Relationship with half-siblings

[Anonymous]

What is your relationship like with half brother/sister? How long have you known them? How did you find out about them?

I'm interested in hearing people's experience on this. I do not have a real relationship with my half sister. Its not from lack of trying though. Her hate for our father, who neither one of us lived with, exceeds her desire to want a relationship. She feels that he favors me, and thus wants nothing to do with either one of us. So she effectively wrote us out of her life. I can't imagine how she feels about my father. It makes me sad that we cannot have a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I have two sets of half siblings. The ones I lived with the majority of the time (my Mother's kids), I have a normal sibling, close relationship with. The ones my Father went on to have, I'm not very close to as I only saw them every other weekend growing up. It just didn't stick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two sets of half siblings. The ones I lived with the majority of the time (my Mother's kids), I have a normal sibling, close relationship with. The ones my Father went on to have, I'm not very close to as I only saw them every other weekend growing up. It just didn't stick.

OP here: Interesting, I never thought of siblings who share the same mothers, but different fathers, as 'half." Of course this makes sense, but I guess growing up together with the same parent kind of takes away the distant feeling of being "half."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your relationship like with half brother/sister? How long have you known them? How did you find out about them?

I'm interested in hearing people's experience on this. I do not have a real relationship with my half sister. Its not from lack of trying though. Her hate for our father, who neither one of us lived with, exceeds her desire to want a relationship. She feels that he favors me, and thus wants nothing to do with either one of us. So she effectively wrote us out of her life. I can't imagine how she feels about my father. It makes me sad that we cannot have a relationship.

My situation is somewhat similar to yours. Neither of us have ever lived with my father. She is under the impression that he favors me and gives me more money. The reality is that our mothers are from different socio-economic backgrounds, so any difference when we were growing up were due to that. My dad IS NOT the type to try and even things out. He is also stingy as hell. Any difference now is due to our choice of careers.

A family even brought this all to a head - she no longer speaks to me and stopped speaking to him for a period of time, until she needed money.

[Anonymous]

My half sibling is dead to me. His father was crazy. He married a psychopath and he is a sociopath.

[Anonymous]

I have a half sister 12 years older than me (I have two younger full brothers). I didn't know she existed until we went to visit her when I was about 12 years old. That was a shock. I probably only saw her 2 or 3 times until I went to college. After that it wasn't until after I graduated college and drove across the country, stopping at her place, that I saw her again or had much of a relationship with her. Now its 10 years later and we exchange Christmas cards and an email 1 or 2x per year.

[Anonymous]

I'm about 20 years older than my half-sisters. They're nice enough, but I'm more like an aunt to them.

As an aside, it was tough to watch them grow up and have the relationship with my father that I wish I had. But the situation didn't allow for that.

[Anonymous]

I was 19 when my half-brother was born. Now I'm 33 and he's 14.

We both enjoy each other's company a lot, but that wasn't really the case until a few years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My half sibling is dead to me. His father was crazy. He married a psychopath and he is a sociopath.

So do you actively ignore the fact that you have a half sibling? Did he do something to hurt you or your family directly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a half sister 12 years older than me (I have two younger full brothers). I didn't know she existed until we went to visit her when I was about 12 years old. That was a shock. I probably only saw her 2 or 3 times until I went to college. After that it wasn't until after I graduated college and drove across the country, stopping at her place, that I saw her again or had much of a relationship with her. Now its 10 years later and we exchange Christmas cards and an email 1 or 2x per year.

The age difference makes a relationship quite difficult. My only sibling is a sister who is 15 years older than me. We are not really that close. We both effectively grew up as only children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 19 when my half-brother was born. Now I'm 33 and he's 14.

We both enjoy each other's company a lot, but that wasn't really the case until a few years ago.

How did you come to develop a relationship with him? Did you just naturally click? Did you or he make an effort to maintain the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My half sibling is dead to me. His father was crazy. He married a psychopath and he is a sociopath.

So do you actively ignore the fact that you have a half sibling? Did he do something to hurt you or your family directly?

Yes. He hurt us and he was in the wrong and he cut ties with us so that is the end.