I am attracted to this girl

[Anonymous]

I am very attracted to this Indian girl in my office..I think she is from India..But she doesn't look like one. She has light skin (not very white but kind of yellowish tone)..I didn't know earlier that in India too, people have light skin. She also looks very modern ..meaning her dressing sense is not same compared to other Indians. I asked around and found out that she is from Mumbai and have been told that people from Mumbai are different than rest of India. Is this true?

I am originally from Germany and English is not my first language.
How should I approach her? I heard Indian girls are very reserved. Please advise...

[Anonymous]

My advice is to be less hung up on her heritage/ ethnicity and get to know her. If you want to get to know her better, go for it! Just ask her to have lunch with you one day and go from there.

[Anonymous]

Indian woman here. Skin tone comes in all different shades. Some Indians are very light skinned, some are very dark skinned.

Mumbai is a huge city, like New York City. Very urban. So, she may dress more modern and more modern views of the world. But she could also be very traditional in her thinking - you just have to get to know her like you would anyone else.

Approach her respectfully, like you would any other woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice is to be less hung up on her heritage/ ethnicity and get to know her. If you want to get to know her better, go for it! Just ask her to have lunch with you one day and go from there.

OP, I am not hung up on her ethnicity but was very very surprised to find out that she is from India. Its just that I didn't know people from India can also look like this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Indian woman here. Skin tone comes in all different shades. Some Indians are very light skinned, some are very dark skinned.

Mumbai is a huge city, like New York City. Very urban. So, she may dress more modern and more modern views of the world. But she could also be very traditional in her thinking - you just have to get to know her like you would anyone else.

Approach her respectfully, like you would any other woman.

Thanks. She doesn't wear a ring. So can I safely assume that she is not engaged?

[Anonymous]

Stay away!

[Anonymous]

If you are a grown man, please do not approach or take an interest in girls. Find women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stay away!

OP, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a grown man, please do not approach or take an interest in girls. Find women.

I am sure she is mature women. I am still not at that stage to call anyone women. I am recent college graduate and we still say girls instead of women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Indian woman here. Skin tone comes in all different shades. Some Indians are very light skinned, some are very dark skinned.

Mumbai is a huge city, like New York City. Very urban. So, she may dress more modern and more modern views of the world. But she could also be very traditional in her thinking - you just have to get to know her like you would anyone else.

Approach her respectfully, like you would any other woman.

Thanks. She doesn't wear a ring. So can I safely assume that she is not engaged?

Not necessarily. In Mumbai it is a gold necklace that indicates whether someone is married or not - not a ring. So you might need to do a bit of research.

[Anonymous]

Don't come across as predatory. If she works in your office, you must know some people in common. Ask others about her - if she's single, what's she like, etc. Your attraction is only physical at this stage, so you need to get to know her before you decide if you are attracted. Do things in groups first (don't ask her out individually).

Try using "lady" instead of "girl". People will think you mean someone under 18 if you say "girl".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't come across as predatory. If she works in your office, you must know some people in common. Ask others about her - if she's single, what's she like, etc. Your attraction is only physical at this stage, so you need to get to know her before you decide if you are attracted. Do things in groups first (don't ask her out individually).

Try using "lady" instead of "girl". People will think you mean someone under 18 if you say "girl".

OP, just ask her out for coffee. No need to beat around the bush here. And most people don't care about girl/lady vs. boy/guy/man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Indian woman here. Skin tone comes in all different shades. Some Indians are very light skinned, some are very dark skinned.

Mumbai is a huge city, like New York City. Very urban. So, she may dress more modern and more modern views of the world. But she could also be very traditional in her thinking - you just have to get to know her like you would anyone else.

Approach her respectfully, like you would any other woman.

Thanks. She doesn't wear a ring. So can I safely assume that she is not engaged?

Not necessarily. In Mumbai it is a gold necklace that indicates whether someone is married or not - not a ring. So you might need to do a bit of research.

OP, She does not wear gold necklace. I see a necklace but that looks like fashion necklace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't come across as predatory. If she works in your office, you must know some people in common. Ask others about her - if she's single, what's she like, etc. Your attraction is only physical at this stage, so you need to get to know her before you decide if you are attracted. Do things in groups first (don't ask her out individually).

Try using "lady" instead of "girl". People will think you mean someone under 18 if you say "girl".

I have another "lady" friend. I think she is friends with her. I will ask her.

[Anonymous]

Gold necklace PP here. Yes it looks like shes probably not engaged - she might have a boyfriend though?