in people’s faces. So so strange.

Why is posting pictures of events with a group of friends akin to rubbing it in people’s faces? I love to see the memories of past girls’ trips, concerts with friends, trips out to the wineries, etc.. pop up on FB. I do not equate posting it to rubbing it in. If I wanted to rub it in, I’d take a few pics and text them to a few friends saying, “ Wish you were here!” (Or something else obnoxious)

On the other hand, I don’t post every family outing on FB…it’s just not as exciting.

You can set privacy settings so it still comes up in memories but everyone doesn’t have to see it. You can do what you want, but know that many of your friends think you’re very immature for posting all your friend outings.

What? I don’t think they are immature for posting their outings with other friends.

This is weird. Do you not have many friends IRL where seeing a post on social media is that psychologically scarring to you?

Zero f*cks are given when I see other friends out having fun. Some of you need more friends and thicker skin.

Repeat after me: BE THE INVITER.

+1

Agree. Op, round up your people, and have your own fun!

I try not to post every little get together or fun time on social media, because some people do take offense. Some more than others. You can show interest in being invited next time. Did you offend anyone in the group (that you will admit to) OP?

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Anonymous wrote:There is a thread like this every week. I still don’t understand why anyone needs to share pics of social events with people who weren’t there. Share individual or family pics with your entire “friend” list and then share group pics with the group that went!

You don’t need to include everyone but you do need to have enough class to not rub it in people’s faces. So so strange.

Why is posting pictures of events with a group of friends akin to rubbing it in people’s faces? I love to see the memories of past girls’ trips, concerts with friends, trips out to the wineries, etc.. pop up on FB. I do not equate posting it to rubbing it in. If I wanted to rub it in, I’d take a few pics and text them to a few friends saying, “ Wish you were here!” (Or something else obnoxious)

On the other hand, I don’t post every family outing on FB…it’s just not as exciting.

You can set privacy settings so it still comes up in memories but everyone doesn’t have to see it. You can do what you want, but know that many of your friends think you’re very immature for posting all your friend outings.

What? I don’t think they are immature for posting their outings with other friends.

This is weird. Do you not have many friends IRL where seeing a post on social media is that psychologically scarring to you?

Zero f*cks are given when I see other friends out having fun. Some of you need more friends and thicker skin.

Repeat after me: BE THE INVITER.

+1

Agree. Op, round up your people, and have your own fun!

I try not to post every little get together or fun time on social media, because some people do take offense. Some more than others. You can show interest in being invited next time. Did you offend anyone in the group (that you will admit to) OP?

It’s not always the fault of the excluded person. Usually there is a mean girl, or group of them, who on purpose leave people out. The only way to make it stop is to co front them and embarrass them publicly - in person or on FB so everyone knows.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a thread like this every week. I still don’t understand why anyone needs to share pics of social events with people who weren’t there. Share individual or family pics with your entire “friend” list and then share group pics with the group that went!

You don’t need to include everyone but you do need to have enough class to not rub it in people’s faces. So so strange.

Why is posting pictures of events with a group of friends akin to rubbing it in people’s faces? I love to see the memories of past girls’ trips, concerts with friends, trips out to the wineries, etc.. pop up on FB. I do not equate posting it to rubbing it in. If I wanted to rub it in, I’d take a few pics and text them to a few friends saying, “ Wish you were here!” (Or something else obnoxious)

On the other hand, I don’t post every family outing on FB…it’s just not as exciting.

You can set privacy settings so it still comes up in memories but everyone doesn’t have to see it. You can do what you want, but know that many of your friends think you’re very immature for posting all your friend outings.

What? I don’t think they are immature for posting their outings with other friends.

This is weird. Do you not have many friends IRL where seeing a post on social media is that psychologically scarring to you?

Zero f*cks are given when I see other friends out having fun. Some of you need more friends and thicker skin.

Repeat after me: BE THE INVITER.

+1

Agree. Op, round up your people, and have your own fun!

I try not to post every little get together or fun time on social media, because some people do take offense. Some more than others. You can show interest in being invited next time. Did you offend anyone in the group (that you will admit to) OP?

It’s not always the fault of the excluded person. Usually there is a mean girl, or group of them, who on purpose leave people out. The only way to make it stop is to co front them and embarrass them publicly - in person or on FB so everyone knows.

You sound like you have a vendetta against someone and should probably seek help vs revenge. Choosing to embarrass someone publicly says more about you than them and it surely won’t get you on the invited list. (Particularly when there was no intent behind being excluded.)

You are right though—a lot of times no fault needs to be attributed to the person who was excluded.

Only you can control how other people make you feel…stop the self pity and move forward.


(OP made this seem like a bunch of girlfriends vs being excluded by her BFF4LIFE)