Tackiest thing I have ever seen! (skip to paragraph 3 for tacky part.)

[Anonymous]

My mom died a little over a year ago. My stepdad and her were married for 30 years. Less than four weeks after her death, I discovered that he had been texting her best friend for almost six months. Not friendly "how is your sick wife?" texting, but "You are my soul mate" texting. I found out because he got drunk and left his phone out buzzing when he went to bed, and I saw a questionable text from her and I read the history. It was disturbing and sad on many levels. The way he bad mouthed my poor mother was so sad. But I kept it to myself, and pretended to know nothing. A few weeks later I was at his home again, this time collecting "All my mother's crap" as he put it, and he told me that most likely he would be marrying my mom's friend the day after my mother's memorial three months from then. I just looked at him and said "I hope you find happiness", I mean, what was I supposed to say? I don't want him to be alone, but it isn't like he honored my mother. Of course the weekend of my Mother's memorial, her friend flew in from out of town and immediately made everything about herself. My brothers and I were not allowed to grieve for fear she would feel uncomfortable, she also made it pretty clear that my step dad was not what she expected. They only had communicated through texting and phone calls. The fact that he is a 74 year old wrinkled up old man didn't register with her. (She is 62) So after the funeral she told me that she had made a huge mistake and that my step dad grossed her out and she was heading back to Kansas (on her broomstick) soon and the wedding was off. She also announced it on Facebook. My step dad was heartbroken and I ended up having a major falling out with him that was 30 years in the making.

Two weeks ago I got a text from my Mom's friend telling me that the wedding is on, and I need to be happy for her. Whatever, I just told her good luck, and she then accused me of trying to write her and my step dad off. I can't believe how little tact this woman has, can you not at least give your best friend's kids some time to grieve? I have never met a more self centered person in my life. I don't care if they get married, but it is the way she refuses to acknowledge how important and special my late mother was to all of us. She was the glue that held our family together, even her step kids adored her. She made things beautiful and cozy for everyone who visited them, and I talked to her daily. Her friend now claims that she knew more about my mom than I did, and that my mother wasn't as happy as she appeared. This, I believe is a total lie, I have my mom's journals and letters. She was happy and loved my step dad. Now he was a philanderer most of their marriage, he never physically cheated, but he absolutely had emotional affairs that my mom knew about.

My brothers and I were not invited to this wedding. We were invited to the previous one, but this one she did not even ask if we would attend. The only reason I have known about it is because of Facebook. She has posted a barrage of photos. A 74 year old man in his 4th wedding and a 62 year old woman in her 3rd wedding, and the bride wore a full on white wedding gown complete with veil over her face. My step dad paid $15k for the wedding (I know because his son told me) and that money came from my mother's hard earned savings (She was the bread winner for 25 years) There was champagne and a huge cake, and presents. She registered at BBandB and Target (lol) like a blushing first time bride. No one from his family except his daughter came to the wedding. I just can't imagine doing all this to marry the Crypt Keeper. But hey, its just my opinion. I will survive, and my mother is probably LOLing from heaven anyway. Those two deserve each other, and I wish them everything they have coming to them and more.

please excuse any typos or grammatical errors I wrote this upset.

[Anonymous]

Honey, you need to unfriend this woman. Not just hide her, but unfriend her. She is no friend of yours. Focus on your brothers and step-siblings and the beautiful memories you have of your mom. Ignore the rest.

I am a little overwhelmed at how 100% of how good my advice is here. Listen to me. I am right.

[Anonymous]

They suck. Don't spoil your life holding on to anger and resentment toward them. They sound like losers.

[Anonymous]

Cut them both off now, before they come crawling back to you for money or a sympathetic ear. You're done here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honey, you need to unfriend this woman. Not just hide her, but unfriend her. She is no friend of yours. Focus on your brothers and step-siblings and the beautiful memories you have of your mom. Ignore the rest.

I am a little overwhelmed at how 100% of how good my advice is here. Listen to me. I am right.

Yes you are so right!! I will go forward trying to do this. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Ugh, how utterly bizarre and weird. Talk about personality disorders all over the place--I agree unfriend and block. These people add nothing to your life.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry.
May your mother rest in peace.

[Anonymous]

I could have written this post about my father and his online mail order bride.

It is sad at how many men do this kind of thing and how evil some women are.

Toxic people do not need your time and attention. When you are ready, forgive your stepfather so you can have peace.

Continue your relationship with him only on your terms, but know and accept that she will be running things behind the scenes.

Sever any contact with her. You don't have to associate with evil people who spread nothing but ill will and unhappiness.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry for your loss. The silver lining in this is your mom left a beautiful legacy in the bond you have with your stepbrothers. She would be proud of that. You can build moving forward with those who will respect your mom and her legacy. This "friend" and your "stepdad" (which he isn't any longer, and that is another loss unfair to deal with right now) - this relationship seems toxic right now. Step away, de friend or hide posts block of you don't want to welcome drama.

And at some point, in time if you want to have a discussion you can always write a letter when your thoughts are clear.

You mom sounds like she was a great woman. I'm sorry you're dealing with this in your time of emotional repair and reconstruction.

[Anonymous]

Unfriend, block and ignore. Go on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Agree - unfriend and block. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. My mother died recently as well and it is a loss like no other (and my dad's new girlfriend is tacky and awful, too, which is painful).

[Anonymous]

So old ghouls and zombies are fucking and sucking and we should care about all of this deadzone drama why, exactly?