Why isn't he proposing?
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Anonymous
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Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and are moving in together in less then a week. Back in the end of April, my best friend let it slip that my boyfriend reached out to her regarding my ring size and told her he was planning on buying me a ring. A week later, he texted her sending her the picture of the ring he got and told her where he planned on proposing. She didn't show me the ring or tell me any details at all. Now fast forward two months later.....he still hasn't proposed. I know that some guys wait and all that but he's had this ring for over 2 months now and has yet to propose. 2 weekends ago I thought he was going to as we were out having a picnic dinner by the water and he was acting just weird and off but it didn't end up happening. I'm just really confused and wishing my friend hasn't slipped up as it's pretty much all I think about now.
Is there any good reason as to why he may still not have proposed even though he's had the ring for months ? |
Anonymous
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How old are you? I can't believe your friend would betray your BF's trust like that. That is very very low.
My DH bough the ring in November and didn't propose until April. Maybe your BF is waiting until the night you move in together or the night before so you aren't "living in sin"? You really need to step back and stop trying to control the situation. He bought the ring. It will happen. |
Anonymous
| Your "friend" is crappy and immature for letting this "slip", and you're a fool for moving in with BF without being engaged and having a wedding date set. |
Anonymous
| Holding on to it for two months is nothing. My fiancé had mine for about that long and just wanted to wait for the right day. I have a friend whose now-husband held onto it for nearly a full year. Guys are weird about what is "the right time." Just chill out. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Why don't you just ask him if he's ever thought about getting married? |
Anonymous
Technically they still would be living in sin because they aren't married. OP, try to relax don't ruin things stressing over this. |
Anonymous
All 3 involved sound immature. I'd be willing to bet the friend is a little jealous. |
Anonymous
| You sound spoiled, needy, and tiresome. |
Anonymous
| Maybe he's waiting until you move in together. |
Anonymous
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I (female) took my best friend (male) ring shopping when he first decided he was going to propose to his then gf. We found the ring on one of our shopping trips in November and he didn't propose to her until March of the following year. He just wanted to wait until he "felt" it was right, and that's when he felt it. They then got married a few months later in August. At no point did I let anything slip, to anyone, because I knew that there wasn't a specific proposal date set in his mind, he just had to have the right "gut feeling" and I'm guessing that is what your significant other is waiting for, too.
tl;dr Calm the fuck down. It'll happen when he's ready for it to happen. |
Anonymous
| OP, why don't you propose? |
Anonymous
Another +1 |
Anonymous
| He has decided to marry you unless YOU screw it up! By holding on to it he is essentially creating a "cooling off" period during which he is most likely observing you (behavior, attitude, etc.) and evaluating his decision to marry you. If you can play the game for a few more months and keep your crazy hidden he will most likely propose to you and then you can let your true self show. |
Anonymous
| Millennials, right? |