Can guests take home leftovers if they've cooked the dish?

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I host people for the entire weekend although some guests are local. I invite everyone over for Friday leftovers.

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Cooks have first dibs on their own dishes.

Actually, hosts have first dibs on leftovers and can offer them back to the cook/divvy them up to guests/or keep them. I usually return the guests' containers with any food inside that night so we won't have to arrange a pick up.

Nope. The host does not have dibs on food they have not prepared. The host may or may not receive a host gift, depending on whether the event is rotated between homes, or is between people who are very close to each other and therefore under no formal etiquette rules.

But just because you're hosting doesn't make you automatically the recipient of the food that people bring to your house.

[Anonymous]

My family always asks if anyone wants leftovers. It’s not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

I typically get out saran wrap and cover the various dishes and ask the people to bring them home with whatever leftover food in it. This way I don’t need to clean their serving dish.

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When I host I prefer that people take their contributions home. I don’t need a mishmash of leftovers clogging the fridge.

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Anonymous wrote:I have zero interest in leftovers, so when I host I try to pawn stuff off on everyone else. I will usually just throw a little bit of each dish into containers and stop thinking about it forever. However, if you really want to take the rest of your creamed corn home with you, I'm happy to oblige.

Soooo American.

Not fighting over food? That's okay with me.

Who said anyone is “fighting”? It’s a way to share their togetherness.

Arguing over who deserves the leftovers or otherwise feeling resentful about them? That's not togetherness I need.

You don’t get it. Fighting and “arguing” never happens. What kind of family/friends do you have??

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Anonymous wrote:To answer your title question, no. Stop trying to take home food! To answer the question in the body of the post about if it's potluck, I don't know - bc I would never attend a potluck.

You sound terrible. I happily give away food. I don’t care at all…if you leave it I will eat it, if you take it good!

Why wouldn't you attend a potluck? Are you not confident in your ability to cook?

I wouldn't attend a potluck because I don't have confidence in other people's cleanliness or food safety.. I've seen way too many people's cats walking on kitchen counters, way too many people walk out of public bathrooms without washing their hands, etc.

Meow!

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Anonymous wrote:I have zero interest in leftovers, so when I host I try to pawn stuff off on everyone else. I will usually just throw a little bit of each dish into containers and stop thinking about it forever. However, if you really want to take the rest of your creamed corn home with you, I'm happy to oblige.

Soooo American.

Not fighting over food? That's okay with me.

Who said anyone is “fighting”? It’s a way to share their togetherness.

Arguing over who deserves the leftovers or otherwise feeling resentful about them? That's not togetherness I need.

You don’t get it. Fighting and “arguing” never happens. What kind of family/friends do you have??

The kind who don't care about who does or doesn't get leftovers. What's "sooooo American" here? Not wanting them in the first place?

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Anonymous wrote:I have zero interest in leftovers, so when I host I try to pawn stuff off on everyone else. I will usually just throw a little bit of each dish into containers and stop thinking about it forever. However, if you really want to take the rest of your creamed corn home with you, I'm happy to oblige.

Soooo American.

Not fighting over food? That's okay with me.

Who said anyone is “fighting”? It’s a way to share their togetherness.

Arguing over who deserves the leftovers or otherwise feeling resentful about them? That's not togetherness I need.

You don’t get it. Fighting and “arguing” never happens. What kind of family/friends do you have??

The kind who don't care about who does or doesn't get leftovers. What's "sooooo American" here? Not wanting them in the first place?

Your mindset

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Anonymous wrote:I have zero interest in leftovers, so when I host I try to pawn stuff off on everyone else. I will usually just throw a little bit of each dish into containers and stop thinking about it forever. However, if you really want to take the rest of your creamed corn home with you, I'm happy to oblige.

Soooo American.

Not fighting over food? That's okay with me.

Who said anyone is “fighting”? It’s a way to share their togetherness.

Arguing over who deserves the leftovers or otherwise feeling resentful about them? That's not togetherness I need.

You don’t get it. Fighting and “arguing” never happens. What kind of family/friends do you have??

The kind who don't care about who does or doesn't get leftovers. What's "sooooo American" here? Not wanting them in the first place?

Your mindset

So not wanting them? More for you then. I'm glad someone will eat them, but I don't want them.

[Anonymous]

If it saves me from having to clean up another dish
they can take it all.

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Anonymous wrote:Not unless the host gives ok. The only possible exception is if you brought the dishware, and are trying to be smooth and say I can take this home and wash it...

Agree. We had someone bring a cake to a dinner party we hosted and they took home their cakepan and the remaining cake which made us sad because it was delicious. If the dish isn’t tasty, please take it home

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Anonymous wrote:This is a spinoff of the active thread about in-laws showing up with containers to take home Thanksgiving leftovers. In that thread, the OP has prepared all of the food. What if Thanksgiving is more of a potluck? In my family, I host the festivities because I have the largest home and can easily accommodate everyone. I cook several dishes, but my in-laws bring the turkey, stuffing, and other dishes. They've always brought containers to take home leftovers.

Although I guess I would have preferred that they ask, I figured it was their right since they made the food and we are family. There are plenty of leftovers for all of us. Is the etiquette such that if the meal is served in one's own home then one controls the leftover process regardless of who made what?

If you make it it goes home with you.

This. We usually ask around if anyone wants whatever we brought with us, but we always take home what we made.

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Cooks have first dibs on their own dishes.

+1 especially if others didn’t bring anything much.

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Anonymous wrote:Not unless the host gives ok. The only possible exception is if you brought the dishware, and are trying to be smooth and say I can take this home and wash it...

Agree. We had someone bring a cake to a dinner party we hosted and they took home their cakepan and the remaining cake which made us sad because it was delicious. If the dish isn’t tasty, please take it home

That was rude of them.