Much more emotional after a close death...normal?

[Anonymous]

My mother died early this year. It was awful and I've been grieving ever since.
I've also found myself terrified of losing other people in my life.
I worry more when my sister and father travel.
My dad had a surgery today and Upon finding out that he is ok (thank God), I broke down and cried like a baby.
I've noticed that since her death, things make me cry more easily than they used to. It's almost as if I was unblocked.
The people in my life treat me as if this is abnormal or strange. Is this normal reaction after a close death?

[Anonymous]

It's very normal. My mother died when I was 25 and I was and still am very concerned about accidents etc. It makes one more aware that life is short. It's anxiety and grief. Personally I still have anxiety about such things which probably isn't normal given it was 15 years ago. But certainly you are only several months into the grieving process and it is totally normal

[Anonymous]

PTSD?

[Anonymous]

Very very normal. I recommend a grief counselor if you are finding it interferes with your life. Hugs! Glad your dad is OK!

[Anonymous]

In my humble opinion, each & every person deals w/loss in their own unique way.

In other words, we ALL grieve differently + there is really no normal or abnormal way to grieve.

Losing ones Mother can be very traumatic for anyone.
No one should make you feel as if you are not grieving in a "normal" fashion.

My sincere condolences on the loss of your Mother.
The pain of losing her will never fully go away, yet it will hurt a lot less w/the passage of time.

I promise.

[Anonymous]

I was a complete mess after my mother died. You are totally normal.

It will get better with time. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My father died suddenly almost a year ago and it seems okay some of the time, but it is also horrible some of the time. The only thing that seems to help is the passage of time. Your reactions are completely normal. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like ptsd. Do mid your mom die suddenly? Have you seen a therapist?

[Anonymous]

I was a wreck for a couple of years after my father died. I've evened out now, but still burst into tears at the mention of him.

[Anonymous]

Of course it's normal. Both my parents died suddenly and my health anxiety, especially about loved ones, is much higher than that of those who've never had this happen. I see a therapist and take meds, and it's not crippling, but it's there. Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a wreck for a couple of years after my father died. I've evened out now, but still burst into tears at the mention of him.

My mom died 30 years ago this fall, and I can still cry when I talk about her. It can last a long time.

Op, you're less than a year out. That's still early in the grieving process. Try journaling - it really can help you process the emotions. As a wise therapist once told MeV the only way past grief is through it.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal, OP. Big Hugs to everyone. I get teary-eyed reading these posts.

[Anonymous]

It's very normal. I've found that friends who haven't experienced the loss of someone close really have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like ptsd.

Umm, no. Incredibly traumatic and potentially life-changing? Yes. PTSD, no. PTSD requires an event that places the individual in danger of immediate death or serious bodily injury.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like ptsd.

Umm, no. Incredibly traumatic and potentially life-changing? Yes. PTSD, no. PTSD requires an event that places the individual in danger of immediate death or serious bodily injury.

Are you a therapist? My brother was killed in a firey accident. I was diagnosed with PTSD.